Yikes! what is going on!? HELP!

[AdamGB]

Argh... OK... me and a girl I've been with for just over a month now are breaking up soon (we both agreed to 'just have fun' before we started going out because she's going away for a very long time soon... ) We decided to break up because we're both young (20 and 1 so I don't think it's fair that we wait around for each other... and we've not been together long enough to, plus I think we both know (though no one has said it) that we'd inevitably cheat on each other.

At first she didn't seem to want to go out with me... says she is going away soon and gets easily attached to people. like I said... I said we may as well go for it but not get too serious... we both like each other.

I thought that I'd be OK and probably have to deal with her being upset about leaving me but then what I thought was the opposite happened... we've seen each other practically everyday since we started going out but after about 2 weeks I was going crazy man... I need her... I've never never needed anybody... I could just sit and hold her forever... when I'm not with her... I miss the way she smells and the sound of her voice... the way she feels... breathes... everything! If I see her but only for an hour or two it makes me crazy!

She's away until sunday and I'm cracking up (she was round last night for god's sake! )... I wasn't sure if she felt the same but she's called me up... slightly drunk and she tells me that she's started missing me already... I tell her I missed her as soon as I woke up, anyway we talked about us and how we're not gonna be together soon and other stuff but she has to get off the phone... to cut a long story short she says two words (she was slightly drunk so I don't know what it means... when I'm drunk I just say what I wouldn't when I'm sober... but it's the truth) I've been dreading but wanting to hear: I love you

The scary thing is I almost said the same back... I tried to but the words just got stuck in my mouth... because I've never really loved a women who isn't my mum before... I don't know whether I'm in lust or love... I just know how much I'm gonna miss her soon. I've never been able to say that to any one... not even my dad when he was on life support... my mum or anyone...

We've never really had a cross word... stupid stuff she does pisses me off though... we were out on Wednesday and were both pretty hammered... I knew before we went out that she sometimes has a few draws off a tab when she's drunk but I never seen her do is till this night... can't describe how pissed off I was with her... I can't fucking stand smoking... proper smoking... it's pretty fucking harmless to smoke like 1/8th of a cigarette a month or what ever... you breath in more shite waiting for the bus... But it was as if I was smoking when she done it... those who know me from the training section will now how much I look after my body... well it was as bad as if she was putting that shite in my body Girls I've liked before... it wouldn't have bothered me unless they properly smoked. Had to tell her off then bite my lip trying to to rant and rave and ruin her night.

The thought of her ever being with any one else... argh... makes me angry... if I got to the bar whilst we're dancing or what ever and other guys go near her even if they're not dancing with her it fucks me off... some lad tried to dance with her and the only thing I could think of doing other than setting about him (which I never do unless I need to) was to barge through half the dance floor and get off with her. help me Saddo brothers... what the fuck is happening. I'm not falling properly in love for the first time with the one girl I went out just to have some fun with?

[Punisher136]

As i've stated previously, i'm a self-centered asshole who sees women (and everyone else for that matter) as objects. There's more than 1 hot girl in the world, let it go.

[AdamGB]

No help... it's definitely not just cos she's beautiful

She just gets me.

[Punisher136]

lol she gets you huh? You want someone one to talk to about stuff, hire a shrink.

[AdamGB]

I think you're sort of missing the point of a forum here... :P

Hire this:

*gonna delete that pic... it's just wrong!*

I did just post that in my own heart broken romeo thread didn't I? :P

[Punisher136]

i'm not talking about you posting that stuff here, im talking about you think this person magical understands you better than anyone else. When most people say ?they get me" that means they can talk to them about w/e and im saying if you're messed up about this person because they look good and you can talk to them, just hire a shrink. If you wanna kill 2 birds with one stone, hire a hot female shrink that takes "doctor-patient confidentiality" to a whole new level.

[AdamGB]

She's gonna have to be the cheapest hot female shrink on the market...

