Yikes! what is going on!? HELP!

Argh... OK... me and a girl I've been with for just over a month now are breaking up soon (we both agreed to 'just have fun' before we started going out because she's going away for a very long time soon... :-\ :'() We decided to break up because we're both young (20 and 18) so I don't think it's fair that we wait around for each other... and we've not been together long enough to, plus I think we both know (though no one has said it) that we'd inevitably cheat on each other.

At first she didn't seem to want to go out with me... says she is going away soon and gets easily attached to people. like I said... I said we may as well go for it but not get too serious... we both like each other.

I thought that I'd be OK and probably have to deal with her being upset about leaving me but then what I thought was the opposite happened... we've seen each other practically everyday since we started going out but after about 2 weeks I was going crazy man... I need her... I've never never needed anybody... I could just sit and hold her forever... when I'm not with her... I miss the way she smells and the sound of her voice... the way she feels... breathes... everything! If I see her but only for an hour or two it makes me crazy!

She's away until sunday and I'm cracking up (she was round last night for god's sake! ;) ;D)... I wasn't sure if she felt the same but she's called me up... slightly drunk and she tells me that she's started missing me already... I tell her I missed her as soon as I woke up, anyway we talked about us and how we're not gonna be together soon and other stuff but she has to get off the phone... to cut a long story short she says two words (she was slightly drunk so I don't know what it means... when I'm drunk I just say what I wouldn't when I'm sober... but it's the truth) I've been dreading but wanting to hear: I love you :o :-X

The scary thing is I almost said the same back... I tried to but the words just got stuck in my mouth... because I've never really loved a women who isn't my mum before... I don't know whether I'm in lust or love... I just know how much I'm gonna miss her soon. I've never been able to say that to any one... not even my dad when he was on life support... my mum or anyone...

We've never really had a cross word... stupid stuff she does pisses me off though... we were out on Wednesday and were both pretty hammered... I knew before we went out that she sometimes has a few draws off a tab when she's drunk but I never seen her do is till this night... can't describe how pissed off I was with her... I can't fucking stand smoking... proper smoking... it's pretty fucking harmless to smoke like 1/8th of a cigarette a month or what ever... you breath in more shite waiting for the bus... But it was as if I was smoking when she done it... those who know me from the training section will now how much I look after my body... well it was as bad as if she was putting that shite in my body >:mad :-X Girls I've liked before... it wouldn't have bothered me unless they properly smoked. Had to tell her off then bite my lip trying to to rant and rave and ruin her night.

The thought of her ever being with any one else... argh... makes me angry... if I got to the bar whilst we're dancing or what ever and other guys go near her even if they're not dancing with her it fucks me off... some lad tried to dance with her and the only thing I could think of doing other than setting about him (which I never do unless I need to) was to barge through half the dance floor and get off with her. help me Saddo brothers... what the fuck is happening. I'm not falling properly in love for the first time with the one girl I went out just to have some fun with?

:-X :-[ :-X :-[ :-X :-* :-* :-* ??? ::** ;D

As i've stated previously, i'm a self-centered asshole who sees women (and everyone else for that matter) as objects. There's more than 1 hot girl in the world, let it go.

No help... it's definitely not just cos she's beautiful ;)

She just gets me.

lol she gets you huh? ::** You want someone one to talk to about stuff, hire a shrink.

I think you're sort of missing the point of a forum here... :P

Hire this:

*gonna delete that pic... it's just wrong!*

I did just post that in my own heart broken romeo thread didn't I? :P

i'm not talking about you posting that stuff here, im talking about you think this person magical understands you better than anyone else. When most people say ?they get me" that means they can talk to them about w/e and im saying if you're messed up about this person because they look good and you can talk to them, just hire a shrink. If you wanna kill 2 birds with one stone, hire a hot female shrink that takes "doctor-patient confidentiality" to a whole new level.

She's gonna have to be the cheapest hot female shrink on the market... ;)

hey bro i barely glanced at this but im here for u and i got ya back! i gotta run and make an inventory run right now tho so ill posts some REAL TALK when i get back!

hollar

I'm getting some much needed sleep now but cheers mang! ;D

If you help me enough you can be warlord... ;)

fucking hell mate, .. your first real girlfriend..??. that is a mind jogger there.. I remember that feeling of wanting full control of the situation and the jealousy . Its a phase you got to work out on your own mate, no easy answers… my best advise is don’t get too attached if your going to stray.. Its not fair to either of you emotionally . Peace out my brother- god bless

Good on not saying I love you back mate ;) She was drunk, if you said it back sober it might have complicated things. Keep your cool, don't let her know that her not being there is drivin you crazy even if it is, that way if she wants another chill relationship like the one you had then the avenue stays open for that.

