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Relationships revolve around women
Have you guys thought about it. I am not saying its good or bad but just an observation. When it comes to relationships you'll have a guy approach a girl, bust a few lines, get her some drinks, beg for her phone number, be after her, finally get a date after tryin and trying, take her to dinners, events (movies, theater, concert, show, museum, etc.), wine, shopping, flowers, jewelry, stuffed animals, etc. Guy has to totally romance her. Later on propose and buy her an engagement ring (at least 2 to 3 months worth of his salary), give a speech to both families asking for her hand and showing he's the right guy to take care of her, and then comes the wedding where ironically after all he did for her ends up being just a piece of accesory of the bride making it look like a Quinceañera or Sweet 16.......It just doesn't make sense to me.
A relationship involves two. Shouldn't things revolve around BOTH?
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i disagree, respectfully..
have you never had a girl approach you? I've had girls who want a relationship from me that i don't want, i've had girlfriends parents wanting me to marry their daughter.. i'm not saying this to boast, or anything to that extent.. but i've been in relationships where i've been more into the girl than her into me, but also where the girl was more into me than i was into her, it works both ways..
i will agree, that if you are a girl, you can go into a bar, and say "i could sleep with him, him, him, him, him etc" and just point at guys, where if you're a guy you actually have to "try" to get laid and meet a girl.. Girls are at the advantage that by nature, guys are on the prowl to find a mate, much less than they are, so they get all big headed and weigh out their options and let guys play into their hands..
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have you never had a girl approach you? I've had girls who want a relationship from me that i don't want, i've had girlfriends parents wanting me to marry their daughter.. i'm not saying this to boast, or anything to that extent.. but i've been in relationships where i've been more into the girl than her into me, but also where the girl was more into me than i was into her, it works both ways..
Hhhhhhmmm it has happened when I am travelling in Asia :roll: or meet them even outside of Asia. And I am not talking about meeting girls on the red light district. Just typical girls walking around the city who approach me and one might think it is because they want to get out of their country, a free meal, etc. But no, they really just want to go out and both are as involved in the date and contribute as much. But I am not sure if having a girl approach you means that she is willing to have things revolve around both and not just her. That is, to have her contribute to the relationship as much as the guy in all aspects.
If we google the topic, go to any library section on relationships, ask people, etc. We'll see that it is expected from men to do it all in the relationship: romancing the girl, taking her out, taking care of expenses, proposing, giving her the ring, giving the speech to both families, etc. That is what confuses me. If a relationship involves two then why won't women offer those things that they demand/expect from men? Where's the equality women complain about?
A guy needs a career, a job, own transportation, etc. if he's considering meeting girls and having a relationship. No wonder some people say "No money, no honey". As harsh as it may sound, a girlfriend/wife is an expense. As for women, no, they can totally be broke, no career, etc. no problem. A guy will still pick her up. Imagine a guy telling both families he will marry her and he doesn't have a job, career, etc. I can assure you everybody would feel totally insulted. But have it the other way around, no problem.
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i will agree, that if you are a girl, you can go into a bar, and say "i could sleep with him, him, him, him, him etc" and just point at guys, where if you're a guy you actually have to "try" to get laid and meet a girl...
Yes, and it will cost the guy some money.
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Girls are at the advantage that by nature
Yes they are :) .
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I'm nailing everything in sight. Motto is...wrap yer whacker b4 you attack her...and that is that. Relationships currently revolve around my penis. I will make small talk if necessary, but only to keep the penis happy and fed.
Not too complicated a game plan so far.
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Youngblood
I'm nailing everything in sight. Motto is...wrap yer whacker b4 you attack her...and that is that. Relationships currently revolve around my penis. I will make small talk if necessary, but only to keep the penis happy and fed.
Not too complicated a game plan so far.
Youngblood, last I head you were 14 or 15, so I'm assuming there are some legal, age of consent type issues you need to concern yourself with. Correct? I'm not passing any judgement, just curious.
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No no no no!
I think it's true that the relationship revolves around the girl.. Unless you are a very very evolved man and entirely have your shit together like completely that a woman just does not phase you one way or the other what they do...
And I agree that men generally approach women... But you're so wrong after that point. Buy drinks, beg for number, hassle on phone, take to dinner... Man that is setting it up that she's the queen of everything, and you're her lowly servent ready to buy her what she wants, impress her, jump for her, sing for her, and everything else she wants.. And most girls who even half have their own act together will actually resent you for being like that.. So even more so she'll treat you like a peasant after that point if that's the manner you courted her..
Now for only $6.99 you can order my e-book on how to really do it...
Kidding..
No you can approach a girl, but as soon as she's decided you're not a total loser and maybe a cool guy because you've teaser her and stuff in a fun way, lay back dude and let her work for you... If you're chasing and impressing a girl, she won't entirely respect you for it, and she can go out any day of the week and find 10 other guys to impress her the same way and buy her a drink...
Tease her and give her nothing and just keep that certain amount of attention from her, and she'll be all over you trying to get it,,,, and you keep your balls out of her purse for at least a few weeks.. ;D
All that being said my girlfriend has had by nuts in her purse since day 1.. or maybe day 3... If there is a next time comes round i'm locking them up in a steel safe..
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Youngblood
I'm nailing everything in sight. Motto is...wrap yer whacker b4 you attack her...and that is that. Relationships currently revolve around my penis. I will make small talk if necessary, but only to keep the penis happy and fed.
Not too complicated a game plan so far.
Dont be a fool Wrap your tool?
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RP33
i disagree, respectfully..
have you never had a girl approach you? I've had girls who want a relationship from me that i don't want, i've had girlfriends parents wanting me to marry their daughter.. i'm not saying this to boast, or anything to that extent.. but i've been in relationships where i've been more into the girl than her into me, but also where the girl was more into me than i was into her, it works both ways..
i will agree, that if you are a girl, you can go into a bar, and say "i could sleep with him, him, him, him, him etc" and just point at guys, where if you're a guy you actually have to "try" to get laid and meet a girl.. Girls are at the advantage that by nature, guys are on the prowl to find a mate, much less than they are, so they get all big headed and weigh out their options and let guys play into their hands..
