So, I've just been sent home from work....

I've been struggling a hell of a lot just lately, money is tight, I got offered a new job which was on a lot more money than I earn now only for them to withdraw the offer the day before I was due to hand my notice in so that pissed me right off.

Work has been terrible, the amount that they pile up on us is crazy and I have been hit twice as bad as everyone else.

Every day I am missing court dates, I am getting litigation in on a daily basis, I'm missing deadlines, I'm basically working 100% non stop on new claims the entire time that I am there and I'm not getting the chance to look at my existing work.

Last month I cancelled a week off work because I was actually too stressed to take any time off, I flagged this up with the management and their solution was to spend more time in the office unpaid.

Its got to the point where I am not sleeping properly because I'm worried about work, I have started to hate weekends because I spend the whole time with work on my mind.

Today I hit the breaking point, I just froze at my desk, I couldn't move, I told my gaffa I needed to have a talk and basically unloaded on her, she knows just how much they have been piling onto me and I've gotta be honest it felt fucking good, she called someone in from HR who had a chat with me and told me that we would get everything sorted on Monday and not to worry about anything, it really feels like its a weight off my mind.

I never ever thought that I would get to the point that work would break me, I'm not the only one, I know of 5 other people who are at the same point as me at the moment and one person who hasn't been in the office since November because of work related stress.

I'm sitting down now with a nice large glass of rum and I feel like the weight of the fucking world has been lifted off my shoulders, this morning I actually felt like I was going to have a full on nervous breakdown, I'm kind of looking forward to getting into work on Monday now with a fresh outlook knowing that I am going to get a bit of help to get my work in order again.

You should have told them earlier if it was that bad.

Work hate being taken to employment tribunal for causing stress. Glad you told them, just mention stress to them on Monday and they will have to try and look after you a bit better.

I had to take on a staff member that had been off sick for a while and she had hundreds of emails. I clicked them all and deleted them for her. The relief on her face was good to see.

I had another staff who was wobbling all over the place and I sent her home and told her to have a good weekend.

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Originally Posted by Master

You should have told them earlier if it was that bad.

Work hate being taken to employment tribunal for causing stress. Glad you told them, just mention stress to them on Monday and they will have to try and look after you a bit better.

I had to take on a staff member that had been off sick for a while and she had hundreds of emails. I clicked them all and deleted them for her. The relief on her face was good to see.

I had another staff who was wobbling all over the place and I sent her home and told her to have a good weekend.

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I thought you were a taxi driver ?

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Originally Posted by Master

You should have told them earlier if it was that bad.

Work hate being taken to employment tribunal for causing stress. Glad you told them, just mention stress to them on Monday and they will have to try and look after you a bit better.

I had to take on a staff member that had been off sick for a while and she had hundreds of emails. I clicked them all and deleted them for her. The relief on her face was good to see.

I had another staff who was wobbling all over the place and I sent her home and told her to have a good weekend.

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I did tell them and they just kind of let it rumble on, I think that my team leader saw that I was pretty much at breaking point today and I think she knows that I would be liable to do something pretty fucking stupid, I'd probably end up chinning someone or putting my fist through my computer screen or something.

I think I have managed to catch it early enough on to get over it pretty quickly, like I say I already feel better for it.

It just feels strange because in my 32 years on this planet I have never got to this point, it takes a lot to stress me out, yeah I can get pissed off pretty easily and I can complain and whinge like a mother fucker but I'm one of those people who is only happy when they are miserable (in a good sort of way) but this feels completely alien to me.

@Batman good you unloaded like that bro. You cannot keep that stuff inside for so long next time. Tell them earlier. They're taking advantage of you. What kind of absolute b******* is that unpaid time at work? That is against the law. Every minute you are there you are legally entitled to get paid for. There's no such thing as unpaid time at work. Don't let them pull a fast one on you. Good that you spoke up. Keep speaking up.

Good for u batman. Work isn't always supposed to always be pleasant but you shouldn't be miserable everyday. Enjoy ur cocktails this weekend, I do hope they follow through on Monday

Hey, take care bud . Don't let it get so bad that you're getting stressed, it ain't worth it. try to keep a clear head and do what you can do. And make sure they follow up with their promises.
As long as you can look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you have done an honest days work, then you have no other fucker to answer to really .

