Conflict On This Board

[Sharla]

wow she just called and wants to meet up with me. I told her I can not, we can no see eachother any more. she said she just wants to make some things clear. I told her ok. I will meet up with her just to talk. I ask her over the phone about her pregnancy comment. she was just silent for a few second and said we will talk about it just meet her.

I'll keep my friends updated, except amat . I will not post here what happens next. I will just pm. anybody who is still interested in my problem let me know. I know Im saddo's number 1 out in the open guy. To be honest I am because this is like my second home. I know I will never meet any of you guys in real life. That does not matter to me, i use this forum to let off steam. I understand people can be judgemental. but i come here to escape my real life sometimes. I have friends but I really only talk about this here. this is the only place i can talk about anything.

She was silent cuz there ain't nothing to say. She ain't fukking pregnant.

your so fucking right







Shes not pregnant, i just spoke with her. She said she thought she was took some pregnancy test a few times but it turned out negative. She wanted to though, I told her shes rediculous then i just walked away. she gave me a hug ask me to be with her but I said Im sorry. I did enough wrongs I have to go.

note to self:

no more ,,,,and with other women. its not worth it. thee wife is boring but I love that girl. Now I gotta figure out how im gonna confess. Its funny cause this morning she made a joke of being pregnant. Maybe Julius Marvelous Rain will be a father after all

This is waaaay yo convenient!

She's not pregnant but your wife is??!?!

If it's true you're very lucky - not suddenly a better person.

It really wouldn't suprise me at all if you'd just concocted that so everytime you mention how hard it is to be a father etc etc people don't jump on your arse for it!

I think you did knock her up and now you're just going to pretend your kid is to your wife.

If she did lie then lucky you and good on her!

I'd never justify a woman lieing about being pregnant normally but she wasn't your girlfriend or your wife - just a bit of meat on the side you decided to screw out of spite for your wife so it's not like you had any respect for her anyway.

Stress can delay a woman's period too. If you were messing with her head and she was upset by your 'break up' she could have easily gotten a scare. She should be more picky herself so that's good too.

As for you Bilbo - don't even begin to accuse everyone else of being high and mighty when you target Julius's wife in all this!

You blame her for a 'loveless' marriage and back up Julius in his victim to his bossy wife story when if you look at what we know it really doesn't add up.

1) She's the bread winner - she's not using him for money.

2) She married him a virgin and would never cheat according to Julius himself.

3) Her major crime according to Julius is wanting to spend time with him when he apparently wants more time alone but he has enough time to screw other women so could easily be spending that time showing her some affection.

Anyway since Fing when is it a crime to want to spend time with your husband?!?!?! Aren't you supposed to like the people you marry?!?!?!

4) When put on the spot here Julius has plenty of arguementative tactics - just about everything except for giving in:

• The sympathy ploy - boo hoo shit,
• the fuck off rant,
• the excuses,
• Just dumb persistance.

There is no way it makes sense that Julius is easily pushed around at home and isn't difficult to live with himself!

5) Julius hates his wife and cheats on her and there's no way she doesn't pick up on those vibes yet she's still with him

To me all the evidence points to her loving him way too much and you have no right to sit on your high and mighty throne and blame this on a loveless marriage and tell us we're all judgemental and expect us to eat it all up when you're pinning this on the wife who can't even defend herself!

I've said it before, reconsidered but now I'm sure you are full of shit Baggins!

[Julius Rain]

sharla your just being typical. when did i ever say i do not love my wife? you still have not moved on while we obviously all did. see how naggy women can be. you never really hear the end of it and when you thought it was over as soon as she gets emotional or upset she brings back old arguements. you cant stand not getting the last word, you must get your way, we must bow down to what you want and saying. well it does not always work that way. i will admit time after time i was wrong, whatever satisfaction you sharla are after from me i hope you get it. it does not matter to me. my life is my life and only god can judge me.

[boozeboxer]

ACtually we can judge you.

[Julius Rain]

ACtually we can judge you.

you think you can.

[boozeboxer]

Well I mean we can judge you.