Yeah I also disagree really, although I understand the sentiment.
The thing is that a man is biologically programmed to impregnate women, it's his job as the progenitor of the species. He can have sex, impregnate and move on. Therefore it's simply not possible (unless he's a miserable wretched sap) for a man to be 'pulled' by a woman.
A man's job is to have sex with women, so if a women chats him up and offers him sex she hasn't pulled him at all, she's just offered herself up with no resistance.
So a woman who boasts how many men she has slept with is like a fly boasting how many spider webs it's charged into.
Anyway, for a woman, her role is of the nuturerer, they bring life into the world and then have to care for it. They need a man for protection (evolutionarily speaking) and so their biological job is to keep a man interested in them and only them. So when they have a man committing to marry them they have done their job and succeeded. If they just had sex with him in return for nothing else, then biologically speaking it's an epic fail.
It's a complete misunderstaning of the dynamics of relationships to think that a woman can pull a man for sex. Yes they can get a man interested in having sex with them, but only the same way that a mouse or small bird can pursuade a cat to kill it.
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right.. i mean, let's face it.. i take a girl out to dinner, maybe take care of the tab at the bar, get her some nice christmas presents, all for what? All for the fact that i'm banging some hot chick that wants to be pampered every now and then.. i'm pretty okay with that, and i don't really think that the things i mentioned burden me in any way.. i'm italian, i love eating food in any shape, i love going out to dinner.. i love drinking.. i like giving thoughtful presents, and in return i get sex? works for me!
Chino, you're definitely on to something here, but to say that we have to do all the work as far as spending money and the stuff you mentioned i think you're a little off.. Maybe the high maintenance girls expect drinks for you to talk to them but i refuse to talk to those girls.. I really have never bought a girl a drink EVER while trying to talk to them.. i've taken girls out for drinks after i've met them and what not, but i refuse to spend money right off the bat..
as a side note, my last girlfriend would want to pay for EVERYTHING and hated when i paid for movies/dinner etc.. i'd have to pretend to go to the bathroom and pay for the bill at dinner, and buy movie tickets beforehand sometimes.. as long as you're willing to pay for things, willing to do things for them, i think it's the principle/gesture more than actually spending a bunch of money..
The engagement ring bit you're not going to escape, but you can always counteract the argument and say that girls have to get their period every month, and they are the ones who get pregnant and have to go through 9 months of pregnancy plus the actual painful birth..
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Bilbo
It's a complete misunderstaning of the dynamics of relationships to think that a woman can pull a man for sex. Yes they can get a man interested in having sex with them, but only the same way that a mouse or small bird can pursuade a cat to kill it.
So true, Bilbo.. i've met SO many girls who try to convince me differently.. say that they can play a guy for sex.. i mean, YES, maybe if they want a relationship and you want sex, but to say that you went out, hit on a hot guy, picked him up, took him to your house and "got him to have sex with you" is a ridiculous statement.. He already wanted to have sex with you, you just opened the door.. and by the door i mean your legs!
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Youngblood
I'm nailing everything in sight. Motto is...wrap yer whacker b4 you attack her...and that is that. Relationships currently revolve around my penis. I will make small talk if necessary, but only to keep the penis happy and fed.
Not too complicated a game plan so far.
Youngblood, last I head you were 14 or 15,
so I'm assuming there are some legal, age of consent type issues you need to concern yourself with. Correct? I'm not passing any judgement, just curious.
lol like what? I'm not with anyone younger, so no worries there...and not with anyone so much older it will matter much. Sex is legal dude, at 14 and 15...so long as it is with those of a similar age and consent.
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Youngblood
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CGM
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Youngblood
I'm nailing everything in sight. Motto is...wrap yer whacker b4 you attack her...and that is that. Relationships currently revolve around my penis. I will make small talk if necessary, but only to keep the penis happy and fed.
Not too complicated a game plan so far.
Youngblood, last I head you were 14 or 15,
so I'm assuming there are some legal, age of consent type issues you need to concern yourself with. Correct? I'm not passing any judgement, just curious.
lol like what? I'm not with anyone younger, so no worries there...and not with anyone so much older it will matter much. Sex is legal dude, at 14 and 15...so long as it is with those of a similar age and consent.
I have maximum respect for youngblood, the only proper redblooded young teen lad on here.
Overcoming a drug addiction at 13, banging girls at 14, a top class amatuer junior boxer, he's the next generation's CutmeMick, with a bit of Violent D meanness mixed in.
I think lefty and Amat could both learn a lot from you.
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Youngblood
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CGM
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Youngblood
I'm nailing everything in sight. Motto is...wrap yer whacker b4 you attack her...and that is that. Relationships currently revolve around my penis. I will make small talk if necessary, but only to keep the penis happy and fed.
Not too complicated a game plan so far.
Youngblood, last I head you were 14 or 15,
so I'm assuming there are some legal, age of consent type issues you need to concern yourself with. Correct? I'm not passing any judgement, just curious.
lol like what? I'm not with anyone younger, so no worries there...and not with anyone so much older it will matter much. Sex is legal dude, at 14 and 15...so long as it is with those of a similar age and consent.
It makes sense what you say, but by the letter of the law I think there are other issues. Age of consent is 16, is it not? Odds are you will never have to deal with it, but as a mature 14 yr guy a parent of a 14 year old girl could make trouble if they wanted to. Anyways, it's none of my business, I'm not even sure why I asked. Party on.
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Bilbo
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Youngblood
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CGM
Youngblood, last I head you were 14 or 15, so I'm assuming there are some legal, age of consent type issues you need to concern yourself with. Correct? I'm not passing any judgement, just curious.
lol like what? I'm not with anyone younger, so no worries there...and not with anyone so much older it will matter much. Sex is legal dude, at 14 and 15...so long as it is with those of a similar age and consent.
