For all of those who are broken hearted.....

In my -- years of experience with the woman i have dated. I would have to say that this last one hurt the most when she dumped me to go out with another guy. But it isnt like i havent had worst ive been cheated on seen her with my own eyes and she still denied it. But still this last one makes me want to freak the fuck out. THe difference in this relationship and all of the others has to be how close we got in the year and a half we were together and yet she can still throw me away like that. I see her everyday and yet i try to make a relationship work with her but her new boyfriend makes me want to kill someone. She is all up for being friends but it makes it hard to have to be around her boyfriend and all. TO tell you the truth the guy isnt a bad guy at all just that he would be the cause for this. He is still a good guy i dont disrespect him or anything but to think how he was before and thinking on how he did such a fucking betraying thing to someone was once considered a friend. people just throw people out of their lives like they are garbage. you know meant something at one time but you use it and then you are done with it so you throw it away. That makes me want to freak out. And she still tells me that she didnt break up with me because she didnt want to go out with me she said it was because she wanted to see what else was out there. And now she is talking to me and asking why it is that i hang out with such different people now. truth is i dont just that i prefered hanging out with her and didnt have much time to hang out with those people but now that im not going out with her i can hang out with them. SHe seems to think that i have changed but truth is i just started hanging out with more of my friends thenb before. I also picked smoking back up after quitting for two years i quit just before i met her. but the stress of all of this just stirred an almost dead ember. gas to the fire. so many things have gone wrong this year so far. If anyone out there wants to respond tell me what you think of my rant if you have experienced this or anything close i would like to hear that. thanks for reading.

It's difficult to say man....some chicks really don't know what they want, some like fucking with your head and playing games, and some are the type you can settle down with.....the sick part of it is those three different girls can actually just be one girl at different points in time.

Everyone has had a rough go with the ladies at one time or another...maybe even Steelie. But the key is to be happy with yourself....not in like a sick way but if you can't be happy without a girl then it's going to either be harder to be happy with a girl or you're going to go nutzo if she leaves you because you went "all in" emotionally.

Just be happy the sun comes up each day and everything else is gravy

wow dude thanks that actually makes me feel so much better....you are right and i think that is my worst flaw really. i dont see myself as in deserving anything and just losing someone like that makes me beleive that even more. thank you...: )

No problem, life is much easier when you realize you don't HAVE to have all the stress and drama all the time. You make choices to have that shit around or not and once you understand that then it empowers you.

Steelie?

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Steelie?

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Lance Henriksen?

yeah there is too much drama in this world as we know it today. sometimes drama is necessary yet most times it is more of an obstacle than a help.

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Originally Posted by Mr. Montage

yeah there is too much drama in this world as we know it today. sometimes drama is necessary yet most times it is more of an obstacle than a help.

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Damn. You're like 10 time champion in saddo arcade games. ;D

Cheer up man. It's only a woman. Just bang one of her girlfriends or something. You'll feel better. Just like they, "don't get mad, get even!".

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Originally Posted by Mr. Montage

In my -- years of experience with the woman i have dated. I would have to say that this last one hurt the most when she dumped me to go out with another guy. But it isnt like i havent had worst ive been cheated on seen her with my own eyes and she still denied it. But still this last one makes me want to freak the fuck out. THe difference in this relationship and all of the others has to be how close we got in the year and a half we were together and yet she can still throw me away like that. I see her everyday and yet i try to make a relationship work with her but her new boyfriend makes me want to kill someone. She is all up for being friends but it makes it hard to have to be around her boyfriend and all. TO tell you the truth the guy isnt a bad guy at all just that he would be the cause for this. He is still a good guy i dont disrespect him or anything but to think how he was before and thinking on how he did such a fucking betraying thing to someone was once considered a friend. people just throw people out of their lives like they are garbage. you know meant something at one time but you use it and then you are done with it so you throw it away. That makes me want to freak out. And she still tells me that she didnt break up with me because she didnt want to go out with me she said it was because she wanted to see what else was out there. And now she is talking to me and asking why it is that i hang out with such different people now. truth is i dont just that i prefered hanging out with her and didnt have much time to hang out with those people but now that im not going out with her i can hang out with them. SHe seems to think that i have changed but truth is i just started hanging out with more of my friends thenb before. I also picked smoking back up after quitting for two years i quit just before i met her. but the stress of all of this just stirred an almost dead ember. gas to the fire. so many things have gone wrong this year so far. If anyone out there wants to respond tell me what you think of my rant if you have experienced this or anything close i would like to hear that. thanks for reading.

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I can relate to pretty much all of that mate. I am a really strong person in most respects, but when it comes to woman I am so weak it borders on pathetic. I am going through a really bad relationship situation at the moment, something I can't really talk about on here in case anybody I know sees it, but fair to say I am rock bottom. Nothing anybody tells you in these situations really helps at all! Good luck moving forward mate

thanks good luck with ur deal ......

