Marrying a woman mostly for her looks

What are the pros and cons of this? I know most guys want that perfect 10 model type but alot of them grow out of it as they get older. ONce they mature, they look for other qualities in women, and not just looks.

I know marrying a woman with a good personality is the right thing to do but for some reason, i put so much stock into a woman's looks and i just can't get past it.

It's like a great looking woman can make up her lack of personality with her looks. IT's so fucked up that i think like this but i can't help it.

Enlighten me fellas and ladies.. What are the pros and cons of spending a lifetime with a real hot woman

you have some serious thinking here in multiple threads
what r u up to?

Dont think you should marry under false pretenses.
So if you marry her and take the sacred oath, what if she gets in an accident and her looks are gone what then?What of your kids ? The whole family unit does it all suffer cause you are shallow? Women all grow old too,your brain and eyes will stay at 20 year old male level like we all do.
I take it from another thread you are a player when shes away? I recon you are better off having a discussion with her right from the start. If you play the field and muck her around behind her back dont get married,why get married? Why swear on your life about something you cant deliver?

Unless by agreement she knows you want to be a player for ever. She may want to as well,its only fair. Just think the two of you can become swingers and go around fucking everyone else who thinks the same as you do.

If shes innocent of all that stuff, leave her alone, cause it wont last and you dont care enough about her only yourself and that is not love.

Why even fucking marry? What's the point? Married or not you still gonna get your dick sucked by your neighbors 19 year old daughter whenever she's home from college. Like I said, what's the point?

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Originally Posted by NVSemin

you have some serious thinking here in multiple threads
what r u up to?

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Im going through some shit right now bruh and i need to make a choice.

I used to date this girl who was introduced by my mother . This girl is my mom's best friend's daughter and our family planned our marriage since childhood. She's well educated, classy, comes from a great background, she can cook real well and has great personality but there isn't much going for her lookewise.. That's the main reason why i stopped seeing her in the first place. What a shallow asshole right.

Well my current girl is on vacation right now outer country so ive been hanging out with my ex again.. With this girl, I just feel real comfortable and I know for a fact that being with her will benefit my future, career wise and everything, but I just dont feel anything sexual with her.. I believe sexual chemistry is a huge factor in a relationship and I just dont get that from her..

My current girl though, she's the exact type of girl I painted in my head as a teenager.. She's 9 years younger than me, has a flawless body, perfect breasts/ass, face and the whole nine.. She's the kind of girl that every guy stares at when we are walking together.. But the downside is that she's emotionally/materialistically high mainteance and kind of conceited. She doesn't have much going for her career wise and she comes from a dysfuntional family.. Her main asset is her looks and she knows it. PUssy is so good but she drains me mentally and makes me lose focus..

I feel greedy . I want it all but i know it's not possible.. Super hot girls lack in alot of areas but the below average one has everything else going for her... IT aint fair man..

What do you think?

Like VD says, why even marry? it just doesnt seem you are cut out for it yet. Not the good looking one or the better one.

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Originally Posted by Andre

Dont think you should marry under false pretenses.
So if you marry her and take the sacred oath, what if she gets in an accident and her looks are gone what then?What of your kids ? The whole family unit does it all suffer cause you are shallow? Women all grow old too,your brain and eyes will stay at 20 year old male level like we all do.
I take it from another thread you are a player when shes away? I recon you are better off having a discussion with her right from the start. If you play the field and muck her around behind her back dont get married,why get married? Why swear on your life about something you cant deliver?

Unless by agreement she knows you want to be a player for ever. She may want to as well,its only fair. Just think the two of you can become swingers and go around fucking everyone else who thinks the same as you do.

If shes innocent of all that stuff, leave her alone, cause it wont last and you dont care enough about her only yourself and that is not love.

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I can't disagree with you. Ive been thinking alot lately about what love is and Im not sure what to think anymore. What is love anyways? Ive been with quite a few girls and I dont thinkive ever truly loved any of them.. All the girls i got with because they were either real hot or had a style , personality I never thought much of.. Am I just a shallow person?

I want to settle down and i really would love to have genuiwine feelings for a girl but it's not happening..

My current girl.. Im not sure if im in love with her looks or if I really love her for who she is.. I dont know Andre..

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Originally Posted by FinitoElDinamita

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Originally Posted by NVSemin

you have some serious thinking here in multiple threads
what r u up to?

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Im going through some shit right now bruh and i need to make a choice.

I used to date this girl who was introduced by my mother . This girl is my mom's best friend's daughter and our family planned our marriage since childhood. She's well educated, classy, comes from a great background, she can cook real well and has great personality but there isn't much going for her lookewise.. That's the main reason why i stopped seeing her in the first place. What a shallow asshole right.