I have maximum respect for youngblood, the only proper redblooded young teen lad on here.
Overcoming a drug addiction at 13, banging girls at 14, a top class amatuer junior boxer, he's the next generation's CutmeMick, with a bit of Violent D meanness mixed in.
I think lefty and Amat could both learn a lot from you.
lol I was no drug addict. I did stupidly try some shit tho was I was 11 and 12. I never measured my junk...so I dunno how I go up against CutMeMick. :dontknow:
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Bilbo
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Youngblood
lol like what? I'm not with anyone younger, so no worries there...and not with anyone so much older it will matter much. Sex is legal dude, at 14 and 15...so long as it is with those of a similar age and consent.
I have maximum respect for youngblood, the only proper redblooded young teen lad on here.
Overcoming a drug addiction at 13, banging girls at 14, a top class amatuer junior boxer, he's the next generation's CutmeMick, with a bit of Violent D meanness mixed in.
I think lefty and Amat could both learn a lot from you.
lol I was no drug addict. I did stupidly try some shit tho was I was 11 and 12. I never measured my junk...so I dunno how I go up against CutMeMick. :dontknow:
dude, at 14, some girls may not even have their period yet.. you'd have no worries.. that's a good deal..
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Youngblood
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Bilbo
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Youngblood
lol like what? I'm not with anyone younger, so no worries there...and not with anyone so much older it will matter much. Sex is legal dude, at 14 and 15...so long as it is with those of a similar age and consent.
I have maximum respect for youngblood, the only proper redblooded young teen lad on here.
Overcoming a drug addiction at 13, banging girls at 14, a top class amatuer junior boxer, he's the next generation's CutmeMick, with a bit of Violent D meanness mixed in.
I think lefty and Amat could both learn a lot from you.
lol I was no drug addict. I did stupidly try some shit tho was I was 11 and 12. I never measured my junk...so I dunno how I go up against CutMeMick. :dontknow:
I doubt Mick is especially big but he's so smooth he probably has a stylist for his pubic hair and some kind of trendy fashion accessories to adorn his ball sacks.
If there are such things as designer shades for genitals you can be sure Mick owns several pairs.
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wrap yer whacker b4 you attack her...
Heheheheh! :P
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I think it's true that the relationship revolves around the girl...
Yep! That's how it is. Interestingly, many women out there prefer to keep things "traditional" in relationships which it doesn't surprise me why but tell them that guys would like women to go back to "traditions" which means keeping them at home to bake cookies, mop the floors, do the laundry, and keep the house clean just like the woman on Leave it to Beaver and it is totally insulting to the female gender. So which traditions should we keep then?
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Unless you are a very very evolved man and entirely have your shit together like completely that a woman just does not phase you one way or the other what they do...
Women can do cute things for me and its all good. I just don't understand why if two people are involved in a relationship it is expected/demanded for men to take care of it all.
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And I agree that men generally approach women...
I know, I wish it went both ways to keep it balanced/equal. The places where I normally get approached is when I am travelling in Asia and not just 3rd world Asian countries and those girls show lots of initiative/equality/balance. Stuff that I just don't normally see back at home (Mexico/USA).
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But you're so wrong after that point. Buy drinks, beg for number, hassle on phone, take to dinner... Man that is setting it up that she's the queen of everything
Next time a guy takes you out just take a simple look around you when it is time to pay for anything (movies, dinner, entrance to X place, etc.) and you'll see what I am talking about. Google the topic or go to any library to the relationships section and you'll see how men/women agree that men should do it all in relationships. Women consider that men who spend their money on them show they are real men, they are gentlemen, they show that they are serious, show how much they like the woman, and so on.
Does it make sense to you that men are expected/demanded to do it all in the relationship and after proposing to the girl, getting her a ring that will cost at least 2-3 months of his salary average, giving speeches to both families, etc. End up being ignored in the wedding? They are just an accesory of the bride. If a relationship involves two I don't see why not a woman would also propose, buy him an engagement ring, and everything else that is only expected/demanded to the guys. Aren't we all for equality?
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No you can approach a girl, but as soon as she's decided you're not a total loser...[quote]
See, that's another thing. If a guy doesn't have a job, a car, career, etc. It will be so difficult for him to score. If he dared himself to talk to both families about marriage in that situation, that is wrong. I can assure both sides of the families would totally disagree. Have it the other way around and it is totally acceptable. Anybody would still pick up a girl regardless. A girl is an expense as cold as it may sound but not the other way around.
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If they just had sex with him in return for nothing else
Wouldn't that be a form of prostitution? Anything in exchange for sex is prostitution. It can be from straight out cash to a fancy dinner, a designer label purse, etc.
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It's a complete misunderstaning of the dynamics of relationships to think that a woman can pull a man for sex
Then I guess I have been lucky to have some women in my life be the aggressors when it comes to sex only to have me reject their offers. Am I an Adonis? Far from it. It's just that the opportunity presented itself like that.
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right.. i mean, let's face it.. i take a girl out to dinner, maybe take care of the tab at the bar, get her some nice christmas presents, all for what? All for the fact that i'm banging some hot chick that wants to be pampered every now and then.. i'm pretty okay with that, and i don't really think that the things i mentioned burden me in any way.. i'm italian, i love eating food in any shape, i love going out to dinner.. i love drinking.. i like giving thoughtful presents, and in return i get sex? works for me!
Wouldn't a prostitute be cheaper in the long run and even better with no strings attached, no dramas, better performance, no headaches, will try anything in the book without seeing you as a pervert, etc.?
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Maybe the high maintenance girls expect drinks for you to talk to them but i refuse to talk to those girls...
Same here but also bars would be the last place I would consider to pick up women (or be picked up when I am in Asia).
