He would be in full control. Because "what if" wouldn't be on his mind. it would be easier to move on. I don't think you're getting what I'm saying or getting at.

And I've done what you said to do and just left a guy I was seeing when his old flame moved down to NY from Atlanta and my boyfriend didn't know where his loyaltes laid. And I was miserable for about a month wonderinf what would have happened if I gave him a chance to make up his mind instead of not trusting him to stay. And I still feel really bad about that. So I am trying to stop him from feeling that way. And I know that I would have felt better if "what if" wasn't on my mind the whole while I felt miserable.

In SOBO's situation, the old flame of his girlfriend isn't staying and is going back to where he was soon. So she'll still be there where SOBO is. Did you read that too?

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My opinion is that if a girl doubts your relationship and she has a guy calling her 10 times in a week then you are right to demand answers. At this point they were still going out and some bastard was calling her all the time, if i was sobo...i would of confronted the guy and his gf coz all she is doing is caring about herself. Shes leaving sobo without any confirmation on their relationship while talking to some sleazy cunt who decided he loved her, im sorry but in my books thats fucking wrong. Thats getting as bad as cheating imo and i dont think any guy in their right mind would be able to be all pleasent and shit to a girl who could be cheating on him. Sobo mate i think your better off without her, if shes having doubts and is having a lot of contact with another guy who loves her then shes setting you up for a big fall.
But has she been contacting the other guy 10 times and hanging out with him and blowing SOBO off for the other guy? nope. Everything is assumption. She could very well be palnning on staying with SOBO which I think she will, and if she doesn't its on her and not him.
Starr do you really think she would tell him if she was calling him back? Well the fact that shes not showing any concern over these phone calls shows that she could have feelings for the other bloke. I dont think sobo wanting to know whats going on would break them up after all this situation started because of the girl and she aint willing to talk the whole thing through. She was even making up excuses not to see sobo....come on thats suspicious...she did have somethings to answer to and really she didnt answer any of them.
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but why play that game?

It hurts to play that game. It is easier to stop and start anew. Your way he can continue to be supportive while he gets his heart and ego stomped on. No thanks.
better to know that he did everything he could then wondering "what if"
Like "What if she was really cheatin on me", she could continue to go out with him and still be screwing that other cunt on the side. Not worth it, if she felt the sameway about sobo then she would of told the other guy to fuck off and that she was with someone...but she didnt, she acknowledged this guys feelings and looked to be leaning towards him coz she was wondering "What IF"
She ISN"T CHEATING ON HIM!! Look at what you said, how many assumptions are in there? And how many from what you knew. You are assuming more and you are assuming the negative. there are two sides.

Let me ask you..

What if she is intending to stay with SOBO and be with SOBO and remain loyal and aint been cheating or anything that you said could "potentially" happen, what if they aren't? just like I think they aren't.