Okay, Dizaster, I’ve read your posts and got a pretty good idea what seems to be the problem and it’s not as complicated as I first thought, though I can’t say the same about the possible solutions. First off, let me congratulate you for being able to get rid of your negative feelings - you make it seem as if it were easy to do. But… I get the feeling that you are actually suppressing or controlling your feelings. If I’m right, you are actually suppressing your feelings in a blanket manner, and that explains why you’re not feeling good despite getting rid of the bad ones because you are suppressing the good ones as well. You can’t feel well when all your feelings are suppressed. So what you should be actually doing instead is to first let your feelings or emotions be set loose again and start from there. But make no mistake about it, mastering your thoughts, feelings and emotions is one of the most difficult thing to do that usually take years to master (it has been often compared to taming a wild beast). Of course, it’s better to start as soon as you can and make it your lifetime goal. Having a goal itself is one of the keys to happiness. I didn’t have the same type of problem you have so I can’t guarantee a sure-fire solution for it, but with my longtime experience and a bit of luck maybe I can help.

You were saying, to put it simply, that you easily get pissed off. The very first thing you do with any negative feeling is trying to get the sting out of the feeling itself, not the cause – at least not for now. I mean don’t be bothered by your negative feelings because that’s the first step towards letting it go. Negative feelings reinforce itself in a self-perpetuating manner when you keep feeling bad or being bother by the feeling itself. Just start by telling yourself, ‘so what if I feel pissed off by those nice bastards,’ and then, start letting go of those negative attitudes towards those people or situations that usually pisses you off. (Note that it’s important to distinguish between those people/situations that irritate you and that bad feeling you feel against that feeling of irritation itself. Do you follow me? Just in case, it’s like this: you felt(1) really pissed off by someone, and then later you felt(2) bad or guilty about it [being pissed off].) Because not being bothered by your negative feelings themselves is the first step toward letting go of it totally. Once you’re not bothered by those feelings themselves, then you can start doing the same with the situations and peoples that irritate you. Like, ‘I don’t give a damn about being pissed off by those nice bastards, but those things they do ain’t that bad after all.’ Remember the one of the most important law of the mind is: the more you are anxious about your negative feelings, the more stronger they becomes…

On as to whether you should replace your negative feelings with positive ones. The answer is definitely yes. It’s simple: when you’re happy, you’ll hardly or ever get pissed off, right? …


Of course all these are much more easier said than done, but it's a good starting point, to say the least. Hope they'll help.