For all of those who are broken hearted.....

[BIG H]

What a bunch of faigs we are

Seriouslly though, I can deal with most things, e.g when I was 23 I was about £25,000 in debt and I never lost a minutes sleep! I've lost jobs and been out of work (before been married) and not given a shit! Day-today stuff can't get to me, but woman are my weakness and the right woman (and there aren't many like that) can reduce me to a whimpering little kid lol

[Mr. Montage]

it really just pisses me off that she would keep it up even after she broke up with me. she is a serious hazard to my mental being also. but i was such good friends with her before and i cant see where my life would go if i didnt try to mend the relationship.

[BIG H]

it really just pisses me off that she would keep it up even after she broke up with me. she is a serious hazard to my mental being also. but i was such good friends with her before and i cant see where my life would go if i didnt try to mend the relationship.

If you think you can still live your life having to see her all the time and be friends, then that's the right thing for you. Personally, as hard and horrible as it would be to beging with, I would cut all ties with her and move on with your life.

[Mr. Montage]

i guess i cant be as assertive as you im more a wimpering child than you i just cant cut the ties because seeing as most my friends are friends with her and that would mean cutting them out too. i would be left with less that a handful of true friends .

[BIG H]

i guess i cant be as assertive as you im more a wimpering child than you i just cant cut the ties because seeing as most my friends are friends with her and that would mean cutting them out too. i would be left with less that a handful of true friends .

Just do what's best for you mate. At times like this you gotta think about number 1!!

[Mr. Montage]

true that..... thanks man.

[yvonne]

i guess i cant be as assertive as you im more a wimpering child than you i just cant cut the ties because seeing as most my friends are friends with her and that would mean cutting them out too. i would be left with less that a handful of true friends .

Just do what's best for you mate. At times like this you gotta think about number 1!!

Good straight forward advice there mate.Look after number one(yourself)and just get on with things!What i kept on doing to keep me from thinking about my stunning ex all the time,was to go out jogging and let off some steam.I really do think she'll regret leaving me some day i really do.Im not wishing she'll regret me,but i have a strong feeling she will.I class the situation about her leaving me in such a crappy way as,Its her loss not my!One day i think she'll kick herself.

[Mr. Montage]

Some chicks really pick the worst way of breaking someones heart are they really trying to do it that way. ive gotta beleive that they do and you guys are right i gotta blow off steam. Fuck this whole deal sucks but it will get better. so many ways people have told me to do it and i cant really make it with most of them but most have helped little bit but my mind keeps going back to that and it just gets worse. She will regret it. but she still has to make sure she does right for her and i will do the same. thank you all for the feed back.

[Julius Rain]

Some chicks really pick the worst way of breaking someones heart are they really trying to do it that way. ive gotta beleive that they do and you guys are right i gotta blow off steam. Fuck this whole deal sucks but it will get better. so many ways people have told me to do it and i cant really make it with most of them but most have helped little bit but my mind keeps going back to that and it just gets worse. She will regret it. but she still has to make sure she does right for her and i will do the same. thank you all for the feed back.

My advice: Do nothing for now.




As time goes by inevitably another girl will come by and realize the good guy in you that Im sure your ex still things about(thats why she keeps you hoping for her to be back to you).Once this new girl arrive into your life and your ex is put in your shoes. Your ex seeing you with your new girl, your ex will feel the same pain she put you through.

My next advice: Do not get back with your ex ever!...but lead her on and remain friends if you still care about her.


Just hang in there for now and things always gets better. I think the less your ex sees you the more she'll want to see you. So spend extra time away and act busy when your ex ask question. That drives girls crazy when they get zero updates on you. To save your sanity you must take control of the situation. It'll be hard but you must occupy yourself, do things you enjoy and everything should fall right onto your advantage. Eventually a new girl will walk right into your life and thats exactly what your ex does not want!

[TheMacMagician]

Montage, I gotta second Big H for you man. Number 1 is the key. I've been through some pretty shit break ups in my time and one beauty. I spent nearly a year and a half with a girl, she was indian and she was absolutely beautiful. So normal and down to earth. She was a Graphic Designer like myself and we were the best of friends I tell ya.

Barely a day went by that we weren't together. Now, baring in mind i'm a white man, you can probably write the ending yourself. Her parents were no way going to accept me. It was never to be i guess right from the start. What was worse was it totally felt like she just dropped me like a piece of shit when i wasn't needed or suited anymore. Disposable if you like. That hurts like shit but these are lessons that you learn.

The main thing that you mentioned earlier is that you only have a handful of true friends. Now, thats all that you need my man. Believe me. Everyone has tonnes of friends, but when the shit hits the fan regardless of what it is, you know youv'e got the true ones around to tell you what you need to hear.

One thing is for sure from the response your getting is that your most definately not on your own on this subject. It feels like shit, but it won't always be that way.

Take it easy dude. I'm goin to get a beer after that rant of mine. Anyone else want one while i'm goin.........

[The Congressman]

I've been in that situation before. I was more mad than sad. But I got over in about 3 months when I met someone. My advice is just talk to someone and stay busy with something productive. Go to the gym, work out, etc..

[Mr. Montage]

I gotta say that all of these responses to my post is amazing. i have learned alot from what people have suggested and told me. thank you all i know this will help me most in the end. you were all right i need to move on and find a new woman who will be even better for me. Keeping busy will also help me. thanks/./././

[Snakey]

Yeah have experienced it and im only 20 lol My ex broke up with me by phone when i lived just around the corner from her. Then i asked to speak to her 2 weeks later because i wanted closure and she said she would. 5 mins before i was supposed to meet her, she texted that she didnt want to talk to me and wanted to leave things the way they are. I wasnt given a reason at all. I told her i wouldnt bad mouth her and she promised she wouldnt either. I kept my end of the bargain, she didnt apparently lol She wont even look me in the eye these days and thats a yr ago lol Im way over it, quite happy to be single and she has a new bf (if you ask me, hes a step down from me lol hes a little nerdy lookin bloke). I introduced myself to her new bf and the guy nearly shit himself haha

Havent really been with anyone since the break up, long story made short...i now have trust issues. If a girl has interest in me, i find it very hard to trust them and i usually end up fuckin it up coz i live in a small town where everyone knows each other and im very weary of who i crack onto lol Recently this week i have had sucess with this one girl but i get flash backs of situations i had with my ex when certain topics come up. I realise from this situation how much easier single life is, sure relationships are nice but fuck they cause some stress.

[Mr. Montage]

true that.... i have the situation of respecting her too much to really hurt her boyfriend. i could break him he is pretty scrawny but i have respect for both of them. So when i first found out they were dating i scared him shitless because i told him if i ever see her cry i was going to break his f***ing legs. he took a pretty big scare to that...lol.

[BIG H]

My advice to anybody under the age of 40. STAY SINGLE! Relationships are too painful!!