Thread: Getting cheated on!!!

How do you move on from this. I was inlove with this girl but then she cheats on me and i find out she lied about her feelings. I wanna move on but i find myself thinkin bout her often. We told each other that we would still be friends too.

"Just being friends" doesn't work because in the end you both want totally different things out of that relationship. Your best move is to cut ties completely...nothing good can come from anything else

Originally Posted by El Kabong

"Just being friends" doesn't work because in the end you both want totally different things out of that relationship. Your best move is to cut ties completely...nothing good can come from anything else

I agree though I would try shag her one more time and when done just get up pull your jeans on and say "cheers bitch" then turn round and walk out and never contact her again.

Do not under any circumstance look back round at her when you leave.


ps this also doesn't work very well if you are at your place when you do this as you can't just walk out of your own pad leaving her in it eg she may nick something

hahaha.. We are both still in school together so i think trying to avoid her completely will be difficult. And shes one of the few ppl i can still trust with anything..

Originally Posted by jabvargas24

hahaha.. We are both still in school together so i think trying to avoid her completely will be difficult. And shes one of the few ppl i can still trust with anything..

not to point out the obvious, but can you understand the contradiction between this line and the purpose of you starting this thread?

Sorry to hear ya got cheated. I'm one for giving it to her one more time, dry and up the poop shoot then telling her to hit the bricks and not looking back.

Originally Posted by jabvargas24

hahaha.. We are both still in school together so i think trying to avoid her completely will be difficult. And shes one of the few ppl i can still trust with anything..

You don't have to be hostile towards her, although you may feel like doing that. Just treat her like a casual aquaintance....don't share too much with her, don't show emotion to her, just basically become disinterested in who she is, what she does, how she feels, etc.......she'll either get the message and move on or she could become even more interested in you which could be a problem because she'll only break your heart again...but you could ride that out while it lasts, just don't get booty blind and figure that relationship is something that it isn't

If you two remain "Just friends" resentment will rear it's head...either she'll cockblock you or you'll get jealous of her seeing someone, but either way it's just going to build up to where you two argue all the time and it's no good for anyone.

Women are fickle, they want what they can't have and they don't want what they can have, but they do not NOT want what they can have.....if you can get that. They are basically all bat shit crazy (some more than others) and guys are just along for the ride.

Originally Posted by El Kabong

Originally Posted by jabvargas24

hahaha.. We are both still in school together so i think trying to avoid her completely will be difficult. And shes one of the few ppl i can still trust with anything..

You don't have to be hostile towards her, although you may feel like doing that. Just treat her like a casual aquaintance....don't share too much with her, don't show emotion to her, just basically become disinterested in who she is, what she does, how she feels, etc.......she'll either get the message and move on or she could become even more interested in you which could be a problem because she'll only break your heart again...but you could ride that out while it lasts, just don't get booty blind and figure that relationship is something that it isn't

If you two remain "Just friends" resentment will rear it's head...either she'll cockblock you or you'll get jealous of her seeing someone, but either way it's just going to build up to where you two argue all the time and it's no good for anyone.

Women are fickle, they want what they can't have and they don't want what they can have, but they do not NOT want what they can have.....if you can get that. They are basically all bat shit crazy (some more than others) and guys are just along for the ride.

That may be some of the best advice i've ever heard.

Originally Posted by jabvargas24

That may be some of the best advice i've ever heard.

Thanks....I just know I've been where you are right now, it totally sucks and you figure it's always going to feel like this but you grow, you learn, and you figure things out about life, girls, and more importantly yourself and what you will and won't accept in your life and that's what matters. You can choose to be all down and depressed about this or you can say "fuck it" and do what everyone wishes they did when they were in school....ask out the hottest chicks you can and don't be afraid to if you ask out 100 chicks hotter than this girl you're all worked up over the odds are at least 1 (maybe more ) will take you up on your offer and heck the rest is down hill after that man.

Have fun, be happy, don't waste your youth being depressed or jealous, or hung up on some girl who at this point in her life doesn't know her ass from a hole in the ground.

Originally Posted by El Kabong

Originally Posted by jabvargas24

That may be some of the best advice i've ever heard.

