Remembering a friend....
At the age of about 12 boxing found me. I was watching our black and white - TV bored as usual. They showed a replay of the Thrilla in Manilla at first I had no idea what the hell was going on but I was awestruck as these two guys gave every inch of their soul in a square ring. Frazier was the most scary guy I had ever seen it seemed like he was built to hurt another person and yet here was this Ali guy playing with him in the ring.
It was like a switch went on in my head and for the next two months all I did was ask my dad (R.I.P Dad I love you) about Ali, Frazier and boxing. I had no idea what it felt like to get punched or for your arms to be so tired from punching you can't lift them - I was just mesmerized by the fight. Eventually I said 'Dad I want to try it' Dad tried to talk me out of it for a while but I wouldn't let it go.
Eventually he took me to a friend of his Terry a gypsy traveller from Ireland who had fell in love with the North East and settled here. Terry had been a fighter in his day licensed and unlicensed he'd had a hard road but had a soft heart. Terry told my dad that many kids get excited after watching Ali on TV but soon lose their interest when they take a punch and realise that TV strips boxing of it's reality to the extent that you don't realise it's a fight with real sweat, real pain and real blood.
Terry had two sons who he had learnt the basics too. One two years older than me. He got the gloves out and after explaining some very basic instructions (keep your hands up and your face always forward) matched me against his son. It would be nice to say that I was a natural straight away and got the better of him - it would be nice but untrue. I fought like a 12 year old novice winging punches with no speed and no power and could not understand why nothing landed. Meanwhile son of Terry backed off blocked, smiled and hit me in the face a number of times.
After only a minute or two I had a fat lip and I was exhausted. Terry called a halt - dad took me home and thought that was that.....
The next weekend I went back to see Terry and pestered him with questions about Ali, Frazier and boxing.... Terry smiled and told me some stories about boxing that made me understand a little of what it was all about. I started visitng Terry every weekend and sometimes after school and he continued telling me stories and started teaching me the fundamentals of boxing. First the jab... which I spent every spare minute practicing... I'd jab at anything - thin air - the pillow on my bed even the rain. I learnt more and more and the sparring with his son became more and more of a competitiion rather than me missing and getting hit.
By the time I was 13 and a half he took me to a boxing club and then it began... Years later Terry was on the losing end of a fight he couldn't win - the Big C had him way behind on points and was closing in on a late rounds KO. I went to see him the day before he took the final 10 count. I looked at his hands - the knuckles raised and scarred a physical record of all the faces they had collided with - I couldn't look him in the eye.
I remember this day so clearly - he talked about the first day my dad brought me to him and he said he could tell then that I'd stick at boxing. I asked him how he knew and he said 'when you got hit - you never looked away and you never got mad. I could see in your eyes the frustration at not being able to do what you wanted to do but you never gave it up until I called a halt. I've watched you from that day and you've been like a sponge - you've taken everything in from me - from the trainers at the gym and from the people you've fought - you remind me of a feather weight from my youth in Ireland who we called Danny Boy.... at that point Terry had used as much energy as his body would allow for that day and he ushered me away. The next day Terry was dead and I lost the man responsible for making me a fighter. The nickname Danny Boy has remained with me till this day and the shamrock tattoo I have on my stomach is dedicated to his memory.
Today is the aniversary of his passing and I just thought I'd share with you how boxing found me and how I started a life long love affair with the sport.
'To speak with his equal and irish man is forced to talk with God...'
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