Well my current girl is on vacation right now outer country so ive been hanging out with my ex again.. With this girl, I just feel real comfortable and I know for a fact that being with her will benefit my future, career wise and everything, but I just dont feel anything sexual with her.. I believe sexual chemistry is a huge factor in a relationship and I just dont get that from her..

My current girl though, she's the exact type of girl I painted in my head as a teenager.. She's 9 years younger than me, has a flawless body, perfect breasts/ass, face and the whole nine.. She's the kind of girl that every guy stares at when we are walking together.. But the downside is that she's emotionally/materialistically high mainteance and kind of conceited. She doesn't have much going for her career wise and she comes from a dysfuntional family.. Her main asset is her looks and she knows it. PUssy is so good but she drains me mentally and makes me lose focus..

I feel greedy . I want it all but i know it's not possible.. Super hot girls lack in alot of areas but the below average one has everything else going for her... IT aint fair man..

What do you think?

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Can't hide being married. Once you marry you losing one. So don't marry. Hang out with the ugly one during the day. Just to make sure you eat well and your laundry gets done. Than you tell her your brakes are bad. Behind on bills. Lost a couple of bets. Whatever. Point is you short on ends. Since she got a good job it shouldn't be a problem giving you money. Take the money and go wine and dine the good looking one. Fuck her. And go sleep on the ugly ones couch. That way you there for breakfast. Problem solved.

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Originally Posted by FinitoElDinamita

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Originally Posted by Andre

Dont think you should marry under false pretenses.
So if you marry her and take the sacred oath, what if she gets in an accident and her looks are gone what then?What of your kids ? The whole family unit does it all suffer cause you are shallow? Women all grow old too,your brain and eyes will stay at 20 year old male level like we all do.
I take it from another thread you are a player when shes away? I recon you are better off having a discussion with her right from the start. If you play the field and muck her around behind her back dont get married,why get married? Why swear on your life about something you cant deliver?

Unless by agreement she knows you want to be a player for ever. She may want to as well,its only fair. Just think the two of you can become swingers and go around fucking everyone else who thinks the same as you do.

If shes innocent of all that stuff, leave her alone, cause it wont last and you dont care enough about her only yourself and that is not love.

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I can't disagree with you. Ive been thinking alot lately about what love is and Im not sure what to think anymore. What is love anyways? Ive been with quite a few girls and I dont thinkive ever truly loved any of them.. All the girls i got with because they were either real hot or had a style , personality I never thought much of.. Am I just a shallow person?

I want to settle down and i really would love to have genuiwine feelings for a girl but it's not happening..

My current girl.. Im not sure if im in love with her looks or if I really love her for who she is.. I dont know Andre..

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Do you know whats she wants out of life herself? What are her ideals and her aims?

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Originally Posted by Violent Demise

Why even fucking marry? What's the point? Married or not you still gonna get your dick sucked by your neighbors 19 year old daughter whenever she's home from college. Like I said, what's the point?

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For a sense of security I guess.. Just knowing that you have a good wife and kids waiting at home takes a man long ways imo. A man is able to totally focus once he's accomplished that imo. WHo doesn't want to settle down and start a family.. U have kids, dont you?

There are so many woman out there but it's so hard to find the right one. A well balanced female is the best option I think but I dont see too many of them.

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Originally Posted by Andre

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Originally Posted by FinitoElDinamita

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Originally Posted by Andre

Dont think you should marry under false pretenses.
So if you marry her and take the sacred oath, what if she gets in an accident and her looks are gone what then?What of your kids ? The whole family unit does it all suffer cause you are shallow? Women all grow old too,your brain and eyes will stay at 20 year old male level like we all do.
I take it from another thread you are a player when shes away? I recon you are better off having a discussion with her right from the start. If you play the field and muck her around behind her back dont get married,why get married? Why swear on your life about something you cant deliver?

Unless by agreement she knows you want to be a player for ever. She may want to as well,its only fair. Just think the two of you can become swingers and go around fucking everyone else who thinks the same as you do.

If shes innocent of all that stuff, leave her alone, cause it wont last and you dont care enough about her only yourself and that is not love.

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I can't disagree with you. Ive been thinking alot lately about what love is and Im not sure what to think anymore. What is love anyways? Ive been with quite a few girls and I dont thinkive ever truly loved any of them.. All the girls i got with because they were either real hot or had a style , personality I never thought much of.. Am I just a shallow person?

I want to settle down and i really would love to have genuiwine feelings for a girl but it's not happening..

My current girl.. Im not sure if im in love with her looks or if I really love her for who she is.. I dont know Andre..

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Do you know whats she wants out of life herself? What are her ideals and her aims?

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She's 23 and doesn't really have any goals. She grew up spoiled by her stepfather so she pretty much expects the same from me. She has that princess syndrome.

She's not interested in getting an education, doesn't like to cook, has no career goals... Im not sure if she's just immature or if this is how she is as a person..

