Well a lot of different responses there, to be honest i wrote that under a bit of crazy hysteria so i'd like to clarify a few things.

Firstly she is not just some cheap girl who'd want to come and live with me and all that shite. She signs in a band and stays in the 4 star hotel where they play a 3 hour gig every night. Ive been there seen them so i know this 100%. She spoke excellent English and was obviously pretty educated cus she knew a fair bit about quite a few things. Obviously gets paid a fair bit too cus she was drinking cocktails all night (twice) and never mentioned spending too much once. She was definately not some cheap ass girl

When i first met here i actually really liked here, she was outgoing witty a lot of fun and everything i said was pretty honest with a couple of white lies that everyone makes (those shoes look nice ect...). Then she became really insecure and needed reasurence about EVERYTHING. When a girls doing that and you still like her then its pretty hard not to say a couple of half truths and a few downright lies. Then it becomes kind of intoxicating to have that much influence over someone. In the end im not really sure whether she fell for the real me or the one I projected. To be honest i am only 18 and damn she was 27 was what was keeping me going near the end. I mean come on if you were that age thats some good bragging rights right there. Whether it was worth it .... probably not actually.

All that faithfullness stuff and saving it for someone you actually care about : Been there, done that, got the T-Shirt, got cheated on ..... twice, been dumped for an ex and finally had my family insulted. So im not particularly keen on going down that road anytime soon, I'd like to find a stable girlfriend and all that shite and the last two lasted a fair bit and were getting serious, but they always end up treating you like crap in the end.

Miles your right it SHOULD be hard to teach without a uni degree, thats what i was told but i did it anyway because people on the TEFL course told me otherwise. I think Vietnam is a real up and coming country but is in desperate need of native English speakers and doesn't have anywhere near the amount that Thailand for example does. Of the 4 other people who worked at the same place only 1 actually had a degree.

3 days later i have no idea why the hell i started this thread its all chilled, had a talk with her, sorted it out (mostly) and feel like a bit of a pussy .... oh well nothin i can do now

Cheers for the comments and critisim CC"s all round for helping in my hour of self imposed need