To Keep or Not to Keep?

**DAVIDTUA** · 03-28-2008 09:02 PM

Originally Posted by liquid

My wife and I were watching an episode of "Everybody Loves Raymond" last night and it was one of the relatively few episodes where I agree with Ray (wife did too). Debra thought it was no big deal that she had kept SEVERAL items from past boyfriends and Ray felt otherwise.

Unless it was an organ or other body tissue, I say it goes in the trash. Sure, it's representative of a certain time in your life, but it's intimate time with someone not me and a time that has come and gone. IT GOES!

What say you guys?

hahaha great topic!

i say HELL NO. its really disrespectful for your current bf/gf/wife/husband to see you with your exes gifts or stuff.

i really hate this and it tends to lead to drama or tension no matter what.

one time i dated this chick in high school and she kept wearing this ugly ring that her ex bf gave her and one time she dropped it by accident and she went everywhere to retrace her steps to try to find it she even offered rewards for it. and i was like wtf its a cheap ugly ring from the mall, its not even expensive?

she then got all pissed at me and said its all about the memories.

i then said what memories if they were so great u'd still be with him now not me right? she then said u dont understand and got mad at me.

so i think bottom line those things are just plain disrespectful to the current person you are dating/seeing.

**Kev** · 03-28-2008 09:11 PM

Originally Posted by DAVIDTUA

Originally Posted by liquid

My wife and I were watching an episode of "Everybody Loves Raymond" last night and it was one of the relatively few episodes where I agree with Ray (wife did too). Debra thought it was no big deal that she had kept SEVERAL items from past boyfriends and Ray felt otherwise.

Unless it was an organ or other body tissue, I say it goes in the trash. Sure, it's representative of a certain time in your life, but it's intimate time with someone not me and a time that has come and gone. IT GOES!

What say you guys?

hahaha great topic!

i say HELL NO. its really disrespectful for your current bf/gf/wife/husband to see you with your exes gifts or stuff.

i really hate this and it tends to lead to drama or tension no matter what.

one time i dated this chick in high school and she kept wearing this ugly ring that her ex bf gave her and one time she dropped it by accident and she went everywhere to retrace her steps to try to find it she even offered rewards for it. and i was like wtf its a cheap ugly ring from the mall, its not even expensive?

she then got all pissed at me and said its all about the memories.

i then said what memories if they were so great u'd still be with him now not me right? she then said u dont understand and got mad at me.

so i think bottom line those things are just plain disrespectful to the current person you are dating/seeing.

Yeah but mate her placing value on it is a GOOD thing.

Consider this, do you really want to date and fall in love with someone who once she has stopped dating someone can just erase them from her mind and heart as if they never existed?

Look at it like this, if she didn't care about the ring that he gave her, in the event of you two ever splitting up she wouldn't give a shit about the stuff you gave her either?

I personally wouldn't want a girl like that. If someone has been in love and has fond memories about that time why would you try and take it away from them?

She's with you now, not him, it's not him she wants she just places sentimental value to an object given to her by someone she cared for.

I think it's sweet and a sign of a girl who has a truly nice heart, who even after she's split up with someone and moved on, can still look back fondly on that person.

There's nothing wrong with that mate and the alternative that she can just fall in love and then completely forget about someone is frankly much worse imo.