Tanning bed something to be ashamed of?

[LEGION]

Plus I have alot of tatoos,

Sideshow Bob! is that you ?

Yes sir; I am finally found out Good detective work Sherlock

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[amat]

I've never gotten in one at the gym just because that's a bit weird. I have tanned a few times though but only did so because I would visit the girl who worked there on breaks and ended up trying it out.

[:::PSL:::]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GtKEpjhmREU

[Sharla]

A girl here died from using tanning beds too much. She wasn't even really fair skinned either which suprises me. I think they're talking about making them illegal for anyone under the age of 18 here now.

I really wouldn't think so much about your tan! You're a guy! Get a neat but low maitenance haircut, basically presentable clothing and stay fit and healthy.

Guys are not meant to be too superficial and invest too much energy in these things really!

Unless you enjoy it but really most women I know are turned off by guys who think too much about this kinda stuff. maybe that's partially a cultural thing though I guess?!

[Kev]

I've used tanning beds in the past but dont any more because they seem to give me moles.

You really shouldn't be embarrassed though! Don't worry about what you like or what people think about things you do.

Unlike Sharla I don't think girls find a man unattractive merely because he goes on sunbeds but they would probably find it a turn off if he was embarrassed about it as it displays a lack of confidence, and at end of the day few girls are going to feel proud of being with a guy who is ashamed of himself.

At the end of the day the way to happiness is to be the person you want to be, do things you want to do and not care less whatever other people think.

As long as you live consistently with your own values don't worry about whether people approve of what you do or not.

But the long term health risks of tanning beds is another think entirely.

[Sharla]

I think guys who feel the need to worry enough about their tan to risk their health in using one can come across as being ashamed. I think being over self conscious about these things is often a turn off.

At least that's the concensus amongst all the female friends I've ever had - which is a reasonable number. Girls associate too much vanity with being feminine and if they wanted a girl they'd be lesbians.

[Kev]

If it's a vanity thing bred out of insecurity I guess but that insecurity would come through in more ways than just that.

I'll be either hopping on a sunbed or maybe even trying a spray tan before my mates wedding on Saturday.

It has nothing to do with vanity other than I dont want to be ultra white for the photos.

I couldn't care less who knows or what they think.

It wouldn't even cross my mind to be honest.

[Sharla]

Yeah but you haven't seen sunlight in several years Bilbo. People will be blinded and scared by your complete lack of vitamin D.

Most people do however see sunlight for at least 20 minutes a day and even if they look pale they don't look scary/sick pale.