Thanks....I just know I've been where you are right now, it totally sucks and you figure it's always going to feel like this but you grow, you learn, and you figure things out about life, girls, and more importantly yourself and what you will and won't accept in your life and that's what matters. You can choose to be all down and depressed about this or you can say "fuck it" and do what everyone wishes they did when they were in school....ask out the hottest chicks you can and don't be afraid to if you ask out 100 chicks hotter than this girl you're all worked up over the odds are at least 1 (maybe more ) will take you up on your offer and heck the rest is down hill after that man.

Have fun, be happy, don't waste your youth being depressed or jealous, or hung up on some girl who at this point in her life doesn't know her ass from a hole in the ground.

Haha thanks bruh. I appreciate the help.. Startin to feel better already.

Man. That sucks I feel for you. Happenend to me in highschool with someone I loved very much. ** edit **. Hard as it is don't retreat to anger,it will eat you up !! Cheapens you and ruins potential.

Been there too dude! Probably the lowest I have ever been in my life was after I found out my ex was fucking somebody else. I'm big enough to admit that it took me a good year to get over her. She ripped me inside out as I thought she was 'the one'

But you know time really is the great healer and I can't stress enough to have absolutely ZERO contact with her. Out of sight is out of mind. Every text or phone call just prolongs the agony.

Also get laid elsewhere as much as possible!! I promise you this will make you feel better or at the very least take your mind off her for the time being. Before you know it you'll meet somebody else and all the hurt she caused will just be a memory!

I couldn't imagine it at the time but what my ex did to me turned out to be the best thing that ever happened. I ended up with a girl 10 times as hot and better than my ex in every single department.

I appreciate the support guys. Thanks!

I don't think I can top that advice, but just to reaffirm:

Get back with your mates, I'm sure they've missed you!

Get laid again asap

if you do want her back, women always want what they can't have, so ignore her and move on.

Remember your still at school! In 10 years when your married with kids, you'll look back and laugh about how serious this seemed. Your gonna have plenty more female encounters, if anything, she has done you a favour by freeing you whilst you are in your prime! Make the most of it.



Was she from Pakistan? Because there are plenty more in the sea!

Well I'm never on here a lot nowadays and one reason is down to girls or a certain girl.

I've posted a few threads about them and my troubles.

I found out my ex I was meeting cheated on me, trouble is she was the first girl I ever fell for and it hurt me. I'm man enough to admit that it took everything from me, I was so down and depressed. And to this day she still means a hell of a lot, she is the one in those past threads I was on about.

I stopped speaking to her for a month, we both then got talking and it took a good few weeks of phone calls before we went out a few nights ago. I met her like half a dozen times in my car. Nowadays she's all I think about.

It's horrible being 19 years old and having a girl in your mind 24/7, its just horrible. My head is totally fucked. I had my Police medical today and she was there, I wake up and shes there, I type this and she's there. Right now im just gonna keep speaking to her. We both ring each other every night and I guess just see where it leads too. As I say I met her just a couple of nights ago. But I dont know what will happen between us, I just hope she feels the same way as I do.

Originally Posted by Lefty

Well I'm never on here a lot nowadays and one reason is down to girls or a certain girl.

I've posted a few threads about them and my troubles.

I found out my ex I was meeting cheated on me, trouble is she was the first girl I ever fell for and it hurt me. I'm man enough to admit that it took everything from me, I was so down and depressed. And to this day she still means a hell of a lot, she is the one in those past threads I was on about.

I stopped speaking to her for a month, we both then got talking and it took a good few weeks of phone calls before we went out a few nights ago. I met her like half a dozen times in my car. Nowadays she's all I think about.

It's horrible being 19 years old and having a girl in your mind 24/7, its just horrible. My head is totally fucked. I had my Police medical today and she was there, I wake up and shes there, I type this and she's there. Right now im just gonna keep speaking to her. We both ring each other every night and I guess just see where it leads too. As I say I met her just a couple of nights ago. But I dont know what will happen between us, I just hope she feels the same way as I do.

I feel you man.. I rly do. Its tough falling in love for the first time and then trying to let go...