If God is the only opinion you value, well that is good for you. Most people care what the family thinks, peers (even those at Saddos ), and co-workers.

[Julius Rain]

Well I mean we can judge you.


If God is the only opinion you value, well that is good for you. Most people care what the family thinks, peers (even those at Saddos ), and co-workers.

I did care...once apon a time.

how can you keep caring when they just keep kicking you while your down anyways.

[boozeboxer]

Now in all fairness:


Yes the women where a little harsh on you, but you can not say that you didn't deserve a good ass beating for this last shananigan. And really while you blame women for alot of your problems, you have alot of woman-like tendencies (lack of focus on priorities, not knowing what is really important, etc).

Someone should take you out a tan your hide. But they can't on Saddos. So I guess a thread that you may or may not read will have to do.

[Violent Demise]

Well I mean we can judge you.


If God is the only opinion you value, well that is good for you. Most people care what the family thinks, peers (even those at Saddos ), and co-workers.

I did care...once apon a time.

how can you keep caring when they just keep kicking you while your down anyways.

Saddo was built on kicking fools while there down. It's the back bone of the forum. We all do it.

[Sharla]

sharla your just being typical. when did i ever say i do not love my wife? you still have not moved on while we obviously all did. see how naggy women can be. you never really hear the end of it and when you thought it was over as soon as she gets emotional or upset she brings back old arguements. you cant stand not getting the last word, you must get your way, we must bow down to what you want and saying. well it does not always work that way. i will admit time after time i was wrong, whatever satisfaction you sharla are after from me i hope you get it. it does not matter to me. my life is my life and only god can judge me.

Well to be honest I'm not religious but I break fewer commandmants than you so talk about god all you like.

My last post was actually in reflection of whether or not I believed the post i highlighted about your wife maybe being pregnant and how you're lucky if it's ture.

The rest was to highlight how much i disagree with Bilbo's assumption of you being 'in a loveless marriage'.

It wasn't targeted directly at you - I'd finished with that but since you have so much negative stuff to say about women and while you didn't say you don't love your wife you have said you hate her why are you married?!?!

You don't have to be married to everyone you love.

I'll also add that if I feel guilty about something I expect people to kick me for it. I almost appreciate it since I'd feel I deserved some kind of bad repurcussion that only effected me. I'd take my dose without complaint.

[Kev]

sharla your just being typical. when did i ever say i do not love my wife? you still have not moved on while we obviously all did. see how naggy women can be. you never really hear the end of it and when you thought it was over as soon as she gets emotional or upset she brings back old arguements. you cant stand not getting the last word, you must get your way, we must bow down to what you want and saying. well it does not always work that way. i will admit time after time i was wrong, whatever satisfaction you sharla are after from me i hope you get it. it does not matter to me. my life is my life and only god can judge me.

Well to be honest I'm not religious but I break fewer commandmants than you so talk about god all you like.

My last post was actually in reflection of whether or not I believed the post i highlighted about your wife maybe being pregnant and how you're lucky if it's ture.

The rest was to highlight how much i disagree with Bilbo's assumption of you being 'in a loveless marriage'.

It wasn't targeted directly at you - I'd finished with that but since you have so much negative stuff to say about women and while you didn't say you don't love your wife you have said you hate her why are you married?!?!

You don't have to be married to everyone you love.

That's the problem he's working through now Sharla. I expect when he married he did love her and they got on well, enjoying each others company and being great friends.

But living together and the pressures of marriage, of difference in age, difference in interests etc have meant that they arn't liking each other so much any more.

When that happens it's easy to feel hatred for people you once cared about. It's a natural human reaction as evidenced by the fact you removed me from your friends list and no longer reply to my pm's. I guess becuase I disagreed with you over this I'm just an asshole not worthy of friendship eh?

Well I guess Rains has been in a similar situation in his marriage to where the situation with his wife has got so bad he's ended up feeling only hatred and anger towards her and has as a result treated her badly and cheated on her.

Of course that doesn't make it right, but it IS human nature sadly and we all end up hurting the ones we care about and falling out and cheating on them.