And don't make a big deal about the cigarettes. I agree cigarettes are fucken nasty, and smoking anything for a girl isn't really attractive (I can let weed and the occasional whatever slip though) but you don't want to make a big deal. Especially if she does it when she's drunk. What you can do is kind of bring it up in a joking manner, like I know your secret kind of laughing you know then top it off with that's nasty and then switch the subject. But don't go off over cigarettes that's a bit much so you did good by biting your tongue.

honestly bro what your feeling in NATURAL for you are human. keep in mind tho that you are quite young. this is the proper age to be going thru these types of situations/experiences and yes even drama. its a healthy thing to be experiencing this now rather than your later years its what makes your wiser/stronger/conditioned believe it or not to handle even bigger issues later on.

all that being said, i think your just over annalyzing the situation a bit. she obviously vibed real well with you for the short time you guys were together and thats cool. but you also had a couple hang ups about her(smoking, flirting etc). i think you both made the wise decision intially to just be casual since theres gonna be a long distance thing coming soon. all these feelings your feeling about her believe it or not will PASS! sooner than later. u my boy adamgb your a good looking guy, you got good pesonality, your funny, which means getting and meeting new girls aint a thang for you! you aint like some of the fukkkin losers on this forum who we all know couldnt score a girl if they paid a prostitute.

anyways my point is this bro. your young, good looking, got pesonality, you got a bright future ahead of you! your gonna be meeting some of the finest girls you ever encountered in your liek probably for the next 10years or so. some will have shitty personalities and some will blow your mind away and make you want to fall in love with them all over again. so thats what you have to realize........ a man in your shoes should never trip out over a girl especailly at your age man. you got your whole PRIME YEARS ahead of you LITERALLY!

further more bro if i knew what i know now what i didnt know when i was 20 damn bro id def clock more DIME PIECES than i did. i was stressing over BS and nonsense back then and u shouldnt make the same mistakes man. never let a girl come in your way of achieving your goals/priorities/dreams man.

im 28 right now 8 years older than you bro been there done that.

but seriously bro how many cats u know who are 28 and running shiiiiit like i am right now, i got properties, businesses, corporations, i take pimp asss vacations and hook up with DIMES where ever I CHOSE TO! on top of that i write everything off as a business expense on my companys business credit card.
i got executive producers harassing me asking me when am i gonna do their film and tv projects with them?etc etc

the point is i wouldnt be where i am today if i let some stupid biotch get the best of me and dominate me or control me or mess with my head. now a days i got girls buying me shiiiiiiit and like i said im clocking DIMES in every city i travel to.

so bro you say shes going away for a MIN and then shes coming back later right? so do ya thang and when she comes back see where you both are at. but in the mean time DO YA THANG SON!

this one dime piece i was messing with in my early 20's said it best to me she said, "It's not important whether things work out between me and her...........what's important is that we both got to say what we both wanted to say........"

think about that man that shit is DEEP son!

oh yeah and why would i wanna be WAR CHIEF when im CYRUS the president of the biggest gang in new york the RIFS! O0

also if you want another opinion....... theres an american shock jock named Tom Leychus(spelling?) he basically gives advice to fuckin losers who have no clue and who get used and abused by women. i personally dont listen to his show or him, but he does have some rather good points. id say what i do know of him i agree with what his theorys/rules are about 30-45% of the time. I basically i agree with what he says about 40% of the time.

Some of his rules are:
1) do not date girls with kids
2)do not get into a serious relationship until the age of 29(finish school, work, career established etc etc)
3)ALWAYS USE A CONDOM every single fukkkin time!
4)do not spend over $50 on a date
5)do not date a girl more than 3 times if she doesnt give u any play by the 3rd date dump her
6) do not bring girls back to your house

there were some more rules he had that i agree with but those were the ones that stuck out in my mind. i havent even heard him for like year i wonder if hes still alive even ahahha.

