Snakeys 1yr relationship ended and now hes gutted!

[Mark TKO]

yep you are only 19 - get out there and nail bitch for the next few years

one day it will all be over...make the most of it

[Julius Rain]

Hey snakey, we all go through this at some point. Throughout that 1 year with her hopefully you have establish yourself into her heart. If not snakey, to be honest your at the edge of a clip. First let me tell you this, women are naturally attracted to guys that can handle them gone. Or atleast a guy that can act like it. The worst thing to do is be the first one to say you miss her. Women are attracted to strong men, mentally not really physically. If she sense your doing fine without her, it will send a chemical reaction through her body to want to know why your doing fine alone. Curiousity always brings back a pussycat, take it from me. If you occupy yourself with other things besides thinking of her. Mother nature will lure her back to you. If this does not work, move on she will just cost you headache in the future if you still manage to gain her back for atleast a while.

A bit of advice towards your next relationship if it doesn't work out with your recent ex. A women worth keeping is the one that loved you before she liked you. The best wifes are the once that never like their husband ways (leaving toilet seat down,showering only ones a week,never remember her bday,never remembers anything,farts excessively in bed,can only last a minute or two at best during sex,etc.) but never leaves his side cause she loves him.

[ono]

Suck it up, walk it off and go chase some punani!

Long term relationships at 19 are not the way to go anyway.

Seriously i know how you feel....i think most lads have been in your situation. I have. The best thing to do is move on as soon as. Go out with your mates, start a new hobby.

I started weight-lifting when it happened to me. It was just something to do to replace the time that i normally spent with her.

You'll be ok pal, your just 19. You have a lot of fun years in front of you. Now you can enjoy them without being committed to just one girl.

I wouldn't bother trying to win her back. I think that will just lead to more heartache. After a couple of weeks without speaking to her, you might feel completely different. Good luck mate

[Diane]

Ahhhh teenage love, oh how I remember that so well. My high school love and I were together for almost 5 years, and during that time we only got into 1, yes only 1 fight. Everybody thought that we were the perfect couple. We were talking about getting engaged, we were looking at rings, when BAM, he met this bitch that worked by him, and that was all she wrote. I was devastated, I couldn't eat, sleep, and I cried constantly. And what made it worse, is that he would not be honest with me, and come out and tell me that he met someone else, to which 6 months later he proposed to her, 4 months later they were married, and 1 month later she was pregnant. Talk about rubbing salt into my wound!

I know that everyone says this, and they say it because it's true, but time does heal all wounds. It took some time for me to get over him, but I did, I allowed myself time to get through the emotional stuff, and then slowly but surely, I started to go out with my friends, and tried to meet new people.

You said that this is her last year of school, I know that a lot of girls, and guys, start to get that itch of freedom in their senior year, and feel like they just don't want to be tied down to just one person. If she is going off to college, that can play a major roll in her decision as well.

I have to ask you, does she seem as heartbroken as you? If not, then that right there should tell you that her feelings weren't as deep as yours. And if that is the case, would you really want to get back with someone that doesn't love you? If after a year, she doesn't love you the same way as you do her, the chances are, she never will, and if you were able to get back with her, more than likely the result will be the same, only this time you will be even more heartbroken than the first time.

My advice to you - move on. You are only 19, and you have the best years ahead of you, so why would you want to be tied down, when you should be out having fun with your friends, and trying to meet new people? You should be taking the time to do things in your life that will help you grow as a person. Whether that is continuing your education, travel, participating in sports, or just going out and having fun with your friends. Just live life!!!!

Trust me, you will find that one person who loves you for your heart one day, but until then, don't let this girl continue to hold you back from enjoying your life. It is obvious that you have a great heart, otherwise you would not be feeling this way, and as a woman, I respect that you, and the other guys here, are sharing your feelings so publicly, not many guys would, so I commend you guys for being so open.

The biggest hurdle for you right now, is understanding the why, especially since it seems that she really hasn't given enough of a reason. When it happened to me, that was the hardest part to deal with, not knowing why. So, I would ask her to please at least have enough respect for you, and for what you shared for a year, to be honest with you about her reasons. Tell her that you respect her wanting to break-up, but you just want to be able to understand why. Hopefully she will be honest with you, if not, again, would you want to be with someone that doesn't respect you enough to be honest?

The don'ts.

Your emotions are in high gear right now, so don't try to do things like follow her, or constantly call her, or try to get her friends to help you, or any possilbe immature stunt to try and win her back. They don't work!! And later on, you will look back and think, boy was I being pathetic!! Trust me on this one, because I did it all, and I regret how stupid I was.

