Thread: How do you talk to Chicks at the Gym?

yeah i tried the nice car line this chick parked right in front of me and i used the line and she said oh your cars nice too(yeah right she was driving a beamer i have a japanese car LOL)

i sense she was just trying to be nice. well in short i did pull off her email address but i kinda did it just to test the waters not really cuz i was feelin her.

see the problem is in these gyms the girls tend to put on their ipods and just kinda zone out and just focus on running on their machines and listening to their ipod until they are done running? its rare that they are working out where us dudes are.

You could stand in front of them and mouth words and point and be expression full and when they take their ear plugs out you keep going; mouthing nothing ,then smile and say 'I just wanted to meet you ,"hi Im Tua mon your free guide to to the city this afternoon".

Just talk to them. Start an interesting conversation. It's no biggie.

Originally Posted by Andre

You could stand in front of them and mouth words and point and be expression full and when they take their ear plugs out you keep going; mouthing nothing ,then smile and say 'I just wanted to meet you ,"hi Im Tua mon your free guide to to the city this afternoon".

ahah.. i thought this was a silly thread until i read this.. reminded me of this one time i was with my buddy and we were working out at the college weight room..

and this girl was working out, real cute, and she had a t-shirt on of my favorite band.. which isn't a largely popular band, so i was impressed.. and i finally got the balls to just mention "hey, nice shirt"..

and she just looks at me weird.. and i say it again.. then she finally TAKES HER HEADPHONES off, and is like "what did you say?"

yeah.. felt like a moron in front of everyone.. it was just supposed to be a smooth casual compliment heh..

Originally Posted by Pacstraightleft

Just talk to them. Start an interesting conversation. It's no biggie.

LOL u of all people in this forum should theres a HUGE difference between trying to get digits at the ontario mills mall and rodeo drive.

just a tad bit more degree of difficulty at rodeo dont ya think my budy? LOL

The way you have described the women why would you even worry about their reaction. There not the type you would want a long term relationship with as they sound very shallow. That should put you at ease and therefore you would not give a toss if they turn you away.

Originally Posted by DAVIDTUA

ok my friends i appreciate all of your responses so far, but can we keep in mind the circumstance is its a upscale health club in LA.

MEANING:
1) the most stuck up people in the universe
2) the fakest girls in the universe
3) the most gold diggin females in the universe
4) every girls a wannabe actress/model or they might actually be legit
5) the average girl here has about literally atleast minimum 5 or 6 guys at once kissing their asses and buying everything for them from all their meals, paying all their bills, their car payments, mortgage, vacations etc.
6) they have the what can u do for me attitude
7) u must have atleast a $60,000 car not from the US.

so in other words if you think youre the MAN wherever you are you'll get SHOT DOWN 9/10 times here in LA.

ok now that being said lets try it again my buds LOL

RIGHT, those circumstances have made it simple to give you advice...

Pick your target.. Watch her routine.. When she's getting off a treadmill or bike or something, just calmly walk past, turn to her, look at her lower body then back up at her head, and just say
"You've still got a lot of work to do"... Then smile and walk off so she gets the feeling your joking, BUT, she also gets paranoid..

TRUST ME! It seems like you'll get a slap, but this would work 1000000 times better than walking past and saying "woah, why are you on the treadmill, you look perfect already".. Nope nope nope..

You need to figure out a way to tease these girls and bring them down JUST a peg, but in a playful way.. DO NOT compliment them whatever you do... If you compliment one of them on something, make it like "oh, it's so cute how you can barely lift any weights on etc machine"... That's it.. still teasing her.

You want to come across like some teasing guy who's known her for years and isn't affraid to give her shit.

Like you said, these girls are HIGHLY confident! They are not super low self esteem where they are going to go home and cry after you make a joke.. They'll get their confidence back very quickly...
And they'll realise 1) your the only guy in the club that really noticed her 2) Your probably the only guy that wasn't impressed with her 3) I garauntee she'll be trying to impress you after that... It's subconcious and automatic for them.

ALSO, tease them about their clothes.. If one has like, a big fluro stripe on their tops or shorts or whatever, say to her like "woah, the 80's gym is down the road"..

You want to get that reaction like, they want to laugh, punch you in the arm, and get a little angry as well... But because it's a little funny and you aren't taking it serious, she won't be able to literally get mad.