Hw can you not see that the amount of anger you seem to feel towards me and Rains, people you've never even met could be multiplied 100 x times if you had actually married that person and now felt stuck with them for the rest of your life and trapped?

You simply cannot act the way you've been acting on this thread with your completely unsympathetic judgements and not come across as a total hypocrite.

Your responses like 'well don't be married then' just betray a total lack of ability to empathise with someones situation. It's not easy to come to a decision to just leave someone you committed to marry, and if you can happily divorce someone without a second thought then what kind of love was that in the first place?

Rains shouldn't cheat on his wife. It's wrong, we all know that, just as we know that practically everybody in the whole world has cheated on somebody in some way at some point in their life.

Many great men (and woman) have commited the act of infidelity and will continue to do so. This doesn't mean it's ok and that they happily carry out this state of affairs without any thoughts of guilt or conscience, it just means people are human, nobody is perfect and we all cheat on each other, hurt each other and let each other down.

It is symbolic of the human condition I'm afraid and a sign that we are all selfish creatures at heart.

You may think you are better than Rains because you have never cheated on a man before, well you havn't been married to someone you later realise you don't love, or you find that you are both incompatible.

If your response to that is 'well he should have thought about that beforehand' then you just show yourself to have no empathy for your fellow humans and are not capable of showing compassion for people's mistakes.

You may have convinced yourself that you are morally superior to Rains because of his cheating behaviour, and morally superior to me becuase I still like him, but trust me on this, when something goes wrong in your life, you do something wrong, get in trouble, have people turn against you because you did something shameful, in those moments you'll be extremely grateful for the friends you have who don't judge you, who don't join with the crowd in condemning you and don't withdraw their friendship from you.

Anyway I'm out of this thread now.

[Sharla]

Well I did reply to your last PM - I've only been at my computer for 10 minutes and it wasn't the first thing I choose to do you tool!

:P

Everyone jumps of a bridge you don't have to follow them and brag about it. If he kept his private life private I'd have had no comment but here on the forum i found it offensive for reasons I've alerady gone over but will reiterate one more time:

He used the sympathy card when I first told him he was being an ass in the Living 2 lives thread ........I backed off a little but then still joked about it and made even more comments talking about ordering an abortion etc - then he started saying "only the dudes understand me".

Basically he thought he had me fooled and wrapped around his little finger with his initial sook act and because I was silly enough to relent a little show him some compassion initially while highlighting the health risks he was taking - then on his next thread he started being a smart arse, spouting crap like "the men understand me" and proving it was all just a manipulative little bitch ploy!

Of course I'm gonna go after him then!

He could talk about how much he hated his life in a huge thread not so long ago and we all supported him - he accepted that - he should be able to take bad feedback too when he goes against what he originally told us he stood for.

I won't apologise for that. If he'd shown true remorse which he still doesn't because he's just telling me how much he hates women now I wouldn't pick on him so much.

I'd know I wouldn't have to because he'd pick on himself and spend more time fixing the situation than on here trying to make excuses for it!

[Julius Rain]

sharla your just being typical. when did i ever say i do not love my wife? you still have not moved on while we obviously all did. see how naggy women can be. you never really hear the end of it and when you thought it was over as soon as she gets emotional or upset she brings back old arguements. you cant stand not getting the last word, you must get your way, we must bow down to what you want and saying. well it does not always work that way. i will admit time after time i was wrong, whatever satisfaction you sharla are after from me i hope you get it. it does not matter to me. my life is my life and only god can judge me.

Well to be honest I'm not religious but I break fewer commandmants than you so talk about god all you like.

My last post was actually in reflection of whether or not I believed the post i highlighted about your wife maybe being pregnant and how you're lucky if it's ture.

The rest was to highlight how much i disagree with Bilbo's assumption of you being 'in a loveless marriage'.

It wasn't targeted directly at you - I'd finished with that but since you have so much negative stuff to say about women and while you didn't say you don't love your wife you have said you hate her why are you married?!?!

You don't have to be married to everyone you love.

That's the problem he's working through now Sharla. I expect when he married he did love her and they got on well, enjoying each others company and being great friends.

