Hello all

[boozeboxer]

Posing a question:















I love my girlfriend very much, but it appears to me she is very needy. We have dated for about six months.
I stopped by the bar the other night for two beers and told her and she was annoyed by this. We live in different towns. I see the distinction of stopping by a having a few with planning on (and succeeding) on getting completely fucked up on the weekend. Apparently she does not. I am unapologetic on this matter as I feel if I have a long day I can drink a few with acquaintances at a little shit hole pub. Since we live in different places I can't come home to her anyway. It isn't a big deal as I could say I am sorry or something but I'm not. I am a professional and if she doesn't want to trust me, I guess the whole thing is over.


Thoughts?

[boozeboxer]

Also, whenever she is feeling "down" she wants me to stop whatever I have planned for the evening (hunting my hounds) and comfort her on the phone.
Last night I was going hunting and her sister disappointed her, I told her I would talk to her later but I had plans to go hunting with a buddy. I also told her to do some work on an art project she has and she would feel better. She has been under alot of stress lately.
This hunt took much longer than I thought it would--but she knows the nature of the sport.
Now she is also pissy about that, and I am unapologetic as well. I am not sorry my buddy and I had a great hunt and it took longer than expected.

She said that if something was really bothering me she would have stayed home and talked to me about it. Which I do not doubt. THE difference is she is bothered by something on a weekly basis and I might be upset about something once a month (probably much less)..........and almost always if I am upset it is because of her.

She feels I am not supportive enough. I do realize I am writing these two posts with an inherent bias towards rationalizing my own actions but I do get tired of feeling like I am apologizing about stuff and I feel all in all that I am a good partner and committed.

[Kev]

I'm probably not the best person to give advice, but in your shoes I would now be eyeing up potential alternatives, idieally some girl who is already in a relationship, not unhappy enough to leave, but miserable enough to want to fuck me.

I'd set that up and say goodbye to the nagging girl, then enjoy a few weeks with the fill in bird until I found somebody else to replace her with once her guilt got too much for her.

Actually your ex might by then be available for that role and you can take her back, but now with you holding all the cards and her relegated to the role of fuck buddy. Then it's no longer your obligation to console her on the phone.

Hope it works it out.

[Andre]

I'm probably not the best person to give advice, but in your shoes I would now be eyeing up potential alternatives, idieally some girl who is already in a relationship, not unhappy enough to leave, but miserable enough to want to fuck me.

I'd set that up and say goodbye to the nagging girl, then enjoy a few weeks with the fill in bird until I found somebody else to replace her with once her guilt got too much for her.

Actually your ex might by then be available for that role and you can take her back, but now with you holding all the cards and her relegated to the role of fuck buddy. Then it's no longer your obligation to console her on the phone.

Hope it works it out.

Top advice except for the go for a bird in a relatonship.If Canada is anything like here these days and you cant fight, dont like duells or digging your own grave with strange men surrounding you, I wouldnt. Plenty of fast fucks online if thats what you wish for.

[Diane]

You found a girl that actually likes you, hang on to her, because what are the chances that you'll find another one in your lifetime?

[VictorCharlie]

I'm probably not the best person to give advice, but in your shoes I would now be eyeing up potential alternatives, idieally some girl who is already in a relationship, not unhappy enough to leave, but miserable enough to want to fuck me.

I'd set that up and say goodbye to the nagging girl, then enjoy a few weeks with the fill in bird until I found somebody else to replace her with once her guilt got too much for her.

Actually your ex might by then be available for that role and you can take her back, but now with you holding all the cards and her relegated to the role of fuck buddy. Then it's no longer your obligation to console her on the phone.

Hope it works it out.

Top advice except for the go for a bird in a relatonship.If Canada is anything like here these days and you cant fight, dont like duells or digging your own grave with strange men surrounding you, I wouldnt. Plenty of fast fucks online if thats what you wish for.

Uh....personal experience Andre?

Seriously though you need to decide if the neediness/trust issues is a deal breaker. If so then an ultimatum is in order. My old lady used to have some similar tendencies. It took a while but after several conversations about how important it was to me that she trust me and that I had never done anything not to have earned that trust along with mentioning how unattractive her behavior was she got the point. For the most part at least. When she gets drunk it still comes out a little but hey you win some and lose some.

[Master]

Why is she so suspicious, is there something you are not telling us? No smoke without fire.

[El Kabong]

You found a girl that actually likes you, hang on to her, because what are the chances that you'll find another one in your lifetime?

....it's no fun feeling like that I can tell you


booze, I will tell you this.....do what makes you happy. That is all you need to know, if she makes you happy then be with her, if being with her is a chore, move on....just do what makes you happy man

[boozeboxer]

Thanks for all the advice. She apologized for being so moody last week....hormones. It is nice to be able to tell someone about it though (and these seem to be the most popular threads).

I guess some weeks are just tough. These week has started as nothing but fun!

[El Kabong]

Thanks for all the advice. She apologized for being so moody last week....hormones. It is nice to be able to tell someone about it though (and these seem to be the most popular threads).

I guess some weeks are just tough. These week has started as nothing but fun!

Makeup puddin'....pretty good stuff that

[Violent Demise]

Also, whenever she is feeling "down" she wants me to stop whatever I have planned for the evening (hunting my hounds) and comfort her on the phone.
Last night I was going hunting and her sister disappointed her, I told her I would talk to her later but I had plans to go hunting with a buddy. I also told her to do some work on an art project she has and she would feel better. She has been under alot of stress lately.
This hunt took much longer than I thought it would--but she knows the nature of the sport.
Now she is also pissy about that, and I am unapologetic as well. I am not sorry my buddy and I had a great hunt and it took longer than expected.

She said that if something was really bothering me she would have stayed home and talked to me about it. Which I do not doubt. THE difference is she is bothered by something on a weekly basis and I might be upset about something once a month (probably much less)..........and almost always if I am upset it is because of her.

She feels I am not supportive enough. I do realize I am writing these two posts with an inherent bias towards rationalizing my own actions but I do get tired of feeling like I am apologizing about stuff and I feel all in all that I am a good partner and committed.

Try and fuck her sister. Chances are it'll make her feel worse. But you'll feel better