Hi Need Advice tired of being abused....

[Deafman]

Hi I am Deaf and communicate by ASL ( American Sign Language ). I am tired of being physically abused by cruel bullies. I am a 29 years old man and never really had to fight and there is a burning fire to learn now. I am fed up and angry. I am not in the best shape. Almost no excersice and I stand 5'8 and weigh 280 lbs. I live in the country in a small town with no boxing gym and plan to move to the big city as soon as possible to live with the Deaf community. I want to be strong as much as possible and capable of defending myself if I go home to visit my mom on Thanksgiving or Christmas or during the summer time. I do not have alots of money. I looked at some calithensics and remembered my high school gym training... how can I get started without hurting my back? I have a fat stomach so I am walking jogging and running when I can because I can not do a situp that is how bad and embarrassing it is with my shirt riding up exposing my fat stomach for all people to see and it makes me angry that the kids make fun of my stomach and the girls do not take a 2nd look at me and the guys try to punch my stomach and make fun of me... I am fed up and taking charge now and to become at least physically fit when I move to the big city and go to the boxing gym where the boxing coach will have more of an easier time training me please? I do not want to injure myself in the process of getting physically fit. Thank you and God Bless, Deafman

[danne__]

dont let any one mess with you . I wont go into details on that :P anyways i have been heavy with a big stomach myself once and i wanted to avoid working out... my suggestion is find urself motivated enough and u cant stop go true with it ... try to find a 5km jogging range witch you will jogg 5 times a week for about 3 months. after that you will be skinnier and if u want to build up muscels or whatever you go to the gym its gona be easier to start skiny to work out to build at least it was for me :>(at the begining u wont make the 5km i dident but just try as utch as you can in about 4 times jogging you willl have pimroved 4x and will be able to do it if u do your best :P

[rebekah]

what ya gotta do is start by takin it slowly and build up ur trainin regime once u feel capale of doin say a longer run or more push ups etc, obviously a healthy diet is important so cut back on any of the shit u might eat, jog, skip, run, star jumps, will really help and perhaps do some weights again start of fairly reasonable, you dont want to injure yourself once youve started ul soon find that u can do sit ups noy many at first.

all youve got too do is take your time and eat healthily, dont let them get to u, lifes to short.


good luck and keep us updated xxx

[sinity]

80% of loosingweight is in what you eat..So eat a high protein diet like tuna, chicken, turkey , samon,etc. The good carbs like vegetables,a nd fruit, and oatmeal..Stayaway from the breads, rice, and pasta. EAt smallmeals but 6 or 7 of them..Every two or 3 hours..this increases your metabolism...Do some reasersaswell to find out more....I also suggest you geta physical to rule out any medical reasons thast might be stoping you from loosing the weight.
I've seen 600 pound people loose like 400 pounds! You can deffinitely do it if you put your mind to it. It will take a while, but keep your eyes on the goal..Of course exercise will help too. Fast walking is great too untill you can build yourself up to jogging..
Good luck to you..

Sin

[Howlin Mad Missy]

First off, good for you for taking charge of your life. People don't realise how hard it can be if you are big to go to a gym because of they are often treated.

Deafman, take it easy to begin with. Walking is a great place to start and doesn't put as much stress on your joints as running would do. Build up to speed walking 60 minutes a day.
Are there any martial arts classes in your town? this may be a useful alternative to boxing for now.

If you feel fit enough you can start to jog-slowly, if it hurts -go back to walking.

If there is a gym with weights I strongly recommend going. Weights can really alter your shape, and the instructor wil be able to tailor a programme that will help your back.

You know what you need to do.

Cut out the junk food.
Increase your aerobic exercise
Pick up the weights.

[Snakey]

First off, good for you for taking charge of your life. People don't realise how hard it can be if you are big to go to a gym because of they are often treated.

Deafman, take it easy to begin with. Walking is a great place to start and doesn't put as much stress on your joints as running would do. Build up to speed walking 60 minutes a day.
Are there any martial arts classes in your town? this may be a useful alternative to boxing for now.

If you feel fit enough you can start to jog-slowly, if it hurts -go back to walking.

If there is a gym with weights I strongly recommend going. Weights can really alter your shape, and the instructor wil be able to tailor a programme that will help your back.

You know what you need to do.

Cut out the junk food.
Increase your aerobic exercise
Pick up the weights.

Even when ive been fit i have never been able to jog coz i have bad joints in my ankles. So i stick to walking about 6 kms a day and i do some bike riding.

