Just up front...some years ago there was a case where the son of an Orange County ('S @Spicoli) sheriff and his friends violated an intoxicated girl with a pool cue. Had that been my son, once I saw that video, he would never have made it to court. After I killed him his mother and I would have talked long and serious about where we went wrong.
Now, Cosby...there was a time (60s,early 70:-) when getting so high you didn't know what you did, or who you did, was cool. There are a lot of striations in that statement and I'm not justifying anything beyond this...what have you done in your youth that you would undo? If I am making sense?
Now, Jarod. He was doing 17 year old escorts in NY. Did he know? It seems so. I am leery of any guy older than 23 or 4 that used "I thought she was 18" as an excuse. Fuck him. Put him on a real yard. Let him do his five among men.