Wow,that sounds exactly what i've been through over this great woman i met a few years ago.She was everything to me,she had a great personality and fantasic looks.She was the best looking woman i've seen in me life.I met and dated women before i met this lass in question,but none of them were like her.For me she was the "ONE".We were together just over a year.She was my best friend as well as my girfriend.We would just get all soo well together.But i knew it was all to good to be true from the started and she evetually dropped a bombshell on me with a txt while i was grafting me arse off on a building site.Me heart felt like it had been ripped out and thrown on the floor.I throught it was a joke when i read the txt message.So i went to phone her up on my lunch break but she had switched off her phone.So i left her a message on her voicemail.It was'nt till later that day she sent me another txt telling me again that it was all over and she did'nt even wanted to be friends"which hurt the most!"I went to phone her straight back again as soon as i recieved the message but yet again she did'nt answer.Then i recieved another txt off her a bit later telling me not to phone her again.It really pissed me off to be hurt like that and not getting a explanation of why she ended it.Thats all i wanted to know from her.

Thing is,people kept on saying to me,you'll get over her in time,but you know what i've never have really even after 3years.I mean i've met great women since afterwards,but their've picked up that im not over another women and their leave me too.

Thing is it makes me stronger now.Known i've be hurt.I count it as her loss not my.And i know one day she'll regret leaving me,i know she will.

Hang in there mate,your not the only one.

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Wow,that sounds exactly what i've been through over this great woman i met a few years ago.She was everything to me,she had a great personality and fantasic looks.She was the best looking woman i've seen in me life.I met and dated women before i met this lass in question,but none of them were like her.For me she was the "ONE".We were together just over a year.She was my best friend as well as my girfriend.We would just get all soo well together.But i knew it was all to good to be true from the started and she evetually dropped a bombshell on me with a txt while i was grafting me arse off on a building site.Me heart felt like it had been ripped out and thrown on the floor.I throught it was a joke when i read the txt message.So i went to phone her up on my lunch break but she had switched off her phone.So i left her a message on her voicemail.It was'nt till later that day she sent me another txt telling me again that it was all over and she did'nt even wanted to be friends"which hurt the most!"I went to phone her straight back again as soon as i recieved the message but yet again she did'nt answer.Then i recieved another txt off her a bit later telling me not to phone her again.It really pissed me off to be hurt like that and not getting a explanation of why she ended it.Thats all i wanted to know from her.

Thing is,people kept on saying to me,you'll get over her in time,but you know what i've never have really even after 3years.I mean i've met great women since afterwards,but their've picked up that im not over another women and their leave me too.

Thing is it makes me stronger now.Known i've be hurt.I count it as her loss not my.And i know one day she'll regret leaving me,i know she will.

Hang in there mate,your not the only one.

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Mate the way she treated you was unforgivable. In a strange way I think it's easier to deal with that, than some other situations, becuase you can hate somebody when they act like that and you can realise you don't want somebody like that anyway!

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Wow,that sounds exactly what i've been through over this great woman i met a few years ago.She was everything to me,she had a great personality and fantasic looks.She was the best looking woman i've seen in me life.I met and dated women before i met this lass in question,but none of them were like her.For me she was the "ONE".We were together just over a year.She was my best friend as well as my girfriend.We would just get all soo well together.But i knew it was all to good to be true from the started and she evetually dropped a bombshell on me with a txt while i was grafting me arse off on a building site.Me heart felt like it had been ripped out and thrown on the floor.I throught it was a joke when i read the txt message.So i went to phone her up on my lunch break but she had switched off her phone.So i left her a message on her voicemail.It was'nt till later that day she sent me another txt telling me again that it was all over and she did'nt even wanted to be friends"which hurt the most!"I went to phone her straight back again as soon as i recieved the message but yet again she did'nt answer.Then i recieved another txt off her a bit later telling me not to phone her again.It really pissed me off to be hurt like that and not getting a explanation of why she ended it.Thats all i wanted to know from her.

Thing is,people kept on saying to me,you'll get over her in time,but you know what i've never have really even after 3years.I mean i've met great women since afterwards,but their've picked up that im not over another women and their leave me too.

Thing is it makes me stronger now.Known i've be hurt.I count it as her loss not my.And i know one day she'll regret leaving me,i know she will.

Hang in there mate,your not the only one.

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Mate the way she treated you was unforgivable. In a strange way I think it's easier to deal with that, than some other situations, becuase you can hate somebody when they act like that and you can realise you don't want somebody like that anyway!