[alex w]

well my man you seem to be in a real bitch of a situation
there are a couple of things you might want to know before we start.
im 17 years old. when i was 10 i was clinically obese, standing at 5ft 3 and weighing 230lb. i was the kind of kid that you would see on tv on the shows. i had to go and see a doctor and with hard hard excersize and help i got down to 170lb within the same of around 5 years.

slow change, maybe, but i was a kid who loved to eat, i was never really on top of my diet, i used to eat and eat. even though i so desperately wanted to be thin i couldnt resist eating when my parents werent looking. when my dad died, i made an oath with myself that i would do everything i could to get better. and i did

im now 5ft 11 and i weight 200 , and im not fat atall, you can even start to see abs.
i started to keep a monthly photo journal of me, to see if i had made a difference that month. i started getting obsessive with it all. i stopped these at the age of 15 cause i got depressed if i diddnt make a gain, but i still have all the pictures, ill send you the last one i took (bearing in mind the cheezy haircut that was cool back then, and the fat that i had never been near a weight in my life)

[img width=800 height=600]http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v632/alexweeden/longstorybehindthisone.jpg[/img]

if you really sick of all this, and realy determined then i have help for you, cause i have had to go through the same thing.
what you got to do is put your pride on the shelf and do everything in your power to lose that weight, and i have just the ticket.

[Andre]

Deafman you will have special gifts mate.
Maybe your sight or reaction to sight could surpass  ours ?In that case you  would be able to see a punch comming easier.
Watch the centre of people and keep their knees and elbows in your perifial vision so you can see their intention prior to movment and stay out of foot and arms reach so they have to step into you to get contact ,so you have made time to react.

I had a mate who was born deaf and he was the strongest dude we all knew when he got going (everyone feared him ,but he didnt realize it).
I have a deaf freind now and she is the glue that cements together some people who wouldnt normally come together in this life.

She has a humor towards her disposition that shows through and melts away peoples fears.
You  do the same mate,I see you have humor through your avatar name , smile and enjoy every moment your given and those people who taunt or throw pretend jabs at you will give up because your  unattached reaction wont be what they were looking for.
I think many of your natural gut intincts will give you a definate edge over the other minor few who want to get physical .

Hows your balance is it effected?

[Howlin Mad Missy]

Even when ive been fit i have never been able to jog coz i have bad joints in my ankles. So i stick to walking about 6 kms a day and i do some bike riding.

that's fine, not saying you have to jog - it's just often the most readily available & cheapest exercise, not everyone can afford a decent bike/gym membership but most of us can put on some running shoes and hit the road.
I've got dodgy knees through martial arts so I mix it up, if people push themselves swimming is a great exercise, as is the cross trainer.

Alex - great post.

[Snakey]

Even when ive been fit i have never been able to jog coz i have bad joints in my ankles. So i stick to walking about 6 kms a day and i do some bike riding.

that's fine, not saying you have to jog - it's just often the most readily available & cheapest exercise, not everyone can afford a decent bike/gym membership but most of us can put on some running shoes and hit the road.
I've got dodgy knees through martial arts so I mix it up, if people push themselves swimming is a great exercise, as is the cross trainer.

Alex - great post.

So you dont need to do roadwork? So its fine to do some other exercise like riding a bike or something? Im just wondering coz a lot of ppl are always telling me that if i want to have a go in the amateurs then i need to do roadwork but you know i cant. I dont know if i fucked my ankles doing karate or something but they just seem to hurt when i jog.

[Andre]

Yeah good on you Alex and great posts from everyone cc's all round!

Hey do you know that by imagining a large X out in front of your eyes just prior to doing any activity ativates both sides of your brain so you have a more balanced out reaction time left and right hemishphere.

[Andre]

Even when ive been fit i have never been able to jog coz i have bad joints in my ankles. So i stick to walking about 6 kms a day and i do some bike riding.

that's fine, not saying you have to jog - it's just often the most readily available & cheapest exercise, not everyone can afford a decent bike/gym membership but most of us can put on some running shoes and hit the road.
I've got dodgy knees through martial arts so I mix it up, if people push themselves swimming is a great exercise, as is the cross trainer.

Alex - great post.

So you dont need to do roadwork? So its fine to do some other exercise like riding a bike or something? Im just wondering coz a lot of ppl are always telling me that if i want to have a go in the amateurs then i need to do roadwork but you know i cant. I dont know if i fucked my ankles doing karate or something but they just seem to hurt when i jog.

How about slow less impacting deep sand work.
And then water work too.
then skipping on a trampoline.

[alex w]

well fuck me freddy i hope you aint messing with me.
im gonna be using that bitch tonight

[alex w]

i was gonna suggest swimming, but its hard.
i am a good swimmer now, but back then i was embarresed to go near the pool because of how i looked.
thats why i said you need to out your pride on the shelf

[Howlin Mad Missy]

the thing with using a bike is that you have to work much harder to get your heart going, to mimic running you would need to work whole body like on a cross trainer or swimming hard, and you must do sprint work.
If you have a proper running track close by you could try their, depending on how bad your joints are because they are spongy.

remember when Hamed saisd he didn't do roadwork, spar for fitness. he may have been BS'ing but I found sparring harder than jogging.

Anyway-Deafman, I hope we've provided you with some ideas!