But living together and the pressures of marriage, of difference in age, difference in interests etc have meant that they arn't liking each other so much any more.

When that happens it's easy to feel hatred for people you once cared about. It's a natural human reaction as evidenced by the fact you removed me from your friends list and no longer reply to my pm's. I guess becuase I disagreed with you over this I'm just an asshole not worthy of friendship eh?

Well I guess Rains has been in a similar situation in his marriage to where the situation with his wife has got so bad he's ended up feeling only hatred and anger towards her and has as a result treated her badly and cheated on her.

Of course that doesn't make it right, but it IS human nature sadly and we all end up hurting the ones we care about and falling out and cheating on them.

Hw can you not see that the amount of anger you seem to feel towards me and Rains, people you've never even met could be multiplied 100 x times if you had actually married that person and now felt stuck with them for the rest of your life and trapped?

You simply cannot act the way you've been acting on this thread with your completely unsympathetic judgements and not come across as a total hypocrite.

Your responses like 'well don't be married then' just betray a total lack of ability to empathise with someones situation. It's not easy to come to a decision to just leave someone you committed to marry, and if you can happily divorce someone without a second thought then what kind of love was that in the first place?

Rains shouldn't cheat on his wife. It's wrong, we all know that, just as we know that practically everybody in the whole world has cheated on somebody in some way at some point in their life.

Many great men (and woman) have commited the act of infidelity and will continue to do so. This doesn't mean it's ok and that they happily carry out this state of affairs without any thoughts of guilt or conscience, it just means people are human, nobody is perfect and we all cheat on each other, hurt each other and let each other down.

It is symbolic of the human condition I'm afraid and a sign that we are all selfish creatures at heart.

You may think you are better than Rains because you have never cheated on a man before, well you havn't been married to someone you later realise you don't love, or you find that you are both incompatible.

If your response to that is 'well he should have thought about that beforehand' then you just show yourself to have no empathy for your fellow humans and are not capable of showing compassion for people's mistakes.

You may have convinced yourself that you are morally superior to Rains because of his cheating behaviour, and morally superior to me becuase I still like him, but trust me on this, when something goes wrong in your life, you do something wrong, get in trouble, have people turn against you because you did something shameful, in those moments you'll be extremely grateful for the friends you have who don't judge you, who don't join with the crowd in condemning you and don't withdraw their friendship from you.

Anyway I'm out of this thread now.

for the record, diane and kat have forgiven me. diane told me next time think with my head not my dick , and kat told me a personal story. Im glad they are still nice to me. And as for Sharla, yea bilbo she deleted me from her friends list too

[Sharla]

You made a joke of the first bit of compassion I showed you by backing off in the Living 2 lives thread, you keep telling me how much you hate women.

Diane and Katfight might be very compassionate people but more so than I because I don't see the point in pretending to like you when you hate all women so much.

[Julius Rain]

You made a joke of the first bit of compassion I showed you by backing off in the Living 2 lives thread, you keep telling me how much you hate women.

Diane and Katfight might be very compassionate people but more so than I because I don't see the point in pretending to like you when you hate all women so much.

I do not hate all women, as a matter of fact i love all women that is my problem. yes they can drive me crazy but i can not live without one. and i love my wife the most that is why she is my wife. I was one of the first members to befriend you, you should know i do not hate women. I get mad at them as much as they get mad at me. I have nothing against them I just state things I've experience. Bottomline is I do not hate women. I have lots of female friends, one of the first things i told my wife. I told her i hope she is not the jealous type, she says shes not its ok I have lots of friends. then later when we got married she fought away most of my female friends. I was not cheating then, and we fought about it a lot. Turns out she really is possessive, i no longer care if she is. All I want to do now is keep her as my wife. Like i said if shes going to leave me, the rest of the time i have now with her Im going to spend on making sure she remembers I once loved her. I know she may not forgive me, but I hope she is more like diane and kat then like you.

[Julius Rain]

hey bilbs im sorry even you had to lose a good friend in sharla because of me . if you like i can trade bruce to even it out