Quote Originally Posted by Beanz View Post
Miles. I am not a liar and autism is not a mental illness. My brain is different to yours, it is as simple as that. I don't really like labels and don't actually think they are often very helpful. I am not asking for sympathy or people to interact or treat me any differently online and it should be quite clear why I would not broadcast the fact here.

Despite claiming that you were constantly bullied from the first time I posted here on the whole you have been as guilty of gaslighting and displaying a breathtaking lack of empathy as anyone else.

Having worked supporting people at uni for 3yrs with a range of physical and mental barriers that made life much harder for them, I can honestly say none of them even came close to displaying the spite and vindictive ire stored up for certain posters on here.

Make of that what you will.
It is classified as a mental disorder and for years you said that there was nothing wrong with your mental health. I am not looking to nag away at this one, but merely saying that you have lied.

On the topic of me being bullied on here, I don't think there is any doubt that I was. However, I learned to start swinging and thus I did my swing thing. As you can see I am stronger than I have ever been.

The lack of empathy is an interesting one for me because what you consider lacking in empathy, I actually consider empathy. Thus when I highlight the harmful effect of single motherhood, you will berate me for my lack of care, but ignore the data out there that proves that it leads to bad outcomes. I recently read a book about Marilyn Monroe and it made me see that some people had it even worse than me. No idea who her dad was, a mother who abandoned her at 2 weeks, re-united, then abandoned again, and on and on it goes. Believe me, I have empathy and interestingly part of the deal of her first marriage at 16 was 'no children'. What an evil woman with no empathy right? What kind of young lady, having experienced sexual abuse prior, deny a souse a child? Maybe it was her way of caring. You have to put yourself in the footsteps of the damaged to have empathy and I think I can and do. I have plenty of empathy and see totally what damage only bad female role models and no good male role models does to people. Not absolute of course, but in the general it is true.


Or you might bring up illegal immigrants, but my empathy is more for the struggling in our own countries rather than everyone in the world. The empathy must come from those having the children and if life kind of sucks, then you have a duty to show a little concern and not have a lot of children. If you don't have resources then maybe don't have children. I consider that an empathetic position. You have spoken about downsizing, but why not instead just let an illegal immigrant stay with you? Admittedly, I am not that empathetic in a case like that. Thus evil me will say 'Don't have kids unless you have resources, two loving parents, and time to give'. Otherwise what is it for? Your ego? A being to be raised by the state? In a totalitarian system? Empathy works in different ways, not only your way.

You worked with a bunch of kids in a classroom setting. I am sure you never saw the full range of their feelings. I bet some even went online and said racy things. I have been around thousands of young adults and they are hardly going to be with me like they are when going hell for leather with Mum and Dad restricting their freedoms or telling them what to do. It is neither here nor there. There are different sides to everyone. And do not pretend you have not been one malicious bastard over the years and neither will I.