It's true, there are a lot of double standards.

In fact, if this was reversed, there would be no problem. PLENTY of black men and women get angry when they see or hear of another black man/woman dating outside their race. Plenty get irked when they see other black people hanging out with white people, like they are somehow betraying their race.
This kind of opinion is looked at as just having pride as a black person.

It's a shame, there are a lot of racists and idiots on each side.

This doesn't let Sterling off the hook, though. His attitude is deplorable, especially considering he's in a business where most of his talent are black, and a large number of black fans are handing over their money to him. I think it's fair to ask him to step down.

We've all said questionable things in private, made offensive jokes, ect. If he got caught saying the N-word, I don't think it would be as big a deal. It's the ATTITUDE that's the problem. This isn't a guy who got caught saying something a little politically incorrect: this is a guy who, for whatever reason, is prejudiced negatively against black people. This is LEGIT, old school racism.