Some stuff I had to get off my chest.

[CFH]

Congrats on the house amat, sorry everything else is going so tough for you right now. I remember when my mom died I got a little bit of cash, which I've been using to pay for school. It was nice, I guess, but it didn't dull the pain or make me feel any better.

Yup, my Uncle died on New Years Eve and it's not just losing him, it's just the fact that everyone is sad now and at times angry. I would give it all back in a heartbeat just to go back to December 30th but that will never happen so I suppose it's time to move on. I also got another cashiers check for 15 thousand which I am just going to sit on, I don't even want it in my savings. It's for school, it's been so hard to do fucken homework especially for math but I've been coasting by, I'm only at a JC so the real money will be dished out at the 4 year especially if I go out of state.

Of course you would, so would I, but in the end once all the negative feelings subside a bit it'll be nice for you to look at your house, your education (or whatever else you do with the money) and be thankful that someone who you loved and who loved you was able to give you that sort of gift. I'm just about finished my undergrad and I never would have been able to do this without incurring massive debt without my mom's help and while, like you, I'd do anything to have her back it's still nice to know that she cared that much about me. I'm seriously worried that I'll tear up at the grad ceremony .

/gay

Anyways man, it's really cool that you have a house, paid for, at such a young age.

[Nameless]

Congrats Amat.

You know, I feel you a lot because I have a deeply fractured family as well, except that the fracture originates from my asshole of a father. He did stole a couple of grants to me, my bro and my 2 cousins, the son and daughter of his brother who's dead now, best guy on earth, who did everything for my father, including shelling 40K to put on our house at some point and buying him a Grand Cherokee. He destroyed my Mom's self esteem which I took years to build back and never helped for my handicap brother since his accident pretending he did everything and that my mom wasn't doing "that much' with him.
One thing I can tell you: Do not let anger consumes you. I've been angry at my dad way too long, it consumed my energy a lot, now I am over with it, he's millionaire and will die alone for I don't give a flying F. The second best advice I can tell you is to stack at least 2/3 of the money remaining and place it somewhere, do not spend it, I know way too many peoples (including my dead uncle) who had money beyond limits and did spend it all because they didn't realize that money is fast gone when you're on the ride. This nice little home is perfect, nearby a lake, perfect for some quietude, not too far from your center of interests, I am happy for you.

[amat]

I'm not sure how much money I'm going to save, my dad also blew a lot of money but he never invested in a house. IDK, it's only like 44K I have left after the house and the 15K cashier check I took. Any suggestions? lol. I am going to buy a boat, obviously, I think I'm close to buying one for 6,500 I've been negotiating a couple days with the dealer over email, seems like a nice boat. Of course some money will also go into the house, in addition to the floors I would like to have a nice yard and I want to remodel that back deck you see in the pictures and add a gate, IDK, I should make a checklist.

[OumaFan]

Good stuff (I mean obviously not all of it but you know), I wish I had a house. Plus on the serious side its much better than just blowing it on whatever, you can always sell it. As for everything else, I don't have anything real profound to say, just sorry about your Uncle and just in general stuff just gets easier as time goes by. Sounds like a Hallmark movie I know but its true.

I remember being a bit more pissed off in general around that age. Not all the time, but I remember getting in this screaming match at a red light with this older women once and then feeling like such a douche after it was over. I think it happened most often when I was losing my buzz. For what its worth my step dad still does that stuff from time to time.

[Nameless]

I'm not sure how much money I'm going to save, my dad also blew a lot of money but he never invested in a house. IDK, it's only like 44K I have left after the house and the 15K cashier check I took. Any suggestions? lol. I am going to buy a boat, obviously, I think I'm close to buying one for 6,500 I've been negotiating a couple days with the dealer over email, seems like a nice boat. Of course some money will also go into the house, in addition to the floors I would like to have a nice yard and I want to remodel that back deck you see in the pictures and add a gate, IDK, I should make a checklist.

I understand that you want to do all of that but seriously Amat, do not buy everything you're talking at the moment eight away. You definitely not need all of these things right now, sure it is tempting but most of them are "luxury" so to speak. 44K, that's a lot but that's nothing at the same time. If I was you, I would finish to renovate the inside of the house first so this place would be exactly as you want it. The Boat can wait, tempting sure, but why would it have to be bought this year? If I was you, I would stack aside at least 30K to get some interests and to have something in case something deep shit happens. I say renovate the house first and buy a boat in, let's say, 1 year or two, using some of the fresh income you'll get in the meantime. The first lesson I got in life is: never blow down your main capital if it's not necessary and go for the most important first.

[Gandalf]

Nice work on getting on the property ladder and falling into some money. Sorry about all the other family shit, family is never easy to deal with. Always a case of the rough with the smooth, I guess.

As for the rest of your money, just don't fritter it all away and consume. If you want to study you could invest in more education or just buy some gold and stash it away. Or you could just spend it all on bitches and drugs, but I would argue for caution.

[Andre]

I'm not sure how much money I'm going to save, my dad also blew a lot of money but he never invested in a house. IDK, it's only like 44K I have left after the house and the 15K cashier check I took. Any suggestions? lol. I am going to buy a boat, obviously, I think I'm close to buying one for 6,500 I've been negotiating a couple days with the dealer over email, seems like a nice boat. Of course some money will also go into the house, in addition to the floors I would like to have a nice yard and I want to remodel that back deck you see in the pictures and add a gate, IDK, I should make a checklist.

Congrates mate. i havent read right though it all yet but get the gist.
Sorry about the fam and the Uncle.
Like NAmeless has said; dont ever allow anger in to yourself it is self consuming.

Amat get a survey done on the boat mate ,its a must.You could be blowing thousands otherwise, boats are too easy to mask bad stuff up on.

[Fenster]

You lucky sod (apart from the UNcle bit). Nice house.

My grandad died at christmas. Left me nothing. I hadn't seen him in 15 years though. Not because he was an asshole, because i'm an asshole.

[OumaFan]

Buy the boat. Its a lake house. You can't swim in lakes, its fucking disgusting. You need a boat.

[Nameless]

Buy the boat. Its a lake house. You can't swim in lakes, its fucking disgusting. You need a boat.

[Andre]

You lucky sod (apart from the UNcle bit). Nice house.

My grandad died at christmas. Left me nothing. I hadn't seen him in 15 years though. Not because he was an asshole, because i'm an asshole.

Fact.