Don't let her use you. At certain times she will feel that itch of feeling lonely, and wanting someone, and she may call upon you. Don't fall for it. Teenage girls are not emotionally mature, and will play games with you and your heart. And once she realizes that she got what she wanted, it will be buh bye for you again, only to leave you hurt once again. So stay strong, and don't give in to that urge, and the thought of the possibility.

Don't try to date another girl to either make her jealous, or to help you get over her, that doesn't work either. Oh she may feel a twinge of jealousy, and might ask you guys to get together, but again, that is just an emotional game for her. And for you, it won't help heal your wound any faster, and in the process you can hurt the girl you are using.

So basically, just give yourself some time to get through all the emotions. Start to go out with your friends, and meet new people, without trying to meet that someone special, at least for now. Enjoy being single, have fun, and one day, love will find you again.

If you happen to look to music for inspiration during certain times in your life, keep listening to "Goodbye" by Gravity Kills, that will put you into a strong break-up mode.

Good luck, stay strong, and don't worry, you will find that true special girl.

And I'm giving you rep for having the courage to share your feelings, not many would. Believe it or not, but women really do appreciate guys that can share their feelings, because it shows that you are strong, and confident in yourself.

[Snakey]

Ahhhh teenage love, oh how I remember that so well. My high school love and I were together for almost 5 years, and during that time we only got into 1, yes only 1 fight. Everybody thought that we were the perfect couple. We were talking about getting engaged, we were looking at rings, when BAM, he met this bitch that worked by him, and that was all she wrote. I was devastated, I couldn't eat, sleep, and I cried constantly. And what made it worse, is that he would not be honest with me, and come out and tell me that he met someone else, to which 6 months later he proposed to her, 4 months later they were married, and 1 month later she was pregnant. Talk about rubbing salt into my wound!

I know that everyone says this, and they say it because it's true, but time does heal all wounds. It took some time for me to get over him, but I did, I allowed myself time to get through the emotional stuff, and then slowly but surely, I started to go out with my friends, and tried to meet new people.

You said that this is her last year of school, I know that a lot of girls, and guys, start to get that itch of freedom in their senior year, and feel like they just don't want to be tied down to just one person. If she is going off to college, that can play a major roll in her decision as well.

I have to ask you, does she seem as heartbroken as you? If not, then that right there should tell you that her feelings weren't as deep as yours. And if that is the case, would you really want to get back with someone that doesn't love you? If after a year, she doesn't love you the same way as you do her, the chances are, she never will, and if you were able to get back with her, more than likely the result will be the same, only this time you will be even more heartbroken than the first time.

My advice to you - move on. You are only 19, and you have the best years ahead of you, so why would you want to be tied down, when you should be out having fun with your friends, and trying to meet new people? You should be taking the time to do things in your life that will help you grow as a person. Whether that is continuing your education, travel, participating in sports, or just going out and having fun with your friends. Just live life!!!!

Trust me, you will find that one person who loves you for your heart one day, but until then, don't let this girl continue to hold you back from enjoying your life. It is obvious that you have a great heart, otherwise you would not be feeling this way, and as a woman, I respect that you, and the other guys here, are sharing your feelings so publicly, not many guys would, so I commend you guys for being so open.

The biggest hurdle for you right now, is understanding the why, especially since it seems that she really hasn't given enough of a reason. When it happened to me, that was the hardest part to deal with, not knowing why. So, I would ask her to please at least have enough respect for you, and for what you shared for a year, to be honest with you about her reasons. Tell her that you respect her wanting to break-up, but you just want to be able to understand why. Hopefully she will be honest with you, if not, again, would you want to be with someone that doesn't respect you enough to be honest?

The don'ts.

Your emotions are in high gear right now, so don't try to do things like follow her, or constantly call her, or try to get her friends to help you, or any possilbe immature stunt to try and win her back. They don't work!! And later on, you will look back and think, boy was I being pathetic!! Trust me on this one, because I did it all, and I regret how stupid I was.

Don't let her use you. At certain times she will feel that itch of feeling lonely, and wanting someone, and she may call upon you. Don't fall for it. Teenage girls are not emotionally mature, and will play games with you and your heart. And once she realizes that she got what she wanted, it will be buh bye for you again, only to leave you hurt once again. So stay strong, and don't give in to that urge, and the thought of the possibility.

Don't try to date another girl to either make her jealous, or to help you get over her, that doesn't work either. Oh she may feel a twinge of jealousy, and might ask you guys to get together, but again, that is just an emotional game for her. And for you, it won't help heal your wound any faster, and in the process you can hurt the girl you are using.

So basically, just give yourself some time to get through all the emotions. Start to go out with your friends, and meet new people, without trying to meet that someone special, at least for now. Enjoy being single, have fun, and one day, love will find you again.

If you happen to look to music for inspiration during certain times in your life, keep listening to "Goodbye" by Gravity Kills, that will put you into a strong break-up mode.

