AdamGB you sound like a really intelligent lad and whilst my ramblings resemble the inner thoughts of a man with a fruit Salad for a mind i have been in your postion many a time !!

All i can say is this how you feel today is not how you are gonna feel tomorrow !

I fall in Love everyday probably because I'm a shallow thick bastard and all i can say is enjoy being 20, Shag other birds follow your impulses and instincts because theres nothing worse than being nearly 30 and not having anything to regret !!!

These are the rules i live and die by .

For the 1st 3 months .

Don't tell her you love her
Don't spend silly money on them
Do admit you fancy other birds
Don't complent them to much
Never turn up on time
Don't go out with her any of her brothers or other family members socially
Fuck sake remember her name
DON'T GO ON HOLIDAY WITH THEM
Take them on Picnics to a local beauty spot (keep the costs down Cocktail sausages scotch eggs ,dirt cheap Lemonade)
Never ever take them to fancy restaurants ( i always take them for a burger)
Don't let them near your phone put a lock on it even if you have nothing to hide .
Make them fetch you a cup of tea .
Take them to the football once and never again even if they enjoy it
Say nothing after sex its hard but thats when you're vulnerable
Let them go to Clubs on their own
Don't meet her parents unless you have too
Don't take any ultimatums these are the death knell to your manhood
Pay for her Burger on the 1st date
Take them to the Cinema and but don't buy any goodies
Don't pretend to be intrested in what she's saying if you are not
I have something i like to call Gordy's quiet time and it works
Fuck Sake keep Wanking ,backed up Spunk makes you do all kinds of stupid things

All this ensures you have boundaries clearly defined and besides relationships are either meant to work or there not so don't go chasing something that ain't there .

When a Woman says i love you it don't mean shit because what she really means is - at this present time i am feeling a degree of comfort in your presence .

My ex declared her undying love for me one night and the next night dumped me at her birthday party i was gutted but it was because i left myself open and didn't follow the unbreakable rules.

I was even more gutted because there was a cycle race next to her house so i couldn't get a lift home and had to walk 10 miles to just fetch a cab .