Quote Originally Posted by Sharla
Quote Originally Posted by Trainer Monkey
We had to talk about that quite a bit,but we figured out,its allways the 3rd when all hell breaks loose with us.
Odd that it's always the third round. Why do you think that is? I've had sparring partners who react badly if they're getting tagged when other people watch. I've seen people loose it because mentally the pressure is too much. I know if I'm sparring someone heavier and they never move back, keep coming in no matter what I throw i have to mind my temper because even if they're not loading up I get the idea of being pushed around unfairly which is a little stupid of me I have to admit! I think it's interesting to know what you're own triggers are although mine doesn't apply much in competition against others the same weight.

If you still have the control to know what you're doing as coach in there then it's not as scary as I was thinking - especially if you can still change your style so she gets exposure to some variation rather than just doing what you always do and ramping it up out of the blue. If you're responding to her ramping it up rather than both of you spontaneously loosing it i can sort of see what you're getting at now. I was picturing something much more feral which would have me running for the hills!
It usually looks worse then it is,sometime late in the second someone will land something a little too good,and cause the other person to take an attitude of,"Oh,thats how you want to play?" and then it just escalates from there
Even when we did medieval combat,it would happen all the time.
We've basically decided that after she comes off contact suspension,we're just going to institute an end of the second rule.Just make a decision if we're reaching the point where we should better stop.
The depressing part of being her trainer is,Ive got to maintain enough oxygen to give advise as we're sparring,while at the same time still sparring.
That,and when I find a hole in her game,Im not allowed to sit on it,I have to explain to her what it is.As a fighter the concept is totally foreign to how I want to fight,which is,find what works against your opponent and keep doing it until they can stop you.But Im not the boxer Im the trainer,so every time we spar,anything that cant be barked out between rounds,or while we're sparring gets carefully explained to her afterwards.And then it wont be there next time