Thread: Did Bilbo get no love as a child? (serious question)

I'm reading a paragraph out of one of Eckhart Tolle's books, and it's talking about our issues that we develop from a childhood, and how it manifests in our adulthood. And I want to test a theory that this brings up.. Because in my case it seems to be true and from other people that i've applied it to it kind of makes sense also..

I'm going to quote straight from the book now to show you were I got this from.. It is a case study of one person, but i've generally applied to a certain community which we have both showed heavy interest in.

" A man who had been an unwanted child and was given no love and a minimum of care and attention by his mother/parents, developed a heavy ambivalent pain-body that consisted of unfulfilled intense longing for his mother's love and attention and at the same time, intense hatred toward her for withholding what he so desperately needed. When he became an adult, almost every woman would trigger his pain-body's neediness - a form of emotional pain - and this would manifest as an addictive compulsion to "conquer and seduce" almost every woman he met and in this way get the female love and attention that the pain-body craved. He became quite an expert on seduction, but as soon as a relationship turned intimate or his advances were rejected, the pain-body's anger toward his mother would come up and sabotage the relationship."

I figured in my case I have not become an expert on seduction, but it's almost a desperate need now that i've realised it as a task that can be realistically undertaken... To become an expert on seduction...

I tried applying it to Mystery or any other Pickup Artists who's history that I know of. Mystery is actually the only one, and I know that he did not get any love and attention from his Father which may have equal effect as lack of love and attention from a mother?...

Anyway, I figured you're open to talk about just about anything, and this I thought was interesting seeing that it applied incredibly well to my situation.. And may have helped to explain and expand my understanding of my thirst for the community and need to get out there in amongst women and be successful, But at the same time why I feel an anger towards all women i'm attracted to for a rejection that they have not even bestowed upon me yet, or may never will.