Cheers brothers, CCs all round :P

Thanks P4P! Thanks for bigging me up! I know it all but it's nice to hear it from someone else! :P

One thing though, we're still together for now... reading back my post... a bit confusing like, didn't make it clear. but what I meant is that we agreed to break up when she goes away rather than try and have a long distance relationship... this is before we even went out properly... got half a week together and then it's good bye... :)

I'm gonna move on... it's just hard! What's harder is not trying to act too close to her cos the last thing I want is her going away to do her stuff she's had planned for years and feel guilty about it.
As you say there's more out there but I never connected with anyone like this before... I'll get over it though! ;)

Also anyone else noticed that you seem to get more attention off women when you're going out with one than when you're not... what do you reckon that's all about? :P you look more secure or you just notice what you're missing? All I know is a girl I used to REALLY like for a while but never seemed to be able to get with decides to start showing a little more interest in me once I can't touch her!? Jesus! :P ;)

I like some of those rules P4P 1-4 are SOLID 5... not too sure, depends... 6? is this indefinitely or after first meeting them or what? ;)

Come to think of it never been so uncomfortable... watched the contender with this lass... really nice girl... ended up sitting very cosy and just chatting rather than watching the boxing really... was late and we'd both has BUSY weeks so aye... just chilled out, tried to hold my hand a few times on the way out and then after we'd showed our faces at the VIP party she gave me a lift home...

Normally I'd hug her or something and say bye... she's my mate but I dunno... I wasn't going near it! :P maybe I'm flattering myself but I didn't want nothing to happen... maybe it wasn't going to and I just imagined it but we both seemed uncomfortable.

Sounds like nothing but I can't really write down/sum up all the signs I was getting etc...

I dunno... when I'm ready to move on I might see if she was ever/is still interested ;)

Nothings easy or simple is it... ;)

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Originally Posted by AdamGB

Cheers brothers, CCs all round :P

Thanks P4P! Thanks for bigging me up! I know it all but it's nice to hear it from someone else! :P

One thing though, we're still together for now... reading back my post... a bit confusing like, didn't make it clear. but what I meant is that we agreed to break up when she goes away rather than try and have a long distance relationship... this is before we even went out properly... got half a week together and then it's good bye... :)

I'm gonna move on... it's just hard! What's harder is not trying to act too close to her cos the last thing I want is her going away to do her stuff she's had planned for years and feel guilty about it.
As you say there's more out there but I never connected with anyone like this before... I'll get over it though! ;)

Also anyone else noticed that you seem to get more attention off women when you're going out with one than when you're not... what do you reckon that's all about? :P you look more secure or you just notice what you're missing? All I know is a girl I used to REALLY like for a while but never seemed to be able to get with decides to start showing a little more interest in me once I can't touch her!? Jesus! :P ;)

I like some of those rules P4P 1-4 are SOLID 5... not too sure, depends... 6? is this indefinitely or after first meeting them or what? ;)

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yeah bro i agree rule 5 depends on the girl. i mean if shes worthy than shes worthy, but if you are just seeing her as some one to hang with thats cool and who u wanna bone than thats a different story. i think his reasoning behind that is that he doesnt want women conrtolling men and making them spend shitloads of money on them just to get laid. i guess thats the point he was making?

obviously if the girls a keeper u kinda want her to wait longer before she puts out i totally agree

rule 6 i think his logic there was more so if u dont even know if this girls a keeper or not u dont want her knowing where u live so she cant stalk u or cock block u later i suppose

adam if its got tits or wheels it will only cause you grief mate. thats the advise of my late grandad rest his soul. but i hear ya bud about needing to move on and that cos i cant see it working if its a long distance thing. and your both to young for that shite anyways. but then again if it could be love then why not try to hold on to it??? ha some help i was ay ;D

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Originally Posted by AdamGB

Cheers brothers, CCs all round :P

Thanks P4P! Thanks for bigging me up! I know it all but it's nice to hear it from someone else! :P

One thing though, we're still together for now... reading back my post... a bit confusing like, didn't make it clear. but what I meant is that we agreed to break up when she goes away rather than try and have a long distance relationship... this is before we even went out properly... got half a week together and then it's good bye... :)

I'm gonna move on... it's just hard! What's harder is not trying to act too close to her cos the last thing I want is her going away to do her stuff she's had planned for years and feel guilty about it.
As you say there's more out there but I never connected with anyone like this before... I'll get over it though! ;)

Also anyone else noticed that you seem to get more attention off women when you're going out with one than when you're not... what do you reckon that's all about? :P you look more secure or you just notice what you're missing? All I know is a girl I used to REALLY like for a while but never seemed to be able to get with decides to start showing a little more interest in me once I can't touch her!? Jesus! :P ;)

I like some of those rules P4P 1-4 are SOLID 5... not too sure, depends... 6? is this indefinitely or after first meeting them or what? ;)

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yeah bro i was talking about this the other day on another thread. but i was at this big huge music festival and i was mackin hard to this BOMB ASSS canadian chick with 34dd's son. so out of no where this austrailian chick just starts mackin to me while im about to close the deal with the canadian chick. im like wtf?????? cant she let me close the deal first before she hollars at me? wtf is up with that?

also whenever i go shopping or to the grocery with a chick thats when the HOTTEST chicks at the store be jockin hella hard and just scoping right at u not even caring that u notice them looking right at u.

i suggest going out with FEMALE friends who dont cock block!