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I really have never bought a girl a drink EVER while trying to talk to them.. i've taken girls out for drinks after i've met them and what not, but i refuse to spend money right off the bat...
I agree. It has even happened with girls that may not have a great paying job or are studying full time. Even when I go out with girls like that and I just don't feel like letting them pay they still go out of their way to contribute to the relationship or date in one way or the other. I totally dig that. I just got back from Thailand and I met this girl (not in the red light district) who at first was a bit hesitant to go out with me until she accepted. Girl took me out to nice places to eat, along the coast of an island, etc. We were sitting enjoying the view and she told me she would be back. Minutes later she comes back with food she bought for the two of us. I was like "No no no no, here, I'll take care of it" and she refused over and over. I took her to a nice fancy dinner at night with a great view of the beach and she accepted. It's not that complicated really. It's just equality/balance were things revolve around both. Then again, while living in Japan when I was an exchange student I met this girl out of the blue in the city. Executive look, briefcase on hand, etc. We stopped for a chat and exchanged info. Went out as a group and later started dating. I was just an exchange student but still she liked me. A girl who was surrounded by all these guys in top positions, cool cars, etc. Yet, she chose me. Took me out for dinner one night in this awesome restaurant with a great view of the city and she took care of it. Saved some money and took her to try some Mexican food later. I went back home to graduate and she surprised me on Valentine's Day by flying from Japan to my place to spend our first Valentine's Day together. I totally dig that.
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That's right. It can be something that doesn't cost a girl a single penny, but the gesture. For example, I was visiting this place in Japan that was too cold for me and the girl I was with was totally comfortable with the weather. She saw me and all of a sudden I just felt how she was putting the jacket on me and I was like "No no no, we are almost there, you wear it!" and she told me that she was totally fine with the weather. As I wore her jacket I looked at her and yes, she was right, she was all normal walking not even shaking at all. Little things like that mean A LOT to me. Sure, she may have thought that "I am the man" so therefore I could endure a few more blocks and it should be the other way around but not her offering me her jacket. All those society rules of how men should be with women. I don't see why it can't be the other way around as well.
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The engagement ring bit you're not going to escape
Heheheh! Yeah. The engagement ring, the proposal, the speech to both families, being ignored at the wedding while she is the total center of attention, honor, and celebration, etc. No feminist out there will complain about that.
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Chino
It's a complete misunderstaning of the dynamics of relationships to think that a woman can pull a man for sex
Then I guess I have been lucky to have some women in my life be the aggressors when it comes to sex only to have me reject their offers. Am I an Adonis? Far from it. It's just that the opportunity presented itself like that.
You've totally misunderstood my point Chino. Lot's of girls think they can pull guys and are pleased with themselves when they get laid.
But as I said this is a complete misunderstanding of human dynamics. When it comes to one night stands, man is the hunter, women the prey.
Any girl who think's she's pulling a guy is just deluding herself. Unless she is repulsive physically (and even then it's often not fatal) the guy will fuck her if she asks. It has nothing to do with him liking her or her 'pulling' him it's just that that's what men are biologically programmed to do.
Imagine a worm that boasted to it's friends (ok I know it would be dead but hypothetically) that birds loved it and every Robin it had approached had eaten it, as if that made it special. It would just be a very sad and stupid worm.
Likewise girls who approach men in a club to try and get laid for a self esteem boost are generally just low value or unnattractive girls, being forced to offer themselves in exchange for nothing to get attention.
A girl shouldn't boast about having lots of one night stands with men any more than a man shouldn't boast about being saddled with the same woman for 10 years and being completely under the thumb.
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Age has a lot to do with it. As I, and the sort of women that get my attention, get older, I find the women more willing to buy the first drink, make their feelings known, etc. Who does what becomes a lot less of an issue.
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Bilbo,
So you can't see a girl getting turned on by a guy and going after him for sex, her being the hunter? Heheheh! My self-esteem is going down darn it! :P I've had a few girls in the past be the aggressors. The ones who bring it up. The ones who just want to get it on. Even worse, I have rejected them.
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just that that's what men are biologically programmed to do.
I have read numerous sexology studies out there by Discovery Health, Dr. Drew Pinsky, Kinsey Reports, Masters and Johnson, Dr. Sari Locker, Dr. Ruth, etc. That show that the whole myth about "Men want sex, women don't", "sex is a man thing" is nothing but a myth. Maybe it is more socially acceptable for men to be open about their sexuality while women are looked down upon.
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Likewise girls who approach men in a club to try and get laid for a self esteem boost are generally just low value or unnattractive girls, being forced to offer themselves in exchange for nothing to get attention
How about girls that just want to because they are feeling horny and found a nice handsome, well-built, young rich guy with a cool car? We even see this kind of behavior in the animal kingdom. Sure, animals don't really "enjoy" sex as humans (except dolphins if I remember correctly). You see a female bird lifting her tail to the male bird's face who has more stored food. You see the female lion walking all slowly and seductive around the lion who has more land, who's guarding the food, etc. Have two all around nice guys approach a girl but one of them has a cool sports car, lots of money, good job, etc. While the other guy has none of that. Who will walk out of the bar with the girl? :roll:
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Chino
Bilbo,
So you can't see a girl getting turned on by a guy and going after him for sex, her being the hunter? Heheheh! My self-esteem is going down darn it! :P I've had a few girls in the past be the aggressors. The ones who bring it up. The ones who just want to get it on. Even worse, I have rejected them.
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just that that's what men are biologically programmed to do.
I have read numerous sexology studies out there by Discovery Health, Dr. Drew Pinsky, Kinsey Reports, Masters and Johnson, Dr. Sari Locker, Dr. Ruth, etc. That show that the whole myth about "Men want sex, women don't", "sex is a man thing" is nothing but a myth. Maybe it is more socially acceptable for men to be open about their sexuality while women are looked down upon.
