Quote Originally Posted by Spicoli View Post
I'm as open minded as they come and have zero beefs with gay marriage. What got me thinking though was dealing with quite a few gay or lesbian couples as clients, I caught myself being able to 'tell' the roles some seem to take on. As in...and this is going to sound ignoramus...the women who seem the dominate one of the two Its interesting that its to that point that people are genuially free, expressive and its common now that one almost 'acts' the part of male. Same with two men as one comes off more feminine than the other. Random I know and nothing new, just seeing it more. We are so fool of stereotypes and judgments today. Why waste so much time, so much effort on bringing down another's happiness. Its bizarre to me.
I don't think that is judgmental or closed minded at all. Nobody is 100% male and 100% female anyway, we all have estrogen and testosterone, so whether you are Gay, straight , bi or even asexual you will in all relationships (and this is not just sexual ones, client /customer, Employer/employee, Platonic friendships) carry out some form of transaction where consciously or subconsciously take on a role. It's a kind of transaction. Even though I consider myself an agnostic I like the Jewish Idea of bringing the shekinah Or feminine spirituality down to earth. Most religions imbue Gd or God with male characteristics but female qualities like empathy would actually make the world a better place. We think as men smacking each other in the mouth form time to time is a good way to prove a point, and maybe it is, but we know how to make guns and bombs now, and things soon escalate. I got distracted but basically if we we just a bit more bitchy, cutting looks and "did you see what he was wearing" we might not be in the shit we are now. Anyway pass me the doobie sister