I'm gonna move on like... but right now... all I can think about is her being with some one else.

Makes me so angry that I actually shake! I bet I'm OK in a week though... :P ;D

wow....I think you are a bit delusional Bro.....you said yourself she's leaving and you know for a fact "You'll inevitably cheat" on each other....enjoy your time together...as for the smoking thing..as long as it's just social, when she drinks< that's cool....Hell, you're in a friggin bar!!!!!! Can't be to concerned with your health if your sucking down like 300 peoples smoke for 4-5 hours a night when you go out....remember, your body is not hers...it's her choice...if you don't like it and she doesn't want to change..find someone that fits your style/likes....

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I'm gonna move on like... but right now... all I can think about is her being with some one else.

Makes me so angry that I actually shake! I bet I'm OK in a week though... :P ;D

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seriously bro REread all my posts in this thread again until something really sinks in k bro :-*

AdamGB you sound like a really intelligent lad and whilst my ramblings resemble the inner thoughts of a man with a fruit Salad for a mind i have been in your postion many a time !!

All i can say is this how you feel today is not how you are gonna feel tomorrow !

I fall in Love everyday probably because I'm a shallow thick bastard and all i can say is enjoy being 20, Shag other birds follow your impulses and instincts because theres nothing worse than being nearly 30 and not having anything to regret !!!

These are the rules i live and die by .

For the 1st 3 months .

Don't tell her you love her
Don't spend silly money on them
Do admit you fancy other birds
Don't complent them to much
Never turn up on time
Don't go out with her any of her brothers or other family members socially
Fuck sake remember her name
DON'T GO ON HOLIDAY WITH THEM
Take them on Picnics to a local beauty spot (keep the costs down Cocktail sausages scotch eggs ,dirt cheap Lemonade)
Never ever take them to fancy restaurants ( i always take them for a burger)
Don't let them near your phone put a lock on it even if you have nothing to hide .
Make them fetch you a cup of tea .
Take them to the football once and never again even if they enjoy it
Say nothing after sex its hard but thats when you're vulnerable
Let them go to Clubs on their own
Don't meet her parents unless you have too
Don't take any ultimatums these are the death knell to your manhood
Pay for her Burger on the 1st date
Take them to the Cinema and but don't buy any goodies
Don't pretend to be intrested in what she's saying if you are not
I have something i like to call Gordy's quiet time and it works
Fuck Sake keep Wanking ,backed up Spunk makes you do all kinds of stupid things

All this ensures you have boundaries clearly defined and besides relationships are either meant to work or there not so don't go chasing something that ain't there .

When a Woman says i love you it don't mean shit because what she really means is - at this present time i am feeling a degree of comfort in your presence .

My ex declared her undying love for me one night and the next night dumped me at her birthday party i was gutted but it was because i left myself open and didn't follow the unbreakable rules.

I was even more gutted because there was a cycle race next to her house so i couldn't get a lift home and had to walk 10 miles to just fetch a cab .

I'm sorry adam it's over. There will be others.

$50 might be a lot when you're young or don't have much cash but that works out at about £13.50 pp you cheap bastard.

Nice to see you'd be willing to spend 99p on a burger for them, ignore them, turn up late, which is fine if you want a doormat for a woman who over time you will only resent for being a doormat. Loser.

50 dollars is more like 25 quid isn't it?

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Originally Posted by AdamGB

50 dollars is more like 25 quid isn't it?

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my ignorant american asss doesnt know the conversion SORRY :'(

i have to admit tho 50bucks doesnt go that far in america these days. i mean say u take a girl out to eat even at like some cheezy average spot like olive garden. we talking easily i dont know $35 for appetizer, drinks, main course, desert then you go to the movies thats another like 20 bones there! damn u cant even go on a cheezy date for less than $50 anymore these days?

unless u take her to like burger king and make it a blockbuster night ;)

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50 dollars is more like 25 quid isn't it?

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aye but then split it two ways.

$ 50............. :o :o :o :o :o :o :o

You some kind of Millionaire ???