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Likewise girls who approach men in a club to try and get laid for a self esteem boost are generally just low value or unnattractive girls, being forced to offer themselves in exchange for nothing to get attention
How about girls that just want to because they are feeling horny and found a nice handsome, well-built, young rich guy with a cool car? We even see this kind of behavior in the animal kingdom. Sure, animals don't really "enjoy" sex as humans (except dolphins if I remember correctly). You see a female bird lifting her tail to the male bird's face who has more stored food. You see the female lion walking all slowly and seductive around the lion who has more land, who's guarding the food, etc. Have two all around nice guys approach a girl but one of them has a cool sports car, lots of money, good job, etc. While the other guy has none of that. Who will walk out of the bar with the girl? :roll:
You're not getting it mate. Yes we've all had girls come onto us in clubs and been chatted up by them.
But they don't have any long term value as a result. If a girl freely offers herself to a stranger for sex then she's not pulling him, she's just offered herself basically as a sacrifice.
No man (well ok maybe a low value man will) is interested in entering into a relationship with a girl who approached him for sex when they were strangers.
They are are purely one night stand material, a bang, nothing more, because in the process of offering themselves to you on a platter they have destroyed any value that they might have otherwise had.
So I repeat a woman cannot 'pull' a man, i.e entice him to sex because that is his biological job anyway, all she's doing is offering herself without resistance.
The girls' biological role is to 'keep' a man, i.e have him still interested in her after sex. If she goes out and sleeps with strangers on the first night she has no value as a long term partner, at least not with any high value man who has any degree of choice.
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Bilbo man,
I think I got your point, correct me if I am wrong. Sure, girls can approach guys simply beause they are horny or whatever but not "pull" them as of getting them interested in them because of that, right? :) Then yeah, I agree. I am not sure if I want to be with a girl that opened her legs or bend over just because. There are many reasons: if she did that so easily with me imagine when I am not with her, if she was that slutty then maybe she doesn't have any interesting thing in her to catch my attention when we met, etc. We would all have our reasons.
But yeah, some things about relationships really don't make sense to me unless everything revolved around BOTH, not just the woman as the tradition goes.
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CGM
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Youngblood
I'm nailing everything in sight. Motto is...wrap yer whacker b4 you attack her...and that is that. Relationships currently revolve around my penis. I will make small talk if necessary, but only to keep the penis happy and fed.
Not too complicated a game plan so far.
Youngblood, last I head you were 14 or 15, so I'm assuming there are some legal, age of consent type issues you need to concern yourself with. Correct? I'm not passing any judgement, just curious.
I agree jesus christ 14 years old shouldn't be thinking about having intercourse. I find it quite disgusting, hell when i was 12 a girl asked me once if i was a virgin, i said no i wasn't. Because at that time i thought it meant had you ever made out with a girl before.
I was a totally whelk still wet behind the ears at 14, you shouldn't ever even thinking about having intercourse at 14 jesus what is the world coming to, you should be thinking of video games, sports, ETC. Anything but that.
I know i may sound like a ranting moron but i think thats whats wrong with the world today. Young uns are exposed too much to stuff like sex, drugs, ETC. Its constantly thrown in there face on music videos, tv, magazines ETC.
I first had intercourse when i was just 18 and even that was a bit too young, but i've got a serious relationship with that same girl and i have a baby on the way anytime now.
Im not saying you shouldn't go out and experience sex when your young, but 14 is a ridiculous age and that shouldn't even be entering your mind at that age. Because one day you may find out you made a mistake and you've become a father at say 15 would you be able to cope ?
I seriously doubt it im not having a pop at anyone im just giving my two cents here carry on.
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Nonito Donaire
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CGM
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Youngblood
I'm nailing everything in sight. Motto is...wrap yer whacker b4 you attack her...and that is that. Relationships currently revolve around my penis. I will make small talk if necessary, but only to keep the penis happy and fed.
Not too complicated a game plan so far.
Youngblood, last I head you were 14 or 15, so I'm assuming there are some legal, age of consent type issues you need to concern yourself with. Correct? I'm not passing any judgement, just curious.
I agree jesus christ 14 years old shouldn't be thinking about having intercourse. I find it quite disgusting, hell when i was 12 a girl asked me once if i was a virgin, i said no i wasn't. Because at that time i thought it meant had you ever made out with a girl before.
I was a totally whelk still wet behind the ears at 14, you shouldn't ever even thinking about having intercourse at 14 jesus what is the world coming to, you should be thinking of video games, sports, ETC. Anything but that.
I know i may sound like a ranting moron but i think thats whats wrong with the world today. Young uns are exposed too much to stuff like sex, drugs, ETC. Its constantly thrown in there face on music videos, tv, magazines ETC.
I first had intercourse when i was just 18 and even that was a bit too young, but i've got a serious relationship with that same girl and i have a baby on the way anytime now.
Im not saying you shouldn't go out and experience sex when your young, but 14 is a ridiculous age and that shouldn't even be entering your mind at that age. Because one day you may find out you made a mistake and you've become a father at say 15 would you be able to cope ?
I seriously doubt it im not having a pop at anyone im just giving my two cents here carry on.
So reading between the lines Ice, you've slept with one single girl and at just 21 you've got a kid on the way and are saddled in a permanent relationship? :-X
If it makes you happy man then that's great but seriously I would be crying into my cornflakes every morning, if I was looking at life with the first and only girl I got it on with.
Youngblood's got the right idea. Don't even think of settling down until you're past 30 and aim to have slept with an at least triple figure number by then.
And I WISH I was having sex at 14. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 21 :embarassed: and so will never know the joy of underage sex. He's got that chance he should sieze it.
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Bilbo
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Nonito Donaire
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CGM
Youngblood, last I head you were 14 or 15, so I'm assuming there are some legal, age of consent type issues you need to concern yourself with. Correct? I'm not passing any judgement, just curious.