Good luck, stay strong, and don't worry, you will find that true special girl.

And I'm giving you rep for having the courage to share your feelings, not many would. Believe it or not, but women really do appreciate guys that can share their feelings, because it shows that you are strong, and confident in yourself.

Shes not the kind of girl who doesnt want to be tied down because she wants other guys, it just seems like shes been so busy that she didnt think she had time for the relationship as she wants to do good at school. Yes she was upset, she was bawling her eyes out over the phone to the point she could barely talk. It seemed to me like she loved me but was ending it on different reasons. Im comfortable with my feelings coz yes im a man but im not one that it usually rocked hard by just anything. Like ive said, ive been to many funerals and have never shed a tear. So its not like i breakdown just for anything, love does that to you i guess. Im gonna wait it out and see if she cracks first. Being the nice guy i am...i cant guarentee if she rings up and needs to talk about an issue that is non relating to our relationship that im not gonna comfort her. I told her on the phone that all though the relationship is over, i still care for her and if she needs me then im only a phone call away.


I know your all saying hes only 19...but im very mature for my age. Im the only guy my age that i know at the moment with a full time job, im very picky with women which is why this has hit me so hard. Had it been a 3month relationship then i wouldnt give a shit but...yeah.

[AdamGB]

Snakey mate, when I was 17 I was working full time on building sites and paying 100% to support myself... what's my point?

I'm immature as fuck... that's my point!...

[Snakey]

Snakey mate, when I was 17 I was working full time on building sites and paying 100% to support myself... what's my point?

I'm immature as fuck... that's my point!...

LOL yeah but what i mean is i work my arse off, i save all my money (saving to buy a house). I dont really drink any more...you know man i did all my wild shit when i was in highschool. But when i got out i knew it was time to knuckle down and set up a future for myself.


Pure and simple...women are fuckin nuts

[donnydarkoIRL]

Hey Snakey man,
I'm pretty much the same age as you and I can completely understand the feelings you had for your now ex-girlfriend.

I really do feel for you man, it truely is the most painful feeling in the world, and the feeling of helplessness is truely horrible.

But I guarantee the pain you feel is only temporary. From this you will progress to being a bigger stronger person, life will continue and will improve no end. This is the beginning of something new, to be looked back at fondly.

[chantelle]

LOL yeah but what i mean is i work my arse off, i save all my money (saving to buy a house). I dont really drink any more...you know man i did all my wild shit when i was in highschool. But when i got out i knew it was time to knuckle down and set up a future for myself.


Pure and simple...women are fuckin nuts

LOVE , can be a cruel thing to the heart , but you do get through it ....call it a learning cruve in your life ...i got through it someone broke up with me after 5 years ...pain big time ...i fort id never want to kiss another boy or and he was the only one for me etc ...its takes a while ...but time is a healer! honest x

[AdamGB]

LOL yeah but what i mean is i work my arse off, i save all my money (saving to buy a house). I dont really drink any more...you know man i did all my wild shit when i was in highschool. But when i got out i knew it was time to knuckle down and set up a future for myself.


Pure and simple...women are fuckin nuts

Yeah, same here... I'd done more crap in high school than most people have done now.

I'm still imature I'm just not as big an arsehole any more...

This will help:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NHOf3s70w-c

[donnydarkoIRL]

Adams right that will help.
Also:
The Fray, how to save a life.

[CutMeMick]

Snake eyes...

Chin up my Oz partner.... I'm sure theres a shit load of hot ass Oz girls out there ready to be banged.... So go out there and make me proud...

[CutMeMick]

And in the words of Amy Winehouse..... 'Love is a loosing game'

[RP33]

LOL yeah but what i mean is i work my arse off, i save all my money (saving to buy a house). I dont really drink any more...you know man i did all my wild shit when i was in highschool. But when i got out i knew it was time to knuckle down and set up a future for myself.


Pure and simple...women are fuckin nuts

there you go man.. women are nuts, and that's all you have to keep in your head.. because one thing is for DAMN sure, you WILL NOT ever be able to figure them out.. we've all been through it man, and it sucks, but you just have to get through it.. it just takes time..

I dated this girl for about a year, and it was my first real serious relationship, so obviously when we broke up i was real out of it.. So i met a bunch of girls that summer, went out just about every day i wasn't working, and eventually the girl i am currently dating came to me.. We've been together for 2 and a half years, and i couldn't be happier.. Looking back, the situation i'm in right now is about 23983289239 times better than my old relationship... So you just live and learn from your experiences..


If you really feel like you need to do something to get back at her for making you feel this way.. Sleeping with one of her best friends always.. ALWAYS works.. that is of course if you never plan on getting back with her..

[donnydarkoIRL]

At the end of the day man If she intended to hurt you like this, she's not worthy of your love or respect.