"BTW just hitting someone harder because they've hit you is a sure way for a beginner to get worked over." Missy

I was trying to take him away from the victim mentality, when i started sparring i was afraid to hit someone as it was new to me, by saying "Ok if you hit me i am going to hit you back twice"
It gives people confidence, and allows them to deal mentality with the fact they have been punched in the face.

Remember it is better to give than to receive