Went to my first pickup seminar..

[Dizaster]

Let me get this straight. Your girlfriend offered to come with you to a seminar on how to pick up women but you said you'd rather go alone.

Also, where you live in your city they have a local "pickup" forum on the subject and you are a member of this city forum? On how to pick up women.

Yes to all that.. It's a long story that i'll have a go at explaining tomorrow..

And it was just $20 Bilbo which is like 8 pounds or something... So it really just covered their time and thats it.

[RP33]

overcoming social anxiety isn't easy.. But as i've posted before, my best method is ignoring it. I don't really have the issues you have, but i still have general anxiety and the occasional panic attack.

You have to learn and always remember that you're feeling the way you feel (anxious) because you're allowing yourself to. I can "think" my way out of a panic attack by asking myself why am i doing this.. to myself..

Sounds stupid, but you need to master ignoring your anxiety. The fact that you went to this seminar makes you, in your head, convinced that you have issues. You need to throw caution to the wind and just DO IT. The girl you're about to approach, or the customer you're about to call does not know you're not confident in yourself. The best way to build your confidence is to fake it at first. Go up to a girl with all of the confidence in the world just to try it out. Be prepared to get rejected, but be happy that you went along and approached her.

I don't really think you need a seminar for that. I mean, who am i to tell you where/how to touch a girl. The fact that you're allowing me to tell you that shows that you already are feeling inferior to me. Therefore, feeding your anxiety/lack of confidence.

From your postings on here, it seems that you keep setting goals for yourself. Like when you said you were going to approach so many girls in so much of a time period. When you say you're going to do those things, you're content with your life, until that time comes, then you fall short of your goal and go back to your "i have social anxiety" phase. Instead, i wouldn't set goals. I'd just go out and do it. Don't think about it, just do it. The human brain/mind is so powerful, it can make you absolutely sick. It can eat you up inside and kill you. But you have to remember, that you're in control.

[CGM]

Let me get this straight. Your girlfriend offered to come with you to a seminar on how to pick up women but you said you'd rather go alone.

Also, where you live in your city they have a local "pickup" forum on the subject and you are a member of this city forum? On how to pick up women.

Yes to all that.. It's a long story that i'll have a go at explaining tomorrow..

And it was just $20 Bilbo which is like 8 pounds or something... So it really just covered their time and thats it.

It seemed a little odd, but I'm sure there's a good explanation. It's all cool, no need to explain unless you want too. It does sound kinda interesting though.