I Think It's a Bad Idea, but Tell My Wife That

[Kev]

A couple days ago, my wife and I were coming home from work. She told me about a female co-worker who she is friendly with getting upset with her husband because she has been trying to lose weight and her husband said something about he was about to go work out. For some reason, I don't know what, this was upsetting. But my wife advised her to have him watch their daughter during a time she knew he wanted to go exercise. I think that's a wee bit petty, but regardless of whether or not it was good advice, I think it's bad policy for a woman to be advising another woman about what she should be doing in her marriage. To me it just has too much potential to blow up in your face, especially if you are friends with the person. I think the best thing to do is listen and nod in agreement to whatever they say. Maybe if you're good friends you can tell the person they have done something wrong if they have, but don't tell the person what they should or shouldn't be doing in their relationship. I know I would not respond positively if my wife, in mid-argument, said something like, "Sylvia said I should blah-blah-blah." First, I'd be pissed she was talking about our business with other people. Second, I'd be calling up Sylvia to give her a piece of my mind and advising her to butt the hell out my business. I think something like this could happen to my wife if she continues to feel the necessity of being an advisor in such an inappropriate fashion. What say you guys?

Mate all I can say is women are funny things. Who knows how their minds work seriously.

She took offense becuase he said he wanted to work out? I guess in her mind that was him calling her a fat slob or something

Best thing to do is just roll your eyes, shrug and feign interest in this pointless banality but internally just be thinking about the football.

[Wayne]

I really don't care about her co-worker being angry. I just think it's bad policy to advise women on what they should be doing within the confines of their own relationship. I'd shit a brick if a friend of my wife's did that.

[Trainer Monkey]

I dont think its a bad idea to seek or give advise even in a relationship,I do think that particular piece of advice was really petty and short sighted though. What purpose does sticking him with the kid every time he wants to work out serve.
Did your wifes friend get in any better shape?
Did the husband,not get denied doing something for his own self improvement?

Giving advice when its asked isnt a problem,everybody could use some at some point,this particular piece of advice wasnt particularly helpful

[Wayne]

Spiteful, you are absolutely right. I guess I don't think advice per se is that big of a deal, but in matters of conflict I wouldn't do it. If a friend asked me what gift they should buy for a mate or where they should go for vacation. But you-should-do-this-because-he-did-that is stuff I wouldn't touch.