Originally Posted by
Sharla
Originally Posted by
Julius Rain
sharla your just being typical. when did i ever say i do not love my wife? you still have not moved on while we obviously all did. see how naggy women can be. you never really hear the end of it and when you thought it was over as soon as she gets emotional or upset she brings back old arguements. you cant stand not getting the last word, you must get your way, we must bow down to what you want and saying. well it does not always work that way. i will admit time after time i was wrong, whatever satisfaction you sharla are after from me i hope you get it. it does not matter to me. my life is my life and only god can judge me.
Well to be honest I'm not religious but I break fewer commandmants than you so talk about god all you like.
My last post was actually in reflection of whether or not I believed the post i highlighted about your wife maybe being pregnant and how you're lucky if it's ture.
The rest was to highlight how much i disagree with Bilbo's assumption of you being 'in a loveless marriage'.
It wasn't targeted directly at you - I'd finished with that but since you have so much negative stuff to say about women and while you didn't say you don't love your wife
you have said you hate her why are you married?!?!
You don't have to be married to everyone you love.
That's the problem he's working through now Sharla. I expect when he married he did love her and they got on well, enjoying each others company and being great friends.
But living together and the pressures of marriage, of difference in age, difference in interests etc have meant that they arn't liking each other so much any more.
When that happens it's easy to feel hatred for people you once cared about. It's a natural human reaction as evidenced by the fact you removed me from your friends list and no longer reply to my pm's. I guess becuase I disagreed with you over this I'm just an asshole not worthy of friendship eh?
Well I guess Rains has been in a similar situation in his marriage to where the situation with his wife has got so bad he's ended up feeling only hatred and anger towards her and has as a result treated her badly and cheated on her.
Of course that doesn't make it right, but it IS human nature sadly and we all end up hurting the ones we care about and falling out and cheating on them.
Hw can you not see that the amount of anger you seem to feel towards me and Rains, people you've never even met could be multiplied 100 x times if you had actually married that person and now felt stuck with them for the rest of your life and trapped?
You simply cannot act the way you've been acting on this thread with your completely unsympathetic judgements and not come across as a total hypocrite.
Your responses like 'well don't be married then' just betray a total lack of ability to empathise with someones situation. It's not easy to come to a decision to just leave someone you committed to marry, and if you can happily divorce someone without a second thought then what kind of love was that in the first place?
Rains shouldn't cheat on his wife. It's wrong, we all know that, just as we know that practically everybody in the whole world has cheated on somebody in some way at some point in their life.
Many great men (and woman) have commited the act of infidelity and will continue to do so. This doesn't mean it's ok and that they happily carry out this state of affairs without any thoughts of guilt or conscience, it just means people are human, nobody is perfect and we all cheat on each other, hurt each other and let each other down.
It is symbolic of the human condition I'm afraid and a sign that we are all selfish creatures at heart.
You may think you are better than Rains because you have never cheated on a man before, well you havn't been married to someone you later realise you don't love, or you find that you are both incompatible.
If your response to that is 'well he should have thought about that beforehand' then you just show yourself to have no empathy for your fellow humans and are not capable of showing compassion for people's mistakes.
You may have convinced yourself that you are morally superior to Rains because of his cheating behaviour, and morally superior to me becuase I still like him, but trust me on this, when something goes wrong in your life, you do something wrong, get in trouble, have people turn against you because you did something shameful, in those moments you'll be extremely grateful for the friends you have who don't judge you, who don't join with the crowd in condemning you and don't withdraw their friendship from you.
Anyway I'm out of this thread now.
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, and kat told me a personal story. Im glad they are still nice to me. And as for Sharla, yea bilbo she deleted me from her friends list too
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. if you like i can trade bruce to even it out 
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