Quote Originally Posted by X
Starr - I don't know you or anything , so no offence - but you are coming across as a bit of a bunny-boiler here.

What's all this 'be there for her' supportive psychobabble bullshit all about?

The guy had a girlfriend. She wants someone else. Life is a bitch. Get out with dignity intact (and SOBO, you've failed mate) Get over it. Move on.
She hasn't said that.

Her ex meets her and tells her he loves her - of course it throws her for a curve especially if things aren't going well with her & SOBO. It's natural that she has things on her mind. They agree it's something she needs to figure out, they begin to talk, when they finally arrange to meet up and talk SOBO walks away, leaving her on her own while she's confused and to my mind, regardless of saying he understands and cares, his actions say she's dumped and he doesn't care. At that point I would have made my mind up like I said. Fact is she's still gonna be emotional for a while, she may date this guy thinking the grass is greener, maybe it will be and SOBO and her weren't meant to be, maybe she'll figure out this guy is a jerk and want SOBO back, she may feel she's made an idiot of her self and be too embarrassed to say it.

If SOBO is still interested in her, give it about a month, when he sees her passing just shoot her a how's it going? her reaction will tell him everything he needs to know whether it's dead or can be resurrected.