Woman Troubles

[Howlin Mad Missy]

dumbasses the lot of you. The fact that he told her he loved her probably stirred up a lot of memories and feelings the last thing she needs is you acting like a jealous jerk - that's just the thing to send her running away from you.

She maybe just thinking what if I had stayed with him rather than you. If he was her first love and you think she is yours why are you acting so bad. I had someone do a similar thing to me and it made me wonder what could have been different, doesn't make me care any less about other guys. She's with YOU if she didn't want to be with you by your past posts she's had plenty of reason to walk away. Just relax tell her you understand that it must have been hard to hear that from her past boyfriend, ask if he really meant that much to her and say how much you care for her now. Think with your head and not testosterone

M_D you are so dumped.

honey you know you love me.......

who would you prefer, I nice guy who sends you flowers or M_D who rocks your world?

Both

is anyone else turned on by this?

my darling sweetheart Missy what I would not do to you....I would tie you up and have my way with you. I would caress every inch of your body. hmmmmhh for hours on end.

then I would have to toss you in the trunk of my car and get rid of you, maybe in Wales

I am a married man after all.

Nothing wrong with a fling, you can buy my silence in exchange for gifts.

[Howlin Mad Missy]

whatever you do SOBO you gotta talk with her, both be open and honest about how you feel and say how what she does makes you feel, yes it sounds gay but women love it and if you want a keeper you have to make that sacrifice. You'll know if she's being straight with you.

[Purist]

ok, so i've been going out with this chick for almost 2 years now, and we ran into some trouble recently, just want your thoughts and opinions....

ok, so we'll start in mon and wed... i was over, but both nights she asks me to leave at 10, o'clock, b/c she is tired...
so me and my buddy have night school on tues and thurs, so we are going to school, but b4 i talk to her and she tells me that her friend asked her to go to a bar with her and her work firends, so my first thoguths are... "wait... so i have to leave at 10 b/c your tired, but your now going to go to a bar at 930..." i came home and waited for her to call, i even calle dher are 11 to see what was up, but no answer, she eventually called at 1AM! and i was sorta pissed off, but when near the end of the convo i could sorta tell that something was wrong, she was kinda crying... I was mad so I didntcall, i was tired,

then later she called like 10 mins later and she was crying, telling me she wanted to hear my voice... i asked if anything happened, she told me that her good friend was there, she had been frinds wih thid guy for 2 year before she met me, they went out for like 2 months...

ok, then the next day, we go to the mall, and I feel all wierd, like empty, and I dont know what it is, but in the way back, I stop in a parking lot and am like, I dont know what is wrong with me but i feel all empty inside, this is when she tells me

that this guy that was there, and was her best friedn for the first wo years of high school told her that he loves her, and that she has been thinking about it ever since,

so how do I feel about this... pretty crappy,

I mean she is the first person i loved, and I tihnk he is the first person she loved, they didnt have sex or anytihng, but i guess they were both each others first person that they loved, i dont know, she says is different, but she is always telling me that she has a lot on her miond, last night we sorta talked about it, I told her that i wished she had said when he told her " sorry to bad your too late, I love him (me) right now" but I guess she didnt, and she caims that this guy didnt plan this, how is that possible you dont just spirt somethign out like that, I am quite sure he planned it, but she is adement that he did not...

I dont know what to do, I really love this girl, but I mean if she doesnt feel the same way about me what do I do

Thanks for all the help.

The best thing for you to do is "listen" and understand the situation. if you are open to her and understanding or want to learn the problems she is having, she will open up to you more. And if she is still with you, then you don't have to worry. The wrong thing to do is to act like a jealous guy that thinks she is going to leave you. See, when we go through these things, we want someone that listens and understands, if we don't get it we find comfurt in the other person because we feel like he's listening. In the end it is a very selfish decision that I wish people didn't make.


Best thing to do now is be yourself, and listen to her and try to understand, level with her and let her know you're going to be with her through this.

But don't distance yourself from her, get closer.

[raleights]

I'm with Mad_Dog, she calls up crying theres guilt there. You don't cry because you're unsure about what coulda/shoulda/woulda happend, you cry because you did something wrong and should be punished . It actually sounds like she's the histarical high maintenance type, which you need to get away from if she is - theres nothing worse than a woman who needs attention, needs to hear your voice (stand on your on two feet). Growing up with 2 older sisters and a mom I've seen what women are capable - the rebelious (bi-polar) out of control free spirited sister, the over achieving work your ass off live in a nice house and be bitter till the sun goes down sister, the mom who drinks 10 beers a day never cleans house and stays in bed for a week. Not to mention the women I've encountered on my own path... What you need to know is most females are tuned into themselves, even when they're with you (unless you're a good looking guy and she's fugly - hardly ever the case). They can be the sweetest person in the world one day, and the next be a completely different person. It's your job to make a decision whether you want to live your life for someone else or live it for you. Majority of women share this selfishness, and if you have it in your head theres someone out there just for you who doesn't have shortcomings like this you're dead wrong lol. And when they do pull some evil shit like two-timing you, it seems soooooooo much worse than when a guy does it, why? You can't choke the wench into her next life when it happends (atleast I refuse to lay my hand on a woman). Of course thats when you seek other alternatives like getting her fired, kicked out of school, planting drugs on her and calling the cops - beside the point . Bottom line women are always more trouble than they're worth and theres but one reason to keep them around, they're beautiful. Are there cool chicks out there who won't fuck you around? Yeah of course, but they're rare and have to of seen the dark side of life themself so they know just how lucky they are to be with you and have this great thing going on. If a womans had a privelaged life, get the fuck away from her cause she'll walk all over you.

[Mad_Dog]

whatever you do SOBO you gotta talk with her, both be open and honest about how you feel and say how what she does makes you feel, yes it sounds gay but women love it and if you want a keeper you have to make that sacrifice. You'll know if she's being straight with you.

NO NO NO!!!!

as the French say NON!!!

as we Mexicans say Ni Madres!!!!

ok, I will meet you half way, talk once. Let her tell you once in for all. Is it him or me? If she can not answer and says I dont know SOBO I am not sure, I am so confused.

THEN GET THE FACK OUT OF THERE!!

[Howlin Mad Missy]

SOBO are you going to listen to a bunch of men-thinking like men, or women who are gonna think like your girl?


Starr is right, acting like a jerk will send her running to a guy who acts like he's listening to her problems. Think smart.

[Mad_Dog]

ok, so i've been going out with this chick for almost 2 years now, and we ran into some trouble recently, just want your thoughts and opinions....

ok, so we'll start in mon and wed... i was over, but both nights she asks me to leave at 10, o'clock, b/c she is tired...
so me and my buddy have night school on tues and thurs, so we are going to school, but b4 i talk to her and she tells me that her friend asked her to go to a bar with her and her work firends, so my first thoguths are... "wait... so i have to leave at 10 b/c your tired, but your now going to go to a bar at 930..." i came home and waited for her to call, i even calle dher are 11 to see what was up, but no answer, she eventually called at 1AM! and i was sorta pissed off, but when near the end of the convo i could sorta tell that something was wrong, she was kinda crying... I was mad so I didntcall, i was tired,

then later she called like 10 mins later and she was crying, telling me she wanted to hear my voice... i asked if anything happened, she told me that her good friend was there, she had been frinds wih thid guy for 2 year before she met me, they went out for like 2 months...

ok, then the next day, we go to the mall, and I feel all wierd, like empty, and I dont know what it is, but in the way back, I stop in a parking lot and am like, I dont know what is wrong with me but i feel all empty inside, this is when she tells me

that this guy that was there, and was her best friedn for the first wo years of high school told her that he loves her, and that she has been thinking about it ever since,

so how do I feel about this... pretty crappy,

I mean she is the first person i loved, and I tihnk he is the first person she loved, they didnt have sex or anytihng, but i guess they were both each others first person that they loved, i dont know, she says is different, but she is always telling me that she has a lot on her miond, last night we sorta talked about it, I told her that i wished she had said when he told her " sorry to bad your too late, I love him (me) right now" but I guess she didnt, and she caims that this guy didnt plan this, how is that possible you dont just spirt somethign out like that, I am quite sure he planned it, but she is adement that he did not...

I dont know what to do, I really love this girl, but I mean if she doesnt feel the same way about me what do I do

Thanks for all the help.

The best thing for you to do is "listen" and understand the situation. if you are open to her and understanding or want to learn the problems she is having, she will open up to you more. And if she is still with you, then you don't have to worry. The wrong thing to do is to act like a jealous guy that thinks she is going to leave you. See, when we go through these things, we want someone that listens and understands, if we don't get it we find comfurt in the other person because we feel like he's listening. In the end it is a very selfish decision that I wish people didn't make.


Best thing to do now is be yourself, and listen to her and try to understand, level with her and let her know you're going to be with her through this.

But don't distance yourself from her, get closer.

are you freaking nuts my beautiful Starr?

the only thing my brotha SOBO needs to understand is how much his heart is hurting right now that this woman is telling him that she is not sure about how she feels about him.

Get angry brother. Dont be a stalker just move on. leave her be with her thoughts. She can call you when she is sure about you until then it is over Johnny.

[Howlin Mad Missy]

LOL men

[Mad_Dog]

SOBO are you going to listen to a bunch of men-thinking like men, or women who are gonna think like your girl?


Starr is right, acting like a jerk will send her running to a guy who acts like he's listening to her problems. Think smart.

ok answer me this, under the same circumstances would you cry

[raleights]

So Missy, ever break a guys heart?

[Purist]

Don't listen to them

Men have no clue what she is going through because they think completely different.

See, if you act like the jealous guy who thinks she is going to leave him, then she is going to think that you don't trust her, and that will make things much much worse for you.

Be there for her through it and show understanding. If she didn't want you to be there for you she wouldn't have called you and told you. There's a reason she told you, and that reason is NOT that she's going to leave you.

Best be there for her and let her know you understand what she's going through and that you're there for her no matter what. You show her that, it's something that a simple "I love you" can't show. And then she will cherish you for your understanding and willingness to be there for her.

Now you can either make her feel more close to you, and take her with her flaws, or you could reject her and look for someone "perfect" and push her away and regret it.

Now's not the time to think of yourself, think of her, and she'll think of you.

Think of yourself, and so will she, and you won't have a girlfriend anymore.

[Mad_Dog]

LOL men

see how they laugh at us SOBO

Missy is just proving my point






she turns me on like no other though and I would gladly take emotional abuse from her as long as she keeps me sessually satisfied

[Mad_Dog]

Don't listen to them

Men have no clue what she is going through because they think completely different.

See, if you act like the jealous guy who thinks she is going to leave him, then she is going to think that you don't trust her, and that will make things much much worse for you.

Be there for her through it and show understanding. If she didn't want you to be there for you she wouldn't have called you and told you. There's a reason she told you, and that reason is NOT that she's going to leave you.

Best be there for her and let her know you understand what she's going through and that you're there for her no matter what. You show her that, it's something that a simple "I love you" can't show. And then she will cherish you for your understanding and willingness to be there for her.

Now you can either make her feel more close to you, and take her with her flaws, or you could reject her and look for someone "perfect" and push her away and regret it.

Now's not the time to think of yourself, think of her, and she'll think of you.

Think of yourself, and so will she, and you won't have a girlfriend anymore.

ok turn the roles around

your guy came to you and said, I met my old girlfriend at a club and she told me she loved me. Now I am confused. I do not know if I love you or her.

what will you do

[raleights]

And thats coming from a man who's natural tendancies are to spread his seed :O)

[raleights]

Don't listen to them

Men have no clue what she is going through because they think completely different.

See, if you act like the jealous guy who thinks she is going to leave him, then she is going to think that you don't trust her, and that will make things much much worse for you.

Be there for her through it and show understanding. If she didn't want you to be there for you she wouldn't have called you and told you. There's a reason she told you, and that reason is NOT that she's going to leave you.

Best be there for her and let her know you understand what she's going through and that you're there for her no matter what. You show her that, it's something that a simple "I love you" can't show. And then she will cherish you for your understanding and willingness to be there for her.

Now you can either make her feel more close to you, and take her with her flaws, or you could reject her and look for someone "perfect" and push her away and regret it.

Now's not the time to think of yourself, think of her, and she'll think of you.

Think of yourself, and so will she, and you won't have a girlfriend anymore.

All that revolves around the fact that she's not a two timing tramp, how do you know she isn't?