Here is also the key, DON'T say, "ahh i'm only kidding" if she gets mad... You've just lost it right their... Break the tension if it's to much for you by saying something like, BUT, you've got really cute ankles so it makes up for it...

Anyway, i'm about to go to work but i'll answer more later... Just some food for thought for now...

I'm going to be thinking about this one all day now and have the perfect routine for you by tonight...

Seriously though, these girls are used to being complimented and guys falling over themselves.. They are NOT used to being teased.. It will break their reality down very quickly, and will want to get validation from you as soon as possible.
SOME, girls just can't take a joke.. They have their head so far tucked up in their reality of "they are the best in the world", that they have already labeled ANYONE an asshole that even JOKES about them not being the best... If you get one of these girls, they are probably the best to win over as shattering their reality and then picking up the pieces they will be obsessed with you,,, but it's probably not worth it anyway.. If a girl reallllly genuinelly gets shitty with you, either you weren't funny and said it rudely, or she just has NO personality and lives through her ego all day..
Either way just be like "woah, I saw you from over their and thought you looked like a fun, adaptable chick, but I was mistaken.. Pleasure meeting you"... Then just walk off!! Don't appologize ever otherwise your admiting you were wrong or rude.. You weren't!! You were just having fun in your guy way... If a fun guy doesn't fit into her reality, that's her problem..

If you just use the above line and walk off and continue on with your workout, you might even find 25 - 50% of the time the girl will come up later and appologize for being rude, and say something like "i've just had a really bad day, I didn't mean to snap"..
See, appologizing will just confirm in her mind you were an asshole.. Saying you were just having fun and thought she would enjoy it leaves her with the impression that she really WAS being an asshole for snapping at you,,, and will want to make it up to you...

You just can't give into these girls... They are pretty and have everything handed to them on a plate, but RIGHT DEEP DOWN,,, they are as insecure and unsure of themselves as the rest of us.. They just have so much of their reality feeding into their ego, that they beleive they are this superiour being... Don't buy into it, and don't feed into her ego, and you'll have half the gym chasing you.!!


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Originally Posted by Master

The way you have described the women why would you even worry about their reaction. There not the type you would want a long term relationship with as they sound very shallow. That should put you at ease and therefore you would not give a toss if they turn you away.

greats points bud, but im not traveling as much as i used to, quite scarry with how bad the economy is right now my company isnt making me do as much as before? so in other words i have to either get with these girls or drive either about 60miles east to where pacstraightleft lives where the girls out there dont give a shit about what kind of car a guy drives, and how much money they make or drive 90miles south to san diego where they are more laid back as a beach town. or i just actually tolerate these LA women and go for them LOL

Originally Posted by DAVIDTUA

i was also thinking maybe catching them going in or out of the gym and complimenting their car if they drive like a brand new BMW or sports car just kinda just be like WOW nice ride blah blah how much was it? you must me sucessful blah blah?

what do u guys think?

no no no, complementing a women may result in her thinking your not her equal. That would never get you in her panties.

theres this one dude i always see another brother short, chubby, older dude id guess hes about late 30's or so. he's always just walking up to chicks saying hey wheres your boyfriend at? thats his opening line.

when he does this the girls tend to get creeped out and say some BS back to him so he'll leave them alone LOL

id never use a retarded opening line like that ever, but in a way it kinda makes sense that a girl working out by herself might make u wonder?

another girl i know told me that when dudes try to step to her at the gym she says her boyfriend is a personal trainer to deter them from trying to provide working out tips.

As I said, I thought about this one at work today (yes I have a boring job), so get your pen ready.

The Gym is a PERFECT place for "social proof".
Women have been programed to subconsciously analyze situations for 100,000's of years... Women may look like they are zoned into their workout and ignoring everything (to avoid people interupting them), but if you went and asked any one of them, they could immediately point out every single attractive girl and high status guy in the whole place.. Even if she doesn't know how, her mind automatically knows these things...
If a high status guy came walking into a tribe 10,000 years ago, the women would automatically be able to tell just by how other people are reacting to them and the vibe the put out..

Here's the best things you can do.

