Quote Originally Posted by Bilbo View Post
Hey Dizaster, interesting thread buddy. When you say tough, do you mean intimidating, or merely confident?

And is the a look you're trying to learn?

Because personally I think tough is not a good look. It's far better to look confident, and relaxed imo, someone who looks like they are completely at ease in any situation.

To me if someobody looks 'tough' I imagine them looking brooding, menacing, intimidating which to me shows a lack of confidence as in order to be trying to appear tough they must percieve either a threat or are else responding to a person or a group of people by trying to puff themselves up, like a bull frog blowing out its chest.

It's not really confident but usually just a warning signal that tries to prevent something from eating it.

I think the best way to look is completely relaxed and uninhibited. If you are smiling and laughing with the people you are with and just looking completely disinterested to what is going on elsewhere you look completely at ease and relaxed, which is an attractive quality imo.

I was having this dicussion with my mate the other day. When he was sitting by himself he was just flipping barmats not paying any interest whatsoever to his surroundings.

I said I'd feel far too self conscious to do that but he said if someone is so comfortable that they can sit on their own flipping barmats and not caring who is watching them then they look they are completely at home in their surroundings and therefore appear confident.

Someone sitting or standing on their own trying to puff out their chest and give menacing eye contact just looks like a tool.

A truly confident look is one which doesn't look like you are trying to put on at all.

As mystery says on his Brain transplant DVD's there is a difference between confidence and boldness.

Someone who is bold, and who leaps out of a plane to much screaming and pumping actually looks less confident than someone who jumps out without any need to hype themselves up, they look like it's just a natural thing for them to do.
Good points.

You know if you practice smiling when dizaster is imminent you slowly force your brain into a different mode where by blind panic doesnt occur but your relaxed enough and free enough to react fluidly and it stands out to observers.

Still is the master of unrest.