@Batman I have to relate something similar. We had a three hundred pound motor that hangs about twenty feet in the air and was surrounded by conduit and a catwalk giving almost no access to it. I've changed plenty of motors but this one was a monster. It's really a four person job but it was up to me and my coworker. I tried asking my boss for a little guidance which is something I never do. He gave me a completely unrealistic way to remove and install it. Well in the end me and my coworker got it done, of course not the way my boss told us as it was impossible. Frickin boss didn't even walk out to look at the motor. Anyway, sometimes bosses are idiots and don't know what they r doing

That boss was a very uncaring person. What an absolutely unhelpful self-absorbed piece of garbage. Two workers ask for his guidance and he cannot even be bothered to walk out and look with his own eyes? That is one of the worst bosses I have ever heard of

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Originally Posted by Master

You should have told them earlier if it was that bad.

Work hate being taken to employment tribunal for causing stress. Glad you told them, just mention stress to them on Monday and they will have to try and look after you a bit better.

I had to take on a staff member that had been off sick for a while and she had hundreds of emails. I clicked them all and deleted them for her. The relief on her face was good to see.

I had another staff who was wobbling all over the place and I sent her home and told her to have a good weekend.

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I thought you were a taxi driver ?

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Better than being a toilet cleaner.

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That boss was a very uncaring person. What an absolutely unhelpful self-absorbed piece of garbage. Two workers ask for his guidance and he cannot even be bothered to walk out and look with his own eyes? That is one of the worst bosses I have ever heard of

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He really is Brock, I can't relate how tough that motor was. I almost lost a finger and my coworker almost fell off the lift. It was also a nine hour job. I should have left it to blow for my boss. It was leaking oil and the gears were starting to turn into flakes, it prob had a week left

Sh-t that's no good bro. At the end of the day it's only a job. Don't ever let yourself get to that point again mate. Like Master says mention stress as much as you can and they'll be walking on egg shells to try and accommodate you, I would also suggest taking some leave, just to recharge the batteries and get your mind straight. Tell HR that the solution given to you was to work more unpaid hours. That's just crazy.

My only suggestion to @Batman is drink more

Good on you bud for catching it early..hey early 30's is early ;D..and addressing the issue. Believe it or not you can die on a job and not even know it. Next thing you know you turn around, you're in your 40's with daily stress with no idea of what happened to the last 10+ years. I've started telling all of the younger workers coming in to save some for yourself. Just means that no matter how deep the hole is you find yourself or overwhelmed you feel, you have to have something left to offer when you go on to bigger things, and you will. Hectic work loads need a starting and stopping point and separation or they just blur together and you spiral downward and crash. Good managers or team leaders recognize their people in trouble and solutions can be as simple as a day off but more so them acknowledging you work and insuring there is proper delegation and team effort so as not to burn out valuable employees. Nothing wrong with putting your feet up and taking the earned time off either. Time, our time, is something we will never get back after all. Good luck!

Take care of yourself mate we work for money never make work your life.!
Remember sometime we do too much and it is expected as the norm your only a number I am glad you got it off your chest.l
Don't drink to much lol.

You work to live you don't live to work

Just thought I'd give you all a quick update.

Monday I felt terrible, worse than I had before, I felt like I had made a massive mistake and that shit was going to come tumbling down around me. I felt sick for the majority of the day, once I got the day out of the way I realized that it wasn't too bad.
I'm feeling a lot better about it now, they have switched me off so I'm not getting any more new work at the minute and even though its only been three days I can actually feel the difference, I've got a few of my real shit files sorted now, I've got a load more to get through but I'm getting there.

It had got to the point where I was just getting home and watching shit on telly, some nights I was ready to go to bed at 8pm, I hadn't read a book for weeks, hadn't played my guitar or piano, I was waking up in the middle of the night thinking about certain files that I hadn't actioned or that I had fucked up on.

I think that one of my problems is that when it comes to social interaction I'm pretty shit, I've said on here before that I am pretty misanthropic and if someone asks me how I'm doing I find it difficult to lie to them, if I'm feeling shit then I'll tell you I'm feeling shit, it may not sound like a bad thing but it got to the point where all I could do was complain about work whilst I was at work and the fact that I choose to live alone meant when it consumed me I didn't have anyone to take my mind off it when I wasn't there, if I was still in a bad mood when I got home from work I would just brood on it and make myself feel worse.

I still shit myself everytime my phone rings because I'm worried about which one of my files I've fucked up on now but it'll get better over the next few weeks.

It might not sounds like a lot but I've never felt like that before and my managers shouldn't have allowed it to get to that point, I'm not the only one, there are plenty of others who I know feel exactly like me but they haven't hit the point where they have had to say anything yet.

I really do feel lucky that I have told them how it was getting me now though because I feel like I've caught it before it grew into anything serious, and at least if I do end up getting into this sort of state again then I can tell them about it.