1. Take a lady friend to work out with you... Better yet, take 2 or 3. Even if you have to pay for them to get in yourself, it'll do wonders for your social status just having a couple of girls talking to you a fair bit while your in the gym... Don't hang over the machine's while they are exercising.. Do your own thing, and try as much as you can to have them hanging over YOUR machine. Even if they aren't hugely attractive and other women in the gym feel like they are more attractive than your girls, it will still trigger their "social proof" gene, which tells them that "hey, that guy has girls around him that seem to like him.. Obviously he is safe and not some weird murderer".. They may also feel a little jelous, consiously or unconsiously that those girls are getting attention from you and they aren't.
A HUGE thing of women being attracted to men is knowing that they have other women in their life, and that other women accept you.

2. Make friends with as many guys in the gym as possible.. Say hi to them all the time, work in with them on different machines, ask for advice from them, give them advice.. Basically just be really friendly with as many guys as possible. Especially the ones that YOU perceive as high status.
When you walk into the gym and 50% of the guys in their say Hi to you as you walk through, girls are going to notice this and it says a TONNE of good things about you... 1) you are socially adapt 2) other men accept you 3) you have a big social circle, which women are wired to appreciate (back 10,000 years ago, a big social circle meant increased chances of survival 4) helping other guys out shows your a bit of a leader.. A leader of men is a HUGELY attractive quality, showing you in a "alpha male" light.

3. Make friends with ALL the staff at the gym. Apart from the huge roid heads, the gym staff and instructors are the next people on the social totem pole in the gym... If you walk in and are chatting and saying Hi to all the instructors, again it's showing a TONNE of good things.

4. Especially make friends with the female instructors. Ask them for help often and then while they are showing you, ask them how their night is going etc etc. Lean back in your machine and have them look like they are the ones eager to talk to you. This is conveying to all the other women in the gym that other high status women see value in you.

5. If eventually you do have other women talking to you, don't stand next to them while they work out like you are "gaming them", try to create the situation as often as possible where you are working out, and they look like they are gaming you.


It might take a couple of weeks to build up a good friendly relationship with most of the guys and staff at the gym, and convince a female friend or 2 to come with you to the gym,,,, but once you get all this happening, TRUST ME, women in the gym WILL have noticed you.. And will actually think about you on occassions during their workout, and will be PLEASED that you say hello to them.. Their brains will be like "hey, this high status guy is talking to me, I better say hi to him"...
As apposed to just being a quiet loner in the gym that doesn't talk to anyone, then suddenly you come up and say hi to a girl out of the blue, and she feels like "oh my god, what is this weird guy coming up and talking to me for.. Is everyone watching? This is embarrassing getting hit on like this"

Another thing is, girls are VERY in tuned to their surroundings... If she has already seen that everyone else around accepts you and is okay with you talking to them, she will automatically accept and be okay with you too.. She will feel comfortable also that everyone else is seeing you talk to her, and would feel dumb NOT being nice and social with you.. She'll feel dumb and alienated if she DOESN'T try to get along with you..

As apposed to you never talking to anyone, then when you talk to her, she will immediately feel like her value is getting lowered to below everyone else in the gym just by talking to you... She'll feel like she's being judged by everyone...
If you are a person everyone talks to, she will want to do the same..

Trust me, these points are HUGGGGGEEEEEE, and will absolutely be the difference between the girl having the immediate urge to either accept you, or reject you... It's that simple..!

Get ALL these going, and girls will WANT to meet you.. A LOT will often look at you (you'll notice, trust me), and you might even have a couple say hello to you..

Good luck buddy!

Are you serious? Paying girls to go into the gym with you? What this is ridiculous?

Haha I loved the part about the female instructors. As you are talking, lean back to make it appear to the other people in the gym that the female instructor is talking to you. Haha I think is what the english call takin the piss.

Originally Posted by Julius Rain

Originally Posted by DAVIDTUA

i was also thinking maybe catching them going in or out of the gym and complimenting their car if they drive like a brand new BMW or sports car just kinda just be like WOW nice ride blah blah how much was it? you must me sucessful blah blah?

what do u guys think?

no no no, complementing a women may result in her thinking your not her equal. That would never get you in her panties.

I love it!

Originally Posted by amat

Are you serious? Paying girls to go into the gym with you? What this is ridiculous?

Haha I loved the part about the female instructors. As you are talking, lean back to make it appear to the other people in the gym that the female instructor is talking to you. Haha I think is what the english call takin the piss.

Okay.. Paying girls to go to the gym with you is totally Antonio Bandaras "DESPERADO"

Scratch that one... Convince them to pay for you to get into the gym, in exchance for the pleasure of seeing your biceps pumping on the curl machine...

That would be pimp.