Quote Originally Posted by El Gamo
Fucked up plain and Simple, I dumped a girl I love back in june cause I thought I could do better I am a player of sorts and have dated many of women but she was a friend and then after a while we started going out and we fell in love,anyway I thought I could do better for some dumb a** reason.Now I regret and I am cut to the heart cause I want to see her again personally, I said bad awful things to her because I hated her past (mind is worse than hers) To make matters worse she is a bartender at the local pub I go to and for 3 months I never went when she was there..A few weeks ago I went with some friends when she was working and after 2 hours I was all sorts of LOVESICK and I hate it, I saw her tonite and I miss her so much I want to talk to her but she wont call me...

Please advise I wll answer rany questions and entertain SERIOUS counsel on the matter I AM HURTING BAD!!!!!!!!!



I have not read the whole thread because it gets confusing,so I'll address your main point. First bro,I'll be honest with you,you fucked up badly. The first thing you have to do is get rid of this player attitude,you're not going to be able to hang on to any girl for that long with that attitude which could lead to more mistakes in the future. Being a player is ok when you're young but not if you're a big grown man,forget that shat bro. Second,you really fucked up because you said you were friends so you lost a friend and a lover,what were you thinking?
Bro live life for the here and now,why question here past in the first place and also,how can you question her past when you say yours is worse?! That's hypocrisy bro. You hears the saying from the bible(I think)what goes around,comes around,that is what has happened here bro.
Ok,I feel for you BIG TIME because I have had my heart broken too and I can relate to you. So here's what I think you should do.Do not under any circumstances smother her or bother/harrass her but try ot show her that you care and that you realise you made a mistake. Flowers,write her a letter,sweet stuff,anything to get into her good graces,but only sweet stuff,nothing vulgar and again,I stress,NOT TOO MUCH! Don't try to buy her back,girls,well classy girls don't like to be brought. If you get her something and she throws it or something,don't get mad. She may need time to think about it but as long as you are showing her you care,she may start to realise you made a mistake. You need to show you are sincere.
I have to be honest with you though,it sounds like you were REALLY mean and broke her heart so it maybe that she has gotten over you and does not want you back...and for that she cannot be blamed. Women like to be taken care of bro,treated like queens,respected loved and cared. They are fragile but it seems you did not take care handling her. If after trying,she still does not want to be with you,bro I don't know what else to say exept move on. Time heals all,and as stupid as that may sound,its true and I'm talking from experience here bro.
Sorry if that was not the advice you were looking for but it's my take on things and sorry if I was rude,I tried only to speak the truth. Take it easy bro.
El Gamo, you are now talking like a profit....ahem I mean prophet...

Just kidding, cool post pal!

I once broke up with a specimen of the female variety. I got over it. As you will too JTRock, it aint all doom and hell! You know it too!