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Thing is though,even know she moved away down south and i have'nt seen her for about 3years,i would try to get back with her if i was to bump into her.Oh it was kind of bad.I was'nt going to let her slip out of my grip too easly.I was really fond of her and tryed me hardest to get some kind of connection.I did eventually talk to her after she left me.I phoned her up while i was drunk on new years and wished her Happy new year and asked how she was doing since afetr she left me.Not once during the our chat on the phone did i ask her why she fucked off and left me.I wanted too,but i know that i did she would just hang up straight away soo i did'nt want to spoil the moment.Soo i asked her if she wanted to be friends and she said yes,so i told her that when she was up my way sometime we could hang iout as friends and she agreed but im still waiting!

see that sounds bad sorry to hear that dude. THe thing about what is going on with me is that she is always around me with the other guy and it hurts just to see them together. It pissed me off at first but now it is just a pain that i cant seem to get past it has been about half a year since she broke up with me. But texting and using that as the tool of the breakup sounds the worst i have been dumped that way but most chicks are at least good enough to tell me to my face. She shouldnt have treated you that way. You sound like a good guy so it sounds just wrong to do that to someone. i went out with my ex for like a year and a couple months but i see her everyday. and she keeps f****ing with me talking " i really miss you" then i would ask "why you broke up with me not the other way" Almost like it wasnt good enough to break up with me but to keep f***ing around with me after...

This may sound really bad, but I never stayed friends with an ex. It's too painful. The only way I can deal is to cut all ties completely. It's very hard to do for a few weeks, but in the long run it's best for your mental state.

All that "I missyou" stuff is just her trying to make you still want her! Girls don't want you to stop wanting them even when they don't want you!

What a bunch of faigs we are ;D

Seriouslly though, I can deal with most things, e.g when I was 23 I was about £25,000 in debt and I never lost a minutes sleep! I've lost jobs and been out of work (before been married) and not given a shit! Day-today stuff can't get to me, but woman are my weakness and the right woman (and there aren't many like that) can reduce me to a whimpering little kid lol

it really just pisses me off that she would keep it up even after she broke up with me. she is a serious hazard to my mental being also. but i was such good friends with her before and i cant see where my life would go if i didnt try to mend the relationship.

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it really just pisses me off that she would keep it up even after she broke up with me. she is a serious hazard to my mental being also. but i was such good friends with her before and i cant see where my life would go if i didnt try to mend the relationship.

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If you think you can still live your life having to see her all the time and be friends, then that's the right thing for you. Personally, as hard and horrible as it would be to beging with, I would cut all ties with her and move on with your life.

i guess i cant be as assertive as you im more a wimpering child than you i just cant cut the ties because seeing as most my friends are friends with her and that would mean cutting them out too. i would be left with less that a handful of true friends .

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i guess i cant be as assertive as you im more a wimpering child than you i just cant cut the ties because seeing as most my friends are friends with her and that would mean cutting them out too. i would be left with less that a handful of true friends .

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Just do what's best for you mate. At times like this you gotta think about number 1!!

true that..... thanks man.

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i guess i cant be as assertive as you im more a wimpering child than you i just cant cut the ties because seeing as most my friends are friends with her and that would mean cutting them out too. i would be left with less that a handful of true friends .

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Just do what's best for you mate. At times like this you gotta think about number 1!!

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Good straight forward advice there mate.Look after number one(yourself)and just get on with things!What i kept on doing to keep me from thinking about my stunning ex all the time,was to go out jogging and let off some steam.I really do think she'll regret leaving me some day i really do.Im not wishing she'll regret me,but i have a strong feeling she will.I class the situation about her leaving me in such a crappy way as,Its her loss not my!One day i think she'll kick herself.

Some chicks really pick the worst way of breaking someones heart are they really trying to do it that way. ive gotta beleive that they do and you guys are right i gotta blow off steam. Fuck this whole deal sucks but it will get better. so many ways people have told me to do it and i cant really make it with most of them but most have helped little bit but my mind keeps going back to that and it just gets worse. She will regret it. but she still has to make sure she does right for her and i will do the same. thank you all for the feed back.

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Some chicks really pick the worst way of breaking someones heart are they really trying to do it that way. ive gotta beleive that they do and you guys are right i gotta blow off steam. Fuck this whole deal sucks but it will get better. so many ways people have told me to do it and i cant really make it with most of them but most have helped little bit but my mind keeps going back to that and it just gets worse. She will regret it. but she still has to make sure she does right for her and i will do the same. thank you all for the feed back.

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My advice: Do nothing for now.




As time goes by inevitably another girl will come by and realize the good guy in you that Im sure your ex still things about(thats why she keeps you hoping for her to be back to you).Once this new girl arrive into your life and your ex is put in your shoes. Your ex seeing you with your new girl, your ex will feel the same pain she put you through.

My next advice: Do not get back with your ex ever!...but lead her on and remain friends if you still care about her.