Fuck that and don't be knocking Burger King either they have fresh tomato and Onion in their Burgers !!!

Seriously i have never taken a girl for a Meal its a Kebab , Burger,Curry or the pub or nothing and i've at least a 90% strike rate !
Take them on Picnics like i said in the Summer with the Sun going down ..........beautifull .

If a Girl likes you and likes having a Laugh then why go to a poncy arse place where you get fuck all and can't read the Menu ?

My Local Kebab Shop (legendary Troys in Crawley) does a Chicken Shish for a fiver and large chips for £1.50 . i always have mine with Salad and Chilli Sauce ,the chicken's grilled (lots of Protien and no Fat ) and tastes lovely ! My girl has a Small Lamb Shish with Mint Sauce all for under a tenner !

Beats Chicken in a red wine sauce on a large Plate with a side order of vegtables and 3 new potatos for 21 squid!!

You have to look at a girl and know that she wants you for your steaming red hot hard sinewy muskiness and not because you know how to do your Tie with a Windsor Knot !!!

By the way i've never spent more than £20 on a shirt !!

I use to go on the Pull with a £3.99 job out of Peacocks and laugh at all the Ralph Lauren boys drinking Beer till half one and then giving some fat lass the eye .

Grrrrrrrrr baby .

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$ 50............. :o :o :o :o :o :o :o

You some kind of Millionaire ???

F*** that and don't be knocking Burger King either they have fresh tomato and Onion in their Burgers !!!

Seriously i have never taken a girl for a Meal its a Kebab , Burger,Curry or the pub or nothing and i've at least a 90% strike rate !
Take them on Picnics like i said in the Summer with the Sun going down ..........beautifull .

If a Girl likes you and likes having a Laugh then why go to a poncy a*** place where you get F*** all and can't read the Menu ?

My Local Kebab Shop (legendary Troys in Crawley) does a Chicken Shish for a fiver and large chips for £1.50 . i always have mine with Salad and Chilli Sauce ,the chicken's grilled (lots of Protien and no Fat ) and tastes lovely ! My girl has a Small Lamb Shish with Mint Sauce all for under a tenner !

Beats Chicken in a red wine sauce on a large Plate with a side order of vegtables and 3 new potatos for 21 squid!!

You have to look at a girl and know that she wants you for your steaming red hot hard sinewy muskiness and not because you know how to do your Tie with a Windsor Knot !!!

By the way i've never spent more than £20 on a shirt !!

I use to go on the Pull with a £3.99 job out of Peacocks and laugh at all the Ralph Lauren boys drinking Beer till half one and then giving some fat lass the eye .

Grrrrrrrrr baby .

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That statement wern't pretty but it actually has good point and i agree 8)

This board has become like a problem page.

Its the dear dierdre of the online boxing forums.

Had a Rib eye Steak the other day cost me £12.99 !!

What a Rip they did'nt even have a plate of chips i had to share with my girl who opted for get this , Brocoli and Bri served in a creamy onion Sauce in Puff Pastry !! All together with the drinks it cost over £25 .

Call me old fashioned I like my food served on a big plate filled to the Brim with lots of other shit not in 3 seperate dishes which i have to reach across and grab whilst every other cunt is helping themselves to my Gear !!

Talk about Poncy wank!

10 oz Rib Eye with French Fries and Salad with French dressing !
The Steak come on a big plate on its own with a Flat Leaf Parsley Sprig ....Wow fucking wee what Genius !!

French Dressing is not just olive oil , vinegar and mustard !!
French Dressing should have a thickness a consistency to it .


My basic French dressing .


A tablespoon of Coursegrain Mustard into a bowl
Add one Egg yolk .
Add Sweated onions
Add Parsley for appearence
Add Add Small Amount of Vinegar

Gently Whisk and taste depending on your preference .

Add Olive oil whisking well remembering to taste .
Add Vinegar if needed .
Add more Olive oil untill it's reached a nice consistency ( your preference )


No need for salt and pepper too many people over season and it's rich in flavour enough .

:)

oh no nothing wrong with burger king bro! personally id prefer del taco or el pollo loco(both caly spots) ;D

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50 dollars is more like 25 quid isn't it?

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aye but then split it two ways.

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I'd spend 25 quid each... what could you do with 12 pound 50? :P

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aye but then split it two ways.

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I'd spend 25 quid each... what could you do with 12 pound 50? :P

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my ignorant american asss should really learn these conversions :-[

cc #571.. smash you always give me a laugh. :laugh: