Woman Troubles

[Mad_Dog]

missy, she has left already

[raleights]

I think the male point of view is saying, the pain isn't worth it. No matter how much you like being around this chick, nothing is worth the hurt and lack of trust you're gonna have after you find out she's looking for alternative outlets

You'll never look at women the same

[Purist]

Don't listen to them

Men have no clue what she is going through because they think completely different.

See, if you act like the jealous guy who thinks she is going to leave him, then she is going to think that you don't trust her, and that will make things much much worse for you.

Be there for her through it and show understanding. If she didn't want you to be there for you she wouldn't have called you and told you. There's a reason she told you, and that reason is NOT that she's going to leave you.

Best be there for her and let her know you understand what she's going through and that you're there for her no matter what. You show her that, it's something that a simple "I love you" can't show. And then she will cherish you for your understanding and willingness to be there for her.

Now you can either make her feel more close to you, and take her with her flaws, or you could reject her and look for someone "perfect" and push her away and regret it.

Now's not the time to think of yourself, think of her, and she'll think of you.

Think of yourself, and so will she, and you won't have a girlfriend anymore.

ok turn the roles around

your guy came to you and said, I met my old girlfriend at a club and she told me she loved me. Now I am confused. I do not know if I love you or her.

what will you do

I'd tell him to do what makes him happy and that I'd understand.

And if he decided to leave thats on him not me, because I let him have the choice and didn't try to force anything on him. And if he makes a choice he lives with it, I don't have to.

All that revolves around the fact that she's not a two timing tramp, how do you know she isn't?

Because if she was a two timing tramp she wouldn't have told him.

here it is SOBO, straight from the source

Starr says

1. Tell her you understand
2. Tell her to do what makes her happy
3. She then dumps you

M_D says
1. tell her you understand
2. Tell her to pick the guy who makes her happy
3. If she is confused dump her


your choice

If you show her an understanding and a comfurt to her that you understand or that you want to understand what she's going through so you can be there for her through it, it shows an unselfishness on your part. Show her that you're thinking about her and not thinking about yourself, chances are, if she's thinking about herself before, she's thinking about you then.

But don't let YOU be the reason she leaves you if she decides to, otherwise you will be miserable regretting things you did and looking back on what you should have done.

either way you are going to hurt

hurt goes away much faster when you choose the path you want to take as opposed to someone else choosing for you.

you know have a situation,,,,what do you do...

if you make the move, your confidence levels will remain intact and you will be much better for it.

if she leaves, you will be ruined for at least two years.

He's going to be hurt worse if he follows your advice and becomes THE REASON she leaves. And if he follows what me and Missy have said she may stay with him or will.

Following your path only leads him to the darkside screaming NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO just like Vader did from regret of things he SHOULD have done.

[raleights]

that's because they're weak and outta control

and psychotic, don't leave that one out

[Mad_Dog]

ok Starr now you are getting weird

[raleights]

hey now

starr is obviously one with the schwartz

[Mad_Dog]

ok raleights now you are getting weird

[raleights]

obviously you've never seen spaceballs

greatest movie of all time btw

[Howlin Mad Missy]

Dark Helmet

[Purist]

i'm trying to give SOBO advice so that he can keep his relationship.

If he shows her an understanding and willingness to be there for her through this, and shows that he's thinking of her and not himself, she will think of him and not herself.

That way they stay together or she leaves, and if she leaves he knows that he wasn't the reason, she just made a choice, and he won't blame himself.

But if he acts like a jealous guy who thinks that she is going to leave him, she is going to think he doesn't trust her... if he is not there for her, she won't think he cares... that will mean that she will leave, and he would be the reason.

Now what would you rather be SOBO?

Would you rather comfurt her and show that understanding.. so that way you show her how much you care by not thinking of yourself?

Or

Do you distance yourself from her and show that no compassion which makes the decision easier and YOU being the reason she leaves and then you will be looking back on things you should have done better and start blaming yourself?

Your choice.

[X]

Just to get things back to a boxing link:

Cus D'Amato: "No matter the excuse or the explanation, whatever someone does in the end is what they intended to do all along"

This girl is messing you around and it sounds like she is struggling to choose between you and this other guy. If she does that once, she will do it again in the future.

I think you should dump her.

that is right me and X are think alike

we don looove dem hoes we just do em and screw em

I have just had a sensible thought. SOBO clearly still has feelings for this girl amd may pine after her if he dumps her immediately.

SOBO - take her back, be as fucking nice as you can and make sure that you give her at least one, for old times sake.



Then dump her.

[Howlin Mad Missy]

Starr is wise beyond her years.

[raleights]

You're forgetting the fact that she's already admitted having feelings for another guy... The fact that shes capable of that while with him, says ALOT about her. Call me crazy but when in a relationship I draw a line that is never to be crossed. Not for any reason can it be crossed, even an old flame. And the only time that line is crossed is well....never...aside the fact it's wrong and changes the way people think for the rest of their life

Think about what she'd to do you... lorena bobbit ring any bells
I know for a fact if someone two-timed me I'd be out to ruin them and who they did it with, maybe not physically (to her) but in some way I will change the course of their life - sorry but getting even is completely neccessary, helps you sleep at night

[Purist]

Just to get things back to a boxing link:

Cus D'Amato: "No matter the excuse or the explanation, whatever someone does in the end is what they intended to do all along"

This girl is messing you around and it sounds like she is struggling to choose between you and this other guy. If she does that once, she will do it again in the future.

I think you should dump her.

that is right me and X are think alike

we don looove dem hoes we just do em and screw em

I have just had a sensible thought. SOBO clearly still has feelings for this girl amd may pine after her if he dumps her immediately.

SOBO - take her back, be as fucking nice as you can and make sure that you give her at least one, for old times sake.



Then dump her.

She didn't dump him you know. She told him bout her issue and he should show an understanding.

But whatever, I'm done dealing with this.

SOBO it's your choice what you want to do. Me and Missy already gave you the best choice, but you can follow what these men say about a woman's situation or you can listen to women's views on the situation.

Now which is more valid I wonder?

You're forgetting the fact that she's already admitted having feelings for another guy... The fact that shes capable of that while with him, says ALOT about her. Call me crazy but when in a relationship I draw a line that is never to be crossed. Not for any reason can it be crossed, even an old flame. And the only time that line is crossed is well....never...aside the fact it's wrong and changes the way people think for the rest of their life

YOU DON'T GET IT!!! You're missing the huge point, she actually called him and told him. That doesn't mean she's double crossing him. It means that she wants someone to be there for her through this tough time when things are on her mind. It's a sign for him to go comfurt her you nimbwit!!!

[raleights]

bottom line, shes weighing her options

and needs to be told how troubling it is that while with you, she's thinking of someone else

X is right - bang her one last time and be done with it - and when you're doing it, think of Mad_Dog

he'll apreciate that