Anxiety, stress, feelings of inadequacy, feelings of dread and doubt, an external locus of control.....yeah that's some heavy duty stuff right there...nobody truly knows what a sense of dread is until it washes over them and boy that is just chilling when that happens. I mean even if you watch that happen to someone else it's scary....gives me the shivers.

That's terrible that you haven't felt in the mood to read (though that might be a good thing, depending on the circumstances), play guitar or piano, and you're still able to watch crap tv eh? That all sounds like it sucks pretty fucking bad. A couple of things you can TRY to help work yourself out of this rut 1. EXERCISE get out and do something to work your muscles out and get whatever little ray of sunshine you can get in the UK because that helps too. Exercising releases endorphins and melts negative stress away and sunshine also helps one feel happier. 2. Fake it til ya make it. So right now you're unhappy to say the least well take a little time, imagine what happy people (or people feeling how you would like to feel) are doing and then do those things and the idea is that in doing those activities you will then start feeling those feelings you associate with those activities ie the opposite feelings to whatever you're feeling now.

Now for this whole social interaction stuff I understand that some people are introverted and some people are shy and some people get nervous, but dude if you can post in a forum you can deal with people in real life. You ask questions, talk about current events, dude you read like some sort of roided up reading machine on crystal meth so I'm kinda saying you've ALWAYS got something to talk about and let me tell you lots of folks DON'T read, they don't have time, they don't enjoy it, they're too impatient, etc but what they DO have time for is a STORY now as a well read sob you know what you have a plethora of? STORIES! You can bring up literally any book you've read and it'll be interesting conversation trust me. As for people judging you, dude you've read more books than I can count, if there's something negative to say about that I'm having a hard time trying to find it and that pretty much covers for any other social disability you think you may suffer from. I mean 'Rainman' just shouted out random factoids and everyone seemed to do ok with him unless you touched him soooo don't be so fucking harsh on yourself. Don't build something up in your mind that is too big for you to overcome.


When I said that it might not be the worst thing if you don't opt for reading right now I mean that these negative feelings you're experiencing right now, those are internal, introspective feelings and reading is something where you kind of stay in your own head so I think you might could use a little reset. Reset yourself, clear out all the negative bullshit and in order to do that you're going to need to focus on something else, something external ergo physical exercise is a positive thing to pick up around this time. Get yourself up and moving and hell maybe try painting or sculpting or gardening or whittling hell anything where you're working with your hands and focused on something external.

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Just thought I'd give you all a quick update.

Monday I felt terrible, worse than I had before, I felt like I had made a massive mistake and that shit was going to come tumbling down around me. I felt sick for the majority of the day, once I got the day out of the way I realized that it wasn't too bad.
I'm feeling a lot better about it now, they have switched me off so I'm not getting any more new work at the minute and even though its only been three days I can actually feel the difference, I've got a few of my real shit files sorted now, I've got a load more to get through but I'm getting there.

It had got to the point where I was just getting home and watching shit on telly, some nights I was ready to go to bed at 8pm, I hadn't read a book for weeks, hadn't played my guitar or piano, I was waking up in the middle of the night thinking about certain files that I hadn't actioned or that I had fucked up on.

I think that one of my problems is that when it comes to social interaction I'm pretty shit, I've said on here before that I am pretty misanthropic and if someone asks me how I'm doing I find it difficult to lie to them, if I'm feeling shit then I'll tell you I'm feeling shit, it may not sound like a bad thing but it got to the point where all I could do was complain about work whilst I was at work and the fact that I choose to live alone meant when it consumed me I didn't have anyone to take my mind off it when I wasn't there, if I was still in a bad mood when I got home from work I would just brood on it and make myself feel worse.

I still shit myself everytime my phone rings because I'm worried about which one of my files I've fucked up on now but it'll get better over the next few weeks.

It might not sounds like a lot but I've never felt like that before and my managers shouldn't have allowed it to get to that point, I'm not the only one, there are plenty of others who I know feel exactly like me but they haven't hit the point where they have had to say anything yet.

I really do feel lucky that I have told them how it was getting me now though because I feel like I've caught it before it grew into anything serious, and at least if I do end up getting into this sort of state again then I can tell them about it.

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@Batman if you need someone to talk to Brock posts his phone number here on the forum every couple months trolling for friends. Just don't give him your real name or he will internet stalk you

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Needed to bring back batmans thread. I left work early last Sunday as I caught a laceration at the job. Needed to head to the hospital for stitches. I've been waiting for the company nurse to call me to get these stitches removed. I'm gonna have to head to the hospital now to get them removed, I think they are becoming part of my skin. This is the second time I received stitches from work. I get payed a decent wage but I'm starting to think it's not worth the risk of injury. Oh well, that's my bitch for the day.

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