Father And Son Relationship

[FinitoElDinamita]

How many of you do not get along with your fathers ? And do any of you have fathers whose passed away? If so what are your regrets and what would you have done differently?

I ask because I never got along with my pops. Ever. He's one of those old fashioned, man of few words and I could never communicate with him. It's weird because here's a man who ive known all my life yet I still feel ackward around him and i just dont feel comfortable. Maybe it's because him and I have absolutely nothing in common? Pops always told me that he sees alot of himself in my sister but that Im nothing like him which is true.

When I see other dads with their sons, they seem to get along fine. They watch sports together, drink, joke around about stuff, dad gives son good advices etc.. Are most people like this?

I dont think Ive ever traded more than a few words with the guy but when I do, I feel so frustrated because we dont see eye to eye on anything and often times, I feel like punching him right in the fuckin mouth.

Dont get me wrong. Im not trying to play the sad violin here because I dont really give a shit but Im just wondering how many of you have this kind of relationship..

[VictorCharlie]

I can't relate to that. While I'm not best friends with my Dad like some of my buddies are with theirs we have a great relationship and enjoy spending time together. One of my best friends has basically been drinking buddies with his old man since he was 15 or 16. At 35 it is fine but there were some teenage years where he would have benefitted from a more fatherly relationship. I distinctly remember my dad telling me as a teenager "Son, I'm not your friend, I'm your father.....now go mow the lawn and shut your mouth."

[brocktonblockbust]

my father was a block-headed know-it-all who could never admit he was wrong. it would hurt his pride to say he was wrong. esp. if it came to me and my sister. never felt too close to him for that.

[Spicoli]

I am my Father. It took alot of time and hardship to realize that I was cut close from the cloth, for the great and the bad, but it is what it is. I don't lose sight that he has changed...almost evolved..from the time he was 40 to the man who has his 74th birthday this month. The last thing I want the old man to do is shoulder guilt, still, because his old man was a shell-shocked abusive stranger and pops had to learn on his own and his kids lived it. Navy brats all from day one. The great out weighs the bad and the laughs out weigh the regret. Big time!

[Andre]

Mine is a great, I love the guy he puts family before personal judgements of any kind in all matters.

[Dia bando]

Being a DAD, is hard work there is no manual, you can give advice weather your Kids take it
on-board,! , growing up drinking to much doing stupid things.
Most advice I give is from the fuck ups I made, when your young you need some advice put
it this way, it's a hard JOB being a dad.

[Beanz]

It's complicated.

[Xwetie]

Take him out for dinner or something, I got a hard time to put myself in your position though.
I get along to well with my dad, When i was young he taught me how to box for example, We can talk about anything, but sometimes it feels more like a friend than a dad...

[Jerry Rice]

Take him out for dinner or something, I got a hard time to put myself in your position though.
I get along to well with my dad, When i was young he taught me how to box for example, We can talk about anything, but sometimes it feels more like a friend than a dad...

It's time for life lessons with Xwetie.

[Master]

I am not close to my dad but respect him for working night shifts in a foundry for 36 years to look after us when he was actually well educated. He scared the living daylights out of me just with the stare.

I am a mothers boy.

[roberto duran legend]

I was never close to my dad growing up,he was a big drinking hard irishman,very closed emotionally,
very hard working and always provided for us.Only really got to know the real him when he was
dying when i spent a lot of time with him,wish i done it sooner now,he was a good man but we
were very different people.Bless him.
I am so different,my kids mean the world to me,i cant get home quick enough to see them.
we have so much fun , love teaching them new things and seeing them enjoying themselves.
I am a lucky man.