I agree jesus christ 14 years old shouldn't be thinking about having intercourse. I find it quite disgusting, hell when i was 12 a girl asked me once if i was a virgin, i said no i wasn't. Because at that time i thought it meant had you ever made out with a girl before.
I was a totally whelk still wet behind the ears at 14, you shouldn't ever even thinking about having intercourse at 14 jesus what is the world coming to, you should be thinking of video games, sports, ETC. Anything but that.
I know i may sound like a ranting moron but i think thats whats wrong with the world today. Young uns are exposed too much to stuff like sex, drugs, ETC. Its constantly thrown in there face on music videos, tv, magazines ETC.
I first had intercourse when i was just 18 and even that was a bit too young, but i've got a serious relationship with that same girl and i have a baby on the way anytime now.
Im not saying you shouldn't go out and experience sex when your young, but 14 is a ridiculous age and that shouldn't even be entering your mind at that age. Because one day you may find out you made a mistake and you've become a father at say 15 would you be able to cope ?
I seriously doubt it im not having a pop at anyone im just giving my two cents here carry on.
So reading between the lines Ice, you've slept with one single girl and at just 21 you've got a kid on the way and are saddled in a permanent relationship? :-X
If it makes you happy man then that's great but seriously I would be crying into my cornflakes every morning, if I was looking at life with the first and only girl I got it on with.
Youngblood's got the right idea. Don't even think of settling down until you're past 30 and aim to have slept with an at least triple figure number by then.
And I WISH I was having sex at 14. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 21 :embarassed: and so will never know the joy of underage sex. He's got that chance he should sieze it.
Im actually 19 bro but as i said he can do what he likes, and you can too. But it doesn't mean i have to agree with it i actually think the thought of sex at 14 is disgusting IMO.
And as i've said if you don't want to settle down thats fine, thats not i was really saying Bilbo i was just saying i disagree about kids. As young as 14 having sex and to be honest, i think thats one of things thats wrong with the world today.
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Nonito Donaire
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Bilbo
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Nonito Donaire
I agree jesus christ 14 years old shouldn't be thinking about having intercourse. I find it quite disgusting, hell when i was 12 a girl asked me once if i was a virgin, i said no i wasn't. Because at that time i thought it meant had you ever made out with a girl before.
I was a totally whelk still wet behind the ears at 14, you shouldn't ever even thinking about having intercourse at 14 jesus what is the world coming to, you should be thinking of video games, sports, ETC. Anything but that.
I know i may sound like a ranting moron but i think thats whats wrong with the world today. Young uns are exposed too much to stuff like sex, drugs, ETC. Its constantly thrown in there face on music videos, tv, magazines ETC.
I first had intercourse when i was just 18 and even that was a bit too young, but i've got a serious relationship with that same girl and i have a baby on the way anytime now.
Im not saying you shouldn't go out and experience sex when your young, but 14 is a ridiculous age and that shouldn't even be entering your mind at that age. Because one day you may find out you made a mistake and you've become a father at say 15 would you be able to cope ?
I seriously doubt it im not having a pop at anyone im just giving my two cents here carry on.
So reading between the lines Ice, you've slept with one single girl and at just 21 you've got a kid on the way and are saddled in a permanent relationship? :-X
If it makes you happy man then that's great but seriously I would be crying into my cornflakes every morning, if I was looking at life with the first and only girl I got it on with.
Youngblood's got the right idea. Don't even think of settling down until you're past 30 and aim to have slept with an at least triple figure number by then.
And I WISH I was having sex at 14. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 21 :embarassed: and so will never know the joy of underage sex. He's got that chance he should sieze it.
Im actually 19 bro but as i said he can do what he likes, and you can too. But it doesn't mean i have to agree with it i actually think the thought of sex at 14 is disgusting IMO.
And as i've said if you don't want to settle down thats fine, thats not i was really saying Bilbo i was just saying i disagree about kids. As young as 14 having sex and to be honest, i think thats one of things thats wrong with the world today.
I definitely think 14 year old girls shouldn't be having sex (unless it was with my 14 year old self of course) but boys, go for it.
It's hardly a sign of decline anyway, in ancient times people were married by then with kids on the way. By 21 if a woman wasn't married she was doomed to be an old hag with the only career options either entering a convent or else joining a coven.
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Relationships may evolve around women if you allow them too, but they neednt have to. There is always the choice of chasing men if you are so inclined. ;):o
I was a stud back in the day. Women were certainly seldom shy about approaching me. In fact I dont think I ever made a concious move to pull a woman. I was just too shy for that lark. Bars are great places to meet really god awful women! ;D As for relationships, well, I never really had any relationships with those women. Bilbo's worm analogy is pretty good. You wouldnt want to get saddled down with one of them.
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miles
Relationships may evolve around women if you allow them too, but they neednt have to. There is always the choice of chasing men if you are so inclined. ;):o
I was a stud back in the day. Women were certainly seldom shy about approaching me. In fact I dont think I ever made a concious move to pull a woman. I was just too shy for that lark. Bars are great places to meet really god awful women! ;D As for relationships, well, I never really had any relationships with those women. Bilbo's worm analogy is pretty good. You wouldnt want to get saddled down with one of them.
Not that I'm into guys or anything, but If I was I suppose the good thing about being so inclined would be that you don't have to wine and dine them in order to get laid.
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Bilbo
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Nonito Donaire
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CGM
Youngblood, last I head you were 14 or 15, so I'm assuming there are some legal, age of consent type issues you need to concern yourself with. Correct? I'm not passing any judgement, just curious.
I agree jesus christ 14 years old shouldn't be thinking about having intercourse. I find it quite disgusting, hell when i was 12 a girl asked me once if i was a virgin, i said no i wasn't. Because at that time i thought it meant had you ever made out with a girl before.
I was a totally whelk still wet behind the ears at 14, you shouldn't ever even thinking about having intercourse at 14 jesus what is the world coming to, you should be thinking of video games, sports, ETC. Anything but that.
