Sharla, as far as being too lite..I'm a pretty tall girl and am actually heavier then some of the guys...(150 lbs and about 5'10) so it's a actually difficult to find a guy big enought bc at our gym we have a lot of kids that come after school...one guy ducked me when my coach set up a sparring session for me..not to sound like an egotistical maniac or anything...it was only supposed to be my second sparring session..This is my third gym..The previous one I was at I was the only girl amongst pretty typical rough and tough guys..I worked hard,tried hard...yet I was never put in the ring to spar..it boiled down to the coach not wanting a girl hit by a guy...and I don't think that I hit like a girl,but I wasn't learning anything without sparring...you know?...The gym I am at now has girls that compete,and they are pretty good. As far as the looking like you mean it when you train..I totaly agree..This one girl comes to the gym to "train"..meaning she spends more time talking with the guys..I get annoyed with that..but hey...whatever tickles your fancy...There are coaches out there that take women fighters seriously,but we must gett out there and search for them..