Quote Originally Posted by SOBO
Starr. yes she was honest about her feelings, but then how do you explain her telling me everytime she said she loved me for 2 months she didn;t mean it?? I don't know how someone can do that, I see your point, but I think you have to take what I said into consideration,
Yea that is very cold. But I think this whole situation has helped since she told you it brought out so you wouldn't have to live a lie, and its good that you know that isn't it? Now that you are both seperated and are "honest" IF she came back(big if) it would be because she felt it again, unless you feel like it would be a lie.

about revenge, yes, it would be sweet, but im not gonna be a HUGE asshole to her, but IM obviously act nice, and pretend nothing happened, maybe I am sorta thinking of revenge, but who wouldn't in my situation, i dont want to hit her, or kill her, etc. but I do want her to miss me, and maybe feel like shit, for a bit,
Well sure, but you make someone miss you by being yourself. Not letting them get as close but always being yourself. Don't try anything different, just be SOBO, because it's SOBO that she would miss wouldn't it be? don't act different(well of course act different because you aren't together but nothing out of your personaloty) and really, do you really think she "wanted" you to feel miserable? You're "wanting" her to be miserable, which isn't what she wanted for you is it?

and to update, I was with my lil bro shopping for a baseball mit for him, and as I am going out, (the store plaza was near her house,) I saw her car pull up, I didn't want to look but I did, and I tihnk i saw her in the passenger seat, and her sister was driving, i just looked, and turned away to go tomy car.
There's a good and a bad to that. Making it seem like you're avoiding her isn't the image you want to present if you miss her. be yourself but don't show any "neediness" to her.

Quote Originally Posted by SOBO
and about this commitement, I was fine with it, I mean I was young, and naive, at one point we were talking silly, and thinking we were gonna youknow, have a house, with a white picket fence, etc.

Which was fun, but totally unrealistic, now looking back, and I knew it, but still set myself up.
Are you sure she wasn't sincere about those thoughts too at the time that you both were talking it?

And now, what would be the reason for taking her back? (if it happens, which is a big if)
If you both found a way back to each other I guess. And that would mean a lot if after THIS that still happened. It doesn't seem that ya'll had a problem with each other. Sounds more like you two needed time apart.

i now know that, whether or not i do want to have future with her, she will not be the only girl I will be with, which is sometihng I thought before all this, so that is why im thinking about not getting back with her, b/c what good will that do?
Chart down going through this and somehow finding a way back to each other? That would probably do a lot good. But I think if it happened it would probably be a more honest relationship. Without as many secrets. Because personally I don't think she did this to hurt you. You seem to think she did this to hurt you otherwise you wouldn't want revenge. Ask yourself if she did this to hurt you before you decide anything else.

might be better to just cut loose huh?
Your choice. She told you that a few times of the two months she didn't mean "i love you" right? Do you think she said that to hurt you? or to be honest? Now think about you wanting revenge, is that because you want to hurt her? and then ask yourself a third question, did she want to hurt you? And her not wanting to hurt you may also answer the question on why she went the last 2 months telling half truths. But I think that this chap just was the last straw and she decided to tell you everything by being honest. So in a way its a good thing that it happened or you both may continue livinv a lie. At least you know if you got back together it would be a more honest relationship. And you'll get the answer about how you should feel. But don't let ego get in the way.