Whenever my married friends ask me why I was able to be with her for so long..All i can think of is because of how fine she is and good she is in bed..

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Originally Posted by FinitoElDinamita

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Originally Posted by Violent Demise

Why even fucking marry? What's the point? Married or not you still gonna get your dick sucked by your neighbors 19 year old daughter whenever she's home from college. Like I said, what's the point?

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For a sense of security I guess.. Just knowing that you have a good wife and kids waiting at home takes a man long ways imo. A man is able to totally focus once he's accomplished that imo. WHo doesn't want to settle down and start a family.. U have kids, dont you?

There are so many woman out there but it's so hard to find the right one. A well balanced female is the best option I think but I dont see too many of them.

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Yeah. I got 3 sons. Each with there own mom. And I dislike all 3 equally.

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Originally Posted by Violent Demise

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Originally Posted by FinitoElDinamita

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Originally Posted by Violent Demise

Why even fucking marry? What's the point? Married or not you still gonna get your dick sucked by your neighbors 19 year old daughter whenever she's home from college. Like I said, what's the point?

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For a sense of security I guess.. Just knowing that you have a good wife and kids waiting at home takes a man long ways imo. A man is able to totally focus once he's accomplished that imo. WHo doesn't want to settle down and start a family.. U have kids, dont you?

There are so many woman out there but it's so hard to find the right one. A well balanced female is the best option I think but I dont see too many of them.

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Yeah. I got 3 sons. Each with there own mom. And I dislike all 3 equally.

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I hear that alot.. Did any of them take you to court for child support or do you guys work it out amongs yourselves?

I have some buddies in that situation.. SOme broads are blood sucking leeches then there are some that are cool about it.

How does it feel to love a woman?

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Originally Posted by FinitoElDinamita

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Originally Posted by NVSemin

you have some serious thinking here in multiple threads
what r u up to?

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Im going through some shit right now bruh and i need to make a choice.

I used to date this girl who was introduced by my mother . This girl is my mom's best friend's daughter and our family planned our marriage since childhood. She's well educated, classy, comes from a great background, she can cook real well and has great personality but there isn't much going for her lookewise.. That's the main reason why i stopped seeing her in the first place. What a shallow asshole right.

Well my current girl is on vacation right now outer country so ive been hanging out with my ex again.. With this girl, I just feel real comfortable and I know for a fact that being with her will benefit my future, career wise and everything, but I just dont feel anything sexual with her.. I believe sexual chemistry is a huge factor in a relationship and I just dont get that from her..

My current girl though, she's the exact type of girl I painted in my head as a teenager.. She's 9 years younger than me, has a flawless body, perfect breasts/ass, face and the whole nine.. She's the kind of girl that every guy stares at when we are walking together.. But the downside is that she's emotionally/materialistically high mainteance and kind of conceited. She doesn't have much going for her career wise and she comes from a dysfuntional family.. Her main asset is her looks and she knows it. PUssy is so good but she drains me mentally and makes me lose focus..

I feel greedy . I want it all but i know it's not possible.. Super hot girls lack in alot of areas but the below average one has everything else going for her... IT aint fair man..

What do you think?

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Been in that situation a few times.. absolute stunner of a gf.
9 times out of 10 girls like that are nasty pieces of work and after one thing.

Your money ;-)

it's clear you're not ready for marriage, don't do it just to have someone there, that's not fair to her at all and not to you

Marriage is a partnership. Obviously physical attraction is important but when you are going through the trials and tribulations that every couple does you won't be concerned with how perky her tits are but does she make you laugh and when things go south can you depend on her. I second Missy, you are in no way ready to get married.

Oh and VD is pure fucking genius! I got to figure out how I've been missing out on the hot 19 yr old neighbor's blow jobs though.

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Originally Posted by Howlin Mad Missy

it's clear you're not ready for marriage, don't do it just to have someone there, that's not fair to her at all and not to you

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agree here. I think marriage for the topic starter is a selfish move to secure the ownership of the girl only for himself, which comes from the inner insecurity that one day she will dump him

From my experience it doesn't matter how good looking a girl is, if there is nothing there but sex, after about 6 months to a year you will get bored of the same pussy.

I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years and was seeing other girls at the same time, had an fling at the office, but always come back to her because there is something more than just the sexual attraction. She makes me laugh like no one else can which I think is really important. I never thought that she was the best looking girl but I wouldn't change her for anything now and find her more attractive than anyone else.

I have just found out I'm gonna be a father to her child and I couldn't be happier.

So my advice is stick with someone who you can build a full well rounded relationship with rather than just someone you want to fuck. And if that fails join a swinging club.