[TheBESTP4P]

hey bro i barely glanced at this but im here for u and i got ya back! i gotta run and make an inventory run right now tho so ill posts some REAL TALK when i get back!

hollar

[AdamGB]

I'm getting some much needed sleep now but cheers mang!

If you help me enough you can be warlord...

[Lords Gym]

fucking hell mate, .. your first real girlfriend..??. that is a mind jogger there.. I remember that feeling of wanting full control of the situation and the jealousy . Its a phase you got to work out on your own mate, no easy answers… my best advise is don’t get too attached if your going to stray.. Its not fair to either of you emotionally . Peace out my brother- god bless

[amat]

Good on not saying I love you back mate She was drunk, if you said it back sober it might have complicated things. Keep your cool, don't let her know that her not being there is drivin you crazy even if it is, that way if she wants another chill relationship like the one you had then the avenue stays open for that.

And don't make a big deal about the cigarettes. I agree cigarettes are fucken nasty, and smoking anything for a girl isn't really attractive (I can let weed and the occasional whatever slip though) but you don't want to make a big deal. Especially if she does it when she's drunk. What you can do is kind of bring it up in a joking manner, like I know your secret kind of laughing you know then top it off with that's nasty and then switch the subject. But don't go off over cigarettes that's a bit much so you did good by biting your tongue.

[TheBESTP4P]

honestly bro what your feeling in NATURAL for you are human. keep in mind tho that you are quite young. this is the proper age to be going thru these types of situations/experiences and yes even drama. its a healthy thing to be experiencing this now rather than your later years its what makes your wiser/stronger/conditioned believe it or not to handle even bigger issues later on.

all that being said, i think your just over annalyzing the situation a bit. she obviously vibed real well with you for the short time you guys were together and thats cool. but you also had a couple hang ups about her(smoking, flirting etc). i think you both made the wise decision intially to just be casual since theres gonna be a long distance thing coming soon. all these feelings your feeling about her believe it or not will PASS! sooner than later. u my boy adamgb your a good looking guy, you got good pesonality, your funny, which means getting and meeting new girls aint a thang for you! you aint like some of the fukkkin losers on this forum who we all know couldnt score a girl if they paid a prostitute.

anyways my point is this bro. your young, good looking, got pesonality, you got a bright future ahead of you! your gonna be meeting some of the finest girls you ever encountered in your liek probably for the next 10years or so. some will have shitty personalities and some will blow your mind away and make you want to fall in love with them all over again. so thats what you have to realize........ a man in your shoes should never trip out over a girl especailly at your age man. you got your whole PRIME YEARS ahead of you LITERALLY!

[TheBESTP4P]

further more bro if i knew what i know now what i didnt know when i was 20 damn bro id def clock more DIME PIECES than i did. i was stressing over BS and nonsense back then and u shouldnt make the same mistakes man. never let a girl come in your way of achieving your goals/priorities/dreams man.

im 28 right now 8 years older than you bro been there done that.

but seriously bro how many cats u know who are 28 and running shiiiiit like i am right now, i got properties, businesses, corporations, i take pimp asss vacations and hook up with DIMES where ever I CHOSE TO! on top of that i write everything off as a business expense on my companys business credit card.
i got executive producers harassing me asking me when am i gonna do their film and tv projects with them?etc etc

the point is i wouldnt be where i am today if i let some stupid biotch get the best of me and dominate me or control me or mess with my head. now a days i got girls buying me shiiiiiiit and like i said im clocking DIMES in every city i travel to.

so bro you say shes going away for a MIN and then shes coming back later right? so do ya thang and when she comes back see where you both are at. but in the mean time DO YA THANG SON!

[TheBESTP4P]

this one dime piece i was messing with in my early 20's said it best to me she said, "It's not important whether things work out between me and her...........what's important is that we both got to say what we both wanted to say........"

think about that man that shit is DEEP son!

[TheBESTP4P]

oh yeah and why would i wanna be WAR CHIEF when im CYRUS the president of the biggest gang in new york the RIFS!