For The Trainers,How WOuld You Handle This?

[Trainer Monkey]

Im just looking for suggestions
Talley,my big heavyweight,went up to Charleston to spar with the WV Amateur Champ
I tried to nicely inform him,he was being set up
Now he's dodging both of his gyms,and made comments about enrolling in law school
Obviously he got tuned,and probably hard,because that thing doesnt have speed or footwork,but it hits hard
How do I get his head back in the game
Ive got ideas,but suggestions would help

[silent assassin]

I'm no trainer, I'm a fighter. But I would sit down with him & shoot straight no pu**y footin or sugar coating. I would tell him that it will not be the last beating that he gets. Then ask him how bad does he want to be a fighter? I would let him know that everyone who's anyone in the sport of boxing has been thru way more that one beating in sparring. If they would have all thrown in the towel at that point then we would'nt have had all the great fighters (past & present) that we have.

Boxing is not for everyone. It's not the these guys fault. I think that they really beleive that this is what they want to do. The first few gym beatings is instrumental in seeing what A guy is made of, see how bad he wants to do this.

It looks good on TV, the glamour & lights. But not everyone is willing to pay the price to really leave it all in the ring/gym just for the chance to try to climb that big a** mountain.They need to do it for the love of the sport or it will never work out. As much as I'm sure u would like to convince him to keep pushing forward it will never happen if it's not in him.

U should let him know that only he can choose his path but pain is temporary & he may regret the decision to walk away for the rest of his life if he chooses that path. Let him know that u got his back in every way & that u will be there for his guidance. Then he needs to look in the mirror & make his own decision.

Two other stories off the top of my head that u might want to tell him are about MAB (Marco Antonio Barrera) & Bernard Hopkins. MAB's first time sparring he had a beating put on him so bad that he went home crying. But he pick up the pieces & went back. Bernard Hopkins, this one may be a little off base but I think it has kind of the same premise. He lost his pro debut. He obvioulsy did'nt like that turnout. But do I need to say -Look at where these 2 are now. What if trhey would've said "it's just not for me".

U let him know, beleive it or not this decision will shape the rest of his life. Pain is temporary, glory or even the beleif in yourself is forever. This can haunt him forever but if his heart is not into it he is wasting yours & his time. I got a lil long winded so I will end now but if I can help in any way just hit me up. If it works out I have a few training ideas based on the little that I read about him that u posted that may help if u would want to talk more.


Good luck to both of u. I hope that there's something in here that will help u & him,
SA

[David H]

Great post, I would give you a CC if I could. (Or maybe I can and I'm just missing something)

[silent assassin]

Great post, I would give you a CC if I could. (Or maybe I can and I'm just missing something)

Thanx bro. I'm not sure if u can click til like 100 post. I'm not sure though. Appreciate the props either way.

[spaceballwon]

my trainer is an active pro and has fought for the ibf 154 belt, he's been in with the best and i remember the first time i sparred with him i got beaten so badly that it ended with me in a headlock and him talking shit to me. i dont remember exactly how it happened but i remember that it made me think twice about boxing, and then it made me gun shy for about a month, and then i just up and got over it, dont really know why, but it was certainly all mental. i guess you should prolly just give him some time and see what he thinks in a week or two or three.

[donnydarkoIRL]

Heya Monkey, Sorry to hear about this
Well at this point u gotta question his heart, there is nothing u personally can do. You could get a forklift n forcefully haul him to the gym but u cannot alter his mindset and attitude toward training.
If he wants to box, if he wants to fight competitively he's gotta understand it's gonna hurt and to be a fighter uv gotta jus fire back regardless. not mope about licking ur wounds. Thats no just applied to the pro boxing scene, thats for the amateurs, semi pros, kick boxing muay thai, everythin.
If he decides to come back u gotta test his will, determine whether he's got the grit for the business.

[Trainer Monkey]

Heya Monkey, Sorry to hear about this
Well at this point u gotta question his heart, there is nothing u personally can do. You could get a forklift n forcefully haul him to the gym but u cannot alter his mindset and attitude toward training.
If he wants to box, if he wants to fight competitively he's gotta understand it's gonna hurt and to be a fighter uv gotta jus fire back regardless. not mope about licking ur wounds. Thats no just applied to the pro boxing scene, thats for the amateurs, semi pros, kick boxing muay thai, everythin.
If he decides to come back u gotta test his will, determine whether he's got the grit for the business.

Welp we got him hunted down,sounds fixable

[donnydarkoIRL]

Thats good. Whats ur diagnosis?

[Scrap]

TM, dont go biulding your hopes up

[Trainer Monkey]

Thats good. Whats ur diagnosis?

Yelling,it works for everything
Naw,I'll let him have a bit of RnR,then before we break down tape next time he's in,we'll go through what he learned from going up there

[donnydarkoIRL]

Yelling works for me!
Probably his pride busted wide open that irks him the most, jus persuade him that if he keeps training he can nail the guy.

[Trainer Monkey]

Yelling works for me!
Probably his pride busted wide open that irks him the most, jus persuade him that if he keeps training he can nail the guy.

Im just going to stress,you allways learn out there,even if what you learn is dont do that
Sounds like it wasnt as bad as we feared,but the big guys just gassed out
Hey,we all hit the wall sometimes,and coming from small gyms like Talley has and going up to Charelston,which is a bigtime gym,and a hell of a drive,and get tossed out with that brute to boot
Like I said,it sounds fixable

[donnydarkoIRL]

Thats good! Hows ur own training going?

[Trainer Monkey]

Thats good! Hows ur own training going?

Going suprisingly well,considering
Just ramped it up,and the air quality is crap
Humidity is through the roof,and the three huge chestnut trees right above the valley are dropping pollen like mad,it all settles down here

[donnydarkoIRL]

Sorry in the delay replyin was jus at the doc's.
Ugh thats horrible it must make cardio impossible!