I know i may sound like a ranting moron but i think thats whats wrong with the world today. Young uns are exposed too much to stuff like sex, drugs, ETC. Its constantly thrown in there face on music videos, tv, magazines ETC.
I first had intercourse when i was just 18 and even that was a bit too young, but i've got a serious relationship with that same girl and i have a baby on the way anytime now.
Im not saying you shouldn't go out and experience sex when your young, but 14 is a ridiculous age and that shouldn't even be entering your mind at that age. Because one day you may find out you made a mistake and you've become a father at say 15 would you be able to cope ?
I seriously doubt it im not having a pop at anyone im just giving my two cents here carry on.
So reading between the lines Ice, you've slept with one single girl and at just 21 you've got a kid on the way and are saddled in a permanent relationship? :-X
If it makes you happy man then that's great but seriously I would be crying into my cornflakes every morning, if I was looking at life with the first and only girl I got it on with.
Youngblood's got the right idea. Don't even think of settling down until you're past 30 and aim to have slept with an at least triple figure number by then.
And I WISH I was having sex at 14. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 21 :embarassed: and so will never know the joy of underage sex. He's got that chance he should sieze it.
I have to agree with some of that, I had a relationship for two and a half years (17 to 19 and a half roughly) and we ended up hating each other. What a waste of 2 and a half years, 120 odd weekends of going on the pull:p
Never again, your only young ONCE!
If ICE is happy though and stays happy with his new family, I'm made up for him. Just from his character on here he will no doubt be a crackin dad and husband.
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CGM
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miles
Relationships may evolve around women if you allow them too, but they neednt have to. There is always the choice of chasing men if you are so inclined. ;):o
I was a stud back in the day. Women were certainly seldom shy about approaching me. In fact I dont think I ever made a concious move to pull a woman. I was just too shy for that lark. Bars are great places to meet really god awful women! ;D As for relationships, well, I never really had any relationships with those women. Bilbo's worm analogy is pretty good. You wouldnt want to get saddled down with one of them.
Not that I'm into guys or anything, but If I was I suppose the good thing about being so inclined would be that you don't have to wine and dine them in order to get laid.
To take a girl to dinner and wine for her to bend over its just having her act like classy prostitute. A prostitute will just stretch her hand expecting the cold hard cash. A classy prostitute will expect a dinner, wine, her favorite designer label purse or whatever, a trip, etc. It all goes down to the exchange.
If that was the case wouldn't we all be better off with a street prostitute? No strings attached, no dramas, your mobile not blowing up next morning with her messages, better performance in bed, more open minded, ready to try anything in the book, experienced in the arts of seduction and pleasure, probably in better shape and better looking, and cheaper in the long run. Sure, the element of love would be missing though :rolleyes:.
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CGM
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miles
Relationships may evolve around women if you allow them too, but they neednt have to. There is always the choice of chasing men if you are so inclined. ;):o
I was a stud back in the day. Women were certainly seldom shy about approaching me. In fact I dont think I ever made a concious move to pull a woman. I was just too shy for that lark. Bars are great places to meet really god awful women! ;D As for relationships, well, I never really had any relationships with those women. Bilbo's worm analogy is pretty good. You wouldnt want to get saddled down with one of them.
Not that I'm into guys or anything, but If I was I suppose the good thing about being so inclined would be that you don't have to wine and dine them in order to get laid.
To take a girl to dinner and wine for her to bend over its just having her act like classy prostitute. A prostitute will just stretch her hand expecting the cold hard cash. A classy prostitute will expect a dinner, wine, her favorite designer label purse or whatever, a trip, etc. It all goes down to the exchange.
If that was the case wouldn't we all be better off with a street prostitute? No strings attached, no dramas, your mobile not blowing up next morning with her messages, better performance in bed, more open minded, ready to try anything in the book, experienced in the arts of seduction and pleasure, probably in better shape and better looking, and cheaper in the long run. Sure, the element of love would be missing though :rolleyes:.
True enough Chino, I see your point, I think. My last post was more of a joke. I guess wining and dining lets a girl know you think enough of her to go the extra nine yards. Truth be told I never complained, but if I got the picture that this sort of thing was expected to continue, we usually didn't last too long. Myself I was lucky that most of my girlfriends didn't come with high expectations for deluxe treatment. Swiss Chalet suited them fine.
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Chino
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CGM
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miles
Relationships may evolve around women if you allow them too, but they neednt have to. There is always the choice of chasing men if you are so inclined. ;):o
I was a stud back in the day. Women were certainly seldom shy about approaching me. In fact I dont think I ever made a concious move to pull a woman. I was just too shy for that lark. Bars are great places to meet really god awful women! ;D As for relationships, well, I never really had any relationships with those women. Bilbo's worm analogy is pretty good. You wouldnt want to get saddled down with one of them.
Not that I'm into guys or anything, but If I was I suppose the good thing about being so inclined would be that you don't have to wine and dine them in order to get laid.
To take a girl to dinner and wine for her to bend over its just having her act like classy prostitute. A prostitute will just stretch her hand expecting the cold hard cash. A classy prostitute will expect a dinner, wine, her favorite designer label purse or whatever, a trip, etc. It all goes down to the exchange.
If that was the case wouldn't we all be better off with a street prostitute? No strings attached, no dramas, your mobile not blowing up next morning with her messages, better performance in bed, more open minded, ready to try anything in the book, experienced in the arts of seduction and pleasure, probably in better shape and better looking, and cheaper in the long run. Sure, the element of love would be missing though :rolleyes:.
Okay Chino here is where what your trying to say gets confusing.. #1, if you're just trying to bang a girl, you may have to take her to dinner, pay for a few things to get the job done.. that's one situation..
but if you're talking about someone who you're dating and you're looking to marry and you STILL feel burdened by these things that need to be done then you need to find another woman.. You shouldn't be worried about all of those tasks that you explained if you're with someone you want to be with.
