Woman Troubles

[Purist]

Don't listen to them

Men have no clue what she is going through because they think completely different.

See, if you act like the jealous guy who thinks she is going to leave him, then she is going to think that you don't trust her, and that will make things much much worse for you.

Be there for her through it and show understanding. If she didn't want you to be there for you she wouldn't have called you and told you. There's a reason she told you, and that reason is NOT that she's going to leave you.

Best be there for her and let her know you understand what she's going through and that you're there for her no matter what. You show her that, it's something that a simple "I love you" can't show. And then she will cherish you for your understanding and willingness to be there for her.

Now you can either make her feel more close to you, and take her with her flaws, or you could reject her and look for someone "perfect" and push her away and regret it.

Now's not the time to think of yourself, think of her, and she'll think of you.

Think of yourself, and so will she, and you won't have a girlfriend anymore.

ok turn the roles around

your guy came to you and said, I met my old girlfriend at a club and she told me she loved me. Now I am confused. I do not know if I love you or her.

what will you do

I'd tell him to do what makes him happy and that I'd understand.

And if he decided to leave thats on him not me, because I let him have the choice and didn't try to force anything on him. And if he makes a choice he lives with it, I don't have to.

All that revolves around the fact that she's not a two timing tramp, how do you know she isn't?

Because if she was a two timing tramp she wouldn't have told him.

here it is SOBO, straight from the source

Starr says

1. Tell her you understand
2. Tell her to do what makes her happy
3. She then dumps you

M_D says
1. tell her you understand
2. Tell her to pick the guy who makes her happy
3. If she is confused dump her


your choice

If you show her an understanding and a comfurt to her that you understand or that you want to understand what she's going through so you can be there for her through it, it shows an unselfishness on your part. Show her that you're thinking about her and not thinking about yourself, chances are, if she's thinking about herself before, she's thinking about you then.

But don't let YOU be the reason she leaves you if she decides to, otherwise you will be miserable regretting things you did and looking back on what you should have done.

either way you are going to hurt

hurt goes away much faster when you choose the path you want to take as opposed to someone else choosing for you.

you know have a situation,,,,what do you do...

if you make the move, your confidence levels will remain intact and you will be much better for it.

if she leaves, you will be ruined for at least two years.

He's going to be hurt worse if he follows your advice and becomes THE REASON she leaves. And if he follows what me and Missy have said she may stay with him or will.

Following your path only leads him to the darkside screaming NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO just like Vader did from regret of things he SHOULD have done.