Just hang in there for now and things always gets better. I think the less your ex sees you the more she'll want to see you. So spend extra time away and act busy when your ex ask question. That drives girls crazy when they get zero updates on you. To save your sanity you must take control of the situation. It'll be hard but you must occupy yourself, do things you enjoy and everything should fall right onto your advantage. Eventually a new girl will walk right into your life and thats exactly what your ex does not want!

Montage, I gotta second Big H for you man. Number 1 is the key. I've been through some pretty shit break ups in my time and one beauty. I spent nearly a year and a half with a girl, she was indian and she was absolutely beautiful. So normal and down to earth. She was a Graphic Designer like myself and we were the best of friends I tell ya.

Barely a day went by that we weren't together. Now, baring in mind i'm a white man, you can probably write the ending yourself. Her parents were no way going to accept me. It was never to be i guess right from the start. What was worse was it totally felt like she just dropped me like a piece of shit when i wasn't needed or suited anymore. Disposable if you like. That hurts like shit but these are lessons that you learn.

The main thing that you mentioned earlier is that you only have a handful of true friends. Now, thats all that you need my man. Believe me. Everyone has tonnes of friends, but when the shit hits the fan regardless of what it is, you know youv'e got the true ones around to tell you what you need to hear.

One thing is for sure from the response your getting is that your most definately not on your own on this subject. It feels like shit, but it won't always be that way.

Take it easy dude. I'm goin to get a beer after that rant of mine. Anyone else want one while i'm goin.........

I've been in that situation before. I was more mad than sad. But I got over in about 3 months when I met someone. My advice is just talk to someone and stay busy with something productive. Go to the gym, work out, etc..

I gotta say that all of these responses to my post is amazing. i have learned alot from what people have suggested and told me. thank you all i know this will help me most in the end. you were all right i need to move on and find a new woman who will be even better for me. Keeping busy will also help me. thanks/./././

Yeah have experienced it and im only 20 lol My ex broke up with me by phone when i lived just around the corner from her. Then i asked to speak to her 2 weeks later because i wanted closure and she said she would. 5 mins before i was supposed to meet her, she texted that she didnt want to talk to me and wanted to leave things the way they are. I wasnt given a reason at all. I told her i wouldnt bad mouth her and she promised she wouldnt either. I kept my end of the bargain, she didnt apparently lol She wont even look me in the eye these days and thats a yr ago lol Im way over it, quite happy to be single and she has a new bf (if you ask me, hes a step down from me lol hes a little nerdy lookin bloke). I introduced myself to her new bf and the guy nearly shit himself haha

Havent really been with anyone since the break up, long story made short...i now have trust issues. If a girl has interest in me, i find it very hard to trust them and i usually end up fuckin it up coz i live in a small town where everyone knows each other and im very weary of who i crack onto lol Recently this week i have had sucess with this one girl but i get flash backs of situations i had with my ex when certain topics come up. I realise from this situation how much easier single life is, sure relationships are nice but fuck they cause some stress.

true that.... i have the situation of respecting her too much to really hurt her boyfriend. i could break him he is pretty scrawny but i have respect for both of them. So when i first found out they were dating i scared him shitless because i told him if i ever see her cry i was going to break his f***ing legs. he took a pretty big scare to that...lol.

My advice to anybody under the age of 40. STAY SINGLE! Relationships are too painful!!

wow. that is a bit extreme. one night stands all around.lol

Girls just f*** with the mind man like my bro is saying .... if you really put everything into it then it could just end in ruins... ive been through pretty much the same thing but im not going to explain it and everytime you think about it you always feel kinda bad....

wow. i dont remember you being through anything quite like i have.

Stop being gay and get over it. Join a Morrissey site if you want empathy. :rolleyes:

Shut the fuck up if your going to be a little bitch about it. you dont have to read. so fuck off.

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Shut the fuck up if your going to be a little bitch about it. you dont have to read. so fuck off.

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Dont worry mate, miles was just trying to rile ya up, just kiddin round you know ;)

Yeah i kn ow... but he is still a dick

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I am such an uncontrollable dick. :eek:;D

Don't get so worked up for crying out loud. No pun intended there by the way. ;)

I happen to like Morrissey there is no shame in that. He has had a quiff since 1764. Now that is quite a feat for a man with a receding hairline.

yeah i know i over reacted to that and i am sorry for it. I was looking for someway to help me get over her and then people say stuff like that. It isnt quite the best thing to hear you know?:nono:

If you are looking for answers on a hidden board on a boxing forum......you are pretty much fucked mate.

The answers to life are pretty simple. Get a good book and some booze. Try to live somewhere with nice weather. Some people dont have lives worth living, only they don't realize until they are too beaten down and cowardly to do anything about it.
If you trust people you will be disappointed. Life is pretty shitty regardless, but if you dull your senses for a year or so......it may be bearable.