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lol awesome...a teenager with a kid on the way...talking down to another teen about the virtues of not having teen sex. Wheeeee!
Hey...I use protection. What's yer excuse?
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lol awesome...a teenager with a kid on the way...talking down to another teen about the virtues of not having teen sex. Wheeeee!
Hey...I use protection. What's yer excuse?
;D
You're a funny fucker youngblood
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My last post was more of a joke. I guess wining and dining lets a girl know you think enough of her to go the extra nine yards
CGM,
Sure, but I also want to know she is willing to go the extra nine yards and just accepting to have me take her out and feed her, rub my arm, or sending me a happy face on a text message won't do it. For that, I have my relatives' children I can take out to the movies, to eat, buy them toys, etc.
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Myself I was lucky that most of my girlfriends didn't come with high expectations for deluxe treatment
Good to hear that mate! :) The ones I have felt the most balance/equality so far are Asian girls (not westernized), specially Japanese.
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Okay Chino here is where what your trying to say gets confusing.. #1, if you're just trying to bang a girl, you may have to take her to dinner, pay for a few things to get the job done.. that's one situation...
RP33,
Which is prostitution no matter what :rolleyes:. Maybe prostitution in a higher scale or something ;D. "I give you something to eat in a fancy place and you give me sex" kind of deal.
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but if you're talking about someone who you're dating and you're looking to marry and you STILL feel burdened by these things that need to be done then you need to find another woman...You shouldn't be worried about all of those tasks that you explained if you're with someone you want to be with
Good points :) . But to find a woman who is willing to have the relationship revolve around both of us, I am not sure if it will be easy to find. We'll see.
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but if you're talking about someone who you're dating and you're looking to marry and you STILL feel burdened by these things that need to be done then you need to find another woman...You shouldn't be worried about all of those tasks that you explained if you're with someone you want to be with
Good points :) . But to find a woman who is willing to have the relationship revolve around both of us, I am not sure if it will be easy to find. We'll see.[/quote]
I think your problem is that you seem to see a girlfriend as someone your trying to be with just so she will have sex with you.
Sex has very little to do with a relationship I find. Once I've been with a girl for a few weeks/months the thrill of sex with them has long since died and you're concentrating on building a life together (actually on trying to hold your ground over what few basic freedoms you have left, the longer a relationship lasts the more of them she takes away)
I'm not saying you don't have sex any more, but it certainly doesn't define the relationship beyond a few months.
If all you want is sex just go to the clubs and bars at the weekend. You don't need to pay them anything, today's modern women are sluts and hoes, at least a large percentage are.
If you are having to take a girl to dinner in order to hope that they sleep with you sorry to say you are just being played.
It kind of sounds to me though that you are just extremely shallow (nothing wrong with that really) and want to skip out on the part where you actually get to know each other and just get down to boning the shit out of them. Most girls at least like to know it's them that you like, and not just the fact that they have some holes you want to fill.
Just consider the dates and meals as building comfort with her. She wants to know your intentions are more than just sex and that you're going to stick around after she's given herself up to you.
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I think your problem is that you seem to see a girlfriend as someone your trying to be with just so she will have sex with you
Not really. I have refused sex in past ocassions from girls who were the agressors, the ones who "wanted it". I just didn't.
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Sex has very little to do with a relationship I find. Once I've been with a girl for a few weeks/months the thrill of sex with them has long since died and you're concentrating on building a life together
Yeah, sex will die eventually.
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If all you want is sex just go to the clubs and bars at the weekend. You don't need to pay them anything, today's modern women are sluts and hoes, at least a large percentage are.
That's right. That is why paying women with dinners/wine for sex or paying them straight out cold hard cash is not my thing. As old fashioned as it may sound and even cheesy/corny I rather have sex when married but to be convinced that marriage is something for me is a bit difficult unless I was a woman ;D.
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It kind of sounds to me though that you are just extremely shallow (nothing wrong with that really) and want to skip out on the part where you actually get to know each other and just get down to boning the shit out of them.
Nope, like I said, I have rejected sex from other girls that wanted it. Those girls are gorgeous, in good shape, etc. They asked me right there on the spot if I was sick, depressed, or if I was just gay. I told them that I simply didn't want to. That's it. So sex is just an extra really. I just want things to revolve around BOTH and not just her as tradition dictates it.
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Most girls at least like to know it's them that you like, and not just the fact that they have some holes you want to fill
That's right. I also want to know they like me and not just have me as their free dinner, free movies/event, free handiman, free stuff, and wakling ATM.
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Just consider the dates and meals as building comfort with her. She wants to know your intentions are more than just sex and that you're going to stick around after she's given herself up to you.
I agree and I wouldn't mind waiting until marriage if necessary. Would dates and meals work as comfort for her? Sure, why not. My girl taking me out on dates and meals FOR ME AS WELL works just the same. Both giving/contributing to the relationship in all aspects and not just me rowing the boat by myself.
Then there are other details where I wonder why its only the guy that has to do it even in the 2000s and even after all the complaining women do about equality: giving the ring, proposing, speeches to both families, and being honored and celebrated at the wedding as much as her. I would faint with a smile on my face if my girl did AT LEAST one of those.
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Youngblood
lol awesome...a teenager with a kid on the way...talking down to another teen about the virtues of not having teen sex. Wheeeee!
Hey...I use protection. What's yer excuse?
Im not really a teenager anymore im a young man at 19.
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Nonito Donaire
Im not really a teenager anymore im a young man at 19.
Spell out your age for me in letters, and report back with last 4 letters plzktnx. :)
Look, i appreciate the advice I get on diff. things...stuff like 'meh don't break the law' or 'be careful with' or any of that sort of deal, cuz means folks looking out ya dig...so I make sure I listen to that stuff and make sure I got it coverd.
So maybe that is what you are doing too, Ice...in your own way I spose. Anyway dude, I wish you luck. No worries...I'l be careful and not too terribly disgusting. Well, no promises on the disgusting.