Try all that and be satisfied with a steady relationship first. It sounds like dwelling on marriage right now may be putting the cart before the horse. I don't think anyone should get married in hopes of finding security be it financial or mental. Get secure in yourself first...women don't want insecure dudes. At least half of everyone I know on a daily basis is divorced, some a couple of times. Or are "stuck" as they say which I think is bullshit. Looks fade, age comes, substance is revealed regardless if you are ready or not when you get beyond a prepared package or presentation. I worry about people who want to be seen saying something rather than heard first. Things can be overlooked in someone if you 'care' about them enough so its not a uniformed question, one size does not fit all.

Working construction as a young man afforded me some great life lessons. I once worked with this old salty electrician that had been a millionaire twice and lost it all. He once told me (in your best gravely southern draw) "VC, the best pussy in the world is a lot like a much needed hot shower, once you've been in it a while it just aint that hot anymore. Now quit belly aching about your highschool girlfriend and get back to work you sorry bitch." Wiser words may have never been spoken.

You have to get a girl who you can take out without be ashamed of. spend a few grand on her, so nice dresses, nice heels. haircut, new boobs, whatever that's looks good. she have to look good from the beginning tho. working with a decent one is just to much work.

It will never work out mate, I give it 18 months tops.

forget the stunner forget the hottie. they are full of shit. remember that. they focus on their looks and looking great just to get guys like you who value that above so many other things. dont be a sucker. any girl can put on makeup and the right clothes and look just as hot as any other girl.. They are human beings, they are not dolls to be get all dressed up to please your eye. If you marry for looks you will be divorced in 3 years.

Buy the "plain jane" some clothes that you think are "hot" if you need "hot" so much, buy her some "hot" clothes, then you will get all worked up looking at her. If that's what important. I tell you ALL women are beautiful, every single one fo them, all women are God's gift to this world, its the men that are the fucking scumbags, the ones who go for goodlooking girls and skip the mediocre ones. There are no mediocre ones. There are no inferior ones. They are all beautiful. Problem with most men is that they dont realize this until they are like 40 years old. All women are goddesses. ALL.

I agree all women are goddesses, it's just that some look like Lakshmi and others look like Ganesh.

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I agree all women are goddesses, it's just that some look like Lakshmi and others look like Ganesh.

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Originally Posted by FinitoElDinamita

What are the pros and cons of this? I know most guys want that perfect 10 model type but alot of them grow out of it as they get older. ONce they mature, they look for other qualities in women, and not just looks.

I know marrying a woman with a good personality is the right thing to do but for some reason, i put so much stock into a woman's looks and i just can't get past it.

It's like a great looking woman can make up her lack of personality with her looks. IT's so fucked up that i think like this but i can't help it.

Enlighten me fellas and ladies.. What are the pros and cons of spending a lifetime with a real hot woman

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I'm a lot like you, physical attraction for me is a must, especially at first as that is what generally brings two together, whats different is I have been married for 31 years and both of us has changed in the looks department. The important thing is that you not only love each other but also like each other. Looks and body will never make up for personality and it sounds like you don't even like the hot one, so have your fun and move on to someone you can love and like.


A real hot women will not stay that way forever unless you love her. The happiest guy I know is married to a fat homely looking women in my eyes, but they love and like each other and they take care of each other no matter what and that's the key.

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Originally Posted by VictorCharlie

Working construction as a young man afforded me some great life lessons. I once worked with this old salty electrician that had been a millionaire twice and lost it all. He once told me (in your best gravely southern draw) "VC, the best pussy in the world is a lot like a much needed hot shower, once you've been in it a while it just aint that hot anymore. Now quit belly aching about your highschool girlfriend and get back to work you sorry bitch." Wiser words may have never been spoken.

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How had he twice blown "millions?"

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Originally Posted by VictorCharlie

Working construction as a young man afforded me some great life lessons. I once worked with this old salty electrician that had been a millionaire twice and lost it all. He once told me (in your best gravely southern draw) "VC, the best pussy in the world is a lot like a much needed hot shower, once you've been in it a while it just aint that hot anymore. Now quit belly aching about your highschool girlfriend and get back to work you sorry bitch." Wiser words may have never been spoken.

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How had he twice blown "millions?"

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I believe he was originally in O&G and got caught in an oil bust in the 80s. The second time I think involved an unhealthy gambling addiction and nasty divorce. Either way he was the kind of guy scripted by movie writers.

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Originally Posted by VictorCharlie

Working construction as a young man afforded me some great life lessons. I once worked with this old salty electrician that had been a millionaire twice and lost it all. He once told me (in your best gravely southern draw) "VC, the best pussy in the world is a lot like a much needed hot shower, once you've been in it a while it just aint that hot anymore. Now quit belly aching about your highschool girlfriend and get back to work you sorry bitch." Wiser words may have never been spoken.

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How had he twice blown "millions?"

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Same way Tyson blew half a billion