re: Zen Master Pacfan and Taoist Andre.

Originally Posted by
Dizaster
Everything above is brilliant... Far more than I expected to get back when I asked the original question...
I have lots to respond with but not much time to post right now, but I had another quick question..
I'm wanting do to some sort of practice that takes me out of my day and I can concentrate on relaxing, letting go etc. I found a Yoga video laying around and have done that twice, but it's not as relaxing as i'd hoped. A lot of the poses are straining and in my current not-so-fit state, it's more of a workout.
I'm thinking maybe tai-chi although i've found it hard to find any instruction on that, online anyway... I might go hire something on DVD..
A secondary question. I also would like to start a quick meditation each night.. It's very difficult because I don't have any time alone in my house. I have a lot of tasks to do, and would have to fit meditation in between them, adding to the resistance of coming to peace in the middle of that. I also don't really have a place in the house that is private and peaceful, and where I won't be interupted.. I have a small spare bedroom that is like a store room where old clothes and boxes etc are thrown everywhere..
It's the quietest room in the house though so i'm guessing this could be my place for it...
Do you have any tips for meditating in such an environment, or think I should try cleaning the room and preparing it in some way to be more relaxing?
I know that I need the time out of my day to let stuff go...
I've been on holidays from work for the past 4 weeks. For the first 3 I ran around doing all the things I thought I needed to do so that I could relax. Clean, paid bills, worked on my business idea, gardening etc... It was a relatively good feeling and I felt a bit of peace of mind that I had wiped these things off my mental checklist. -- But last Monday, even knowing that I still had stuff to do, I dropped it all and sat out in the sun for hours just reading. I was probably only outside for about 4 hours, but I felt better than night "achieving nothing" that day, than all the others where i'd gotten a tonne of stuff done... I also felt like i'd dropped a lot of mental tension that i'd carried my whole holidays...
I always feel like, if I have spare time in the evenings after work, I should spend it completing tasks so I can tick them off my list and hence, let go of the mental tension of it being needed to do.... I always feel like given spare time, I should be "productive" and that will make me feel better...
But i'm realising that sitting down for 30 minutes of peace at night is a thousand times better for me in just about every way, than searching for the next task to complete... My brain always tries to convince me that sitting down and thinking about and doing nothing is a waste of "time" - In meaning that time can be converted into productivity and "doing things" that need to be done... But taking the time out last week to just relax didn't even take me away from my tasks, and was more rewarding that "completing things".
So i'm sold on meditation or time out, being as valuable as anything else I could possibly have to do at night..
Some pointers on what you’ve said:
- Yoga and Tai chi are good if you can do them. I bought an Indian published yoga book long time ago and it was pretty good with some popular poses, but mostly, it talked more about ancient, yoga-related Hindu doctrines, from which I learned a lot. But I learned yoga postures suit best for those who have bodily tensions, while the spiritual exercise (meditation) for mental, as well as bodily, tension.
- Taking clutters out of your home, as well as your mind, is good. But some people find cluttered and crowded place more peaceful. I never felt peace with all the clutters around, but strangely, when I placed all the stuffs in boxes and stacked them neatly in one room, that room felt peaceful even though loaded with all the boxes. Probably, it’s not the amount of things that matters but it’s the neatness. Just find what suits you well.
- You seem to like reading, so if you wish, try reading those self-help or motivational books. Keep reading those stuffs does well to keep your mind on positive things. Choose the ones whose author are good motivators; some are really good. I used to read those kinds of books long time ago and I remember one of the best for motivation and encouragement was titled something like the Conquest of Frustration, byM. Maltzandaco-authorwhosenameI can’t remember.
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So it’s pretty clear that you’re a busy body and a ‘tense’ sort of guy, which I used to be too. And you seem to want to keep yourself busy always, which makes you feel guilty when you think you’ve fooled around a bit. That worries me a bit particularly if you decide to meditate. So to motivate yourself for meditation, firstly, think of it as, or better yet, firmly believe that it’s, something superbly good for you, one of the best things you can do for yourself; that is, you are meditating because you want to improve yourself and your life. Secondly, never make it an obligation, but instead, always think that you will do it because you want to do it.
Having cleared the way a bit, now there are many sites on the net where they teach meditations. But beware. Many ones are either inadequate or a bit fakish, or to put it more nicely, just pretending to know. Be careful when they tell you to concentrate, because the word concentrate implies effort and there should be no effort, or at least not much, in meditation. But no doubt the ones Andre mentioned are the good ones. And remember this too, meditation is a way, not an end in itself. It’s a learning process. It’s like climbing up a thousand steps towards ‘masterhood’, and you start with the lowest step, going up slowly but surely, one at a time. It’s like playing a piano, the more you play, the more you learn and master it; so try not to keep your expectations too high because usually, after the initial euphoria, it starts to fade a bit. So try out whatever method you want from the net. But in the meantime, when your mind is so agitated and full of tension, try this simple method, though this is not a meditation in a strict sense:
Get yourself in a quiet, dark (the darker the better) place, sit comfortably in any position and close your eyes. Then, try to totally shut yourself out, sort of completely closing your mind of all things – thoughts, light, sounds, etc. If you have to wear earmuffs, do so (a plug-in earphones will do, but of course without the music). You can do this as long as you want, and then if you want to sleep or do a regular meditation, do so.
Try out whatever you want and if you have any problem, just let me know and I’ll try to help if I can. One thing I can say is that I am an expert of meditation, perhaps not yet a master, and probably I’ve meditated longer than most guys who teach it on the net.
Once in awhile, get outside in fresh air, take a deep breath & with a deep sigh, let out all the things that's bottled up inside you & be free, & you'll get a glimpse of nirvana.
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