I tried to cook myself last night!

[Gandalf]

It's more the way you tell the stories rather than the content that makes me smile. (just so you know I'm not some sadistic freak laughing at your misfortune!)

From an outsider looking in, having only been reading your stories for a year or so, you seem to argue more than anyone else I know. Constantly something to row about. It's not healthy.

I think you (more your wife from what you've wrote) need to either chill out and let things slide, or get out and be happy. Sex says it all more often than not. Great sex = great relationship, poor/ no sex = bad times.

I think I tell a story quite well. I quite like telling them as it gives me a place to vent and I tell them in a very matter of fact kind of way. The whole thing has worn me down though. I just want a peaceful life. Yesterday for instance I just wanted to be able to finish my dinner, but I couldn't.

I do document the negative much more than the positive as to get the bile out seems to be better than to let it fester. There isn't much point in posting the times when you are peacefully able to eat your dinner.

It seems a lot of Korean relationships border on the psychopathic. I have seen men beating their partners in cars and on the street. It is alien to me though. If someone screams and shouts at me I want to walk away. If someone tries to hit me my reaction is much the same. However, it seems that a lot of these women like to rant and eventually do get a fist back in return. I never want to do that and so the screaming and breaking of things gets more extreme. It's like she is trying to provoke a reaction, but I just won't give it. One of her favourite buzzwords is "kill me" and she will say this whilst trying to punch the hell out of my arm. I just look at her as though she is crazy because it is crazy. It's in those kind of moments that I say "to hell with this. I need to get out of the house".

For sure, it is not healthy. If I end up going out and getting drunk then that is bad for me and that's an evening when I was more than happy to sit at home and read or post something silly on here. Rather than punch anyone, I would sooner go out and sink a few beers for a little peace of mind. It's also the mental pressure that can get to you as well. Nobody likes to row. I think I have reached the end of my tether though. You can't be ripping up marriage documents and then three days later expect me to be as right as rain and to tell me that it was my fault that she decided to physically destroy something.

She is unable to take responsibility for her violent ways. If she hits me, then it's my fault that she hit me. If she breaks something then it's my fault because I made her break it. It crosses the line between a row and being outright destruction and I realise the destructive impact this can have on my mind too. I am a man with firm convictions, but I am also quite peaceful. I've had enough of it TBH. It seems that she is unable to see the error of her ways and I am getting to the point where I am just beyond caring. I will try to explain that physically attacking me is a criminal act and she will just say "But you said blah blah blah and so made me do it". How can you reason with that kind of thinking? It's a good thing she isn't a mother. "Mummy why did you hit me?". "Well, you made me do it". It's absurd.

[superheavyrhun]

That doesn't sound like a particularly healthy relationship there miles, is it often that she loses it or is it just an occasional thing? You're not painting Korea in a particularly good light either.

From watching travel programmes it seems to be a very corporate-driven country, where success is all-important.

[Gandalf]

That doesn't sound like a particularly healthy relationship there miles, is it often that she loses it or is it just an occasional thing? You're not painting Korea in a particularly good light either.

From watching travel programmes it seems to be a very corporate-driven country, where success is all-important.

Well, it has been twice in the last week. However, it isn't usually that frequent. We usually have a good row about once every couple of months. When the rows happen they can be pretty mental. For intance, we once had a nice cooking pan. She lost it and decided to hit it against the wall about 100 times. It totally deformed the pan and messed up the wallpaper. I mean, what greater purpose does that serve? It's just so silly. I guess the Korean model for a row is two people going at it hammer and tongs and for the pair to do a bit of pushing shoving. But as a rather typical old fashioned English man I really don't like to go beyond the verbal sparring. Sure, you want an argument then I will put my viewpoint back at you. But when you try to push it towards violence that is when I retreat and want to get out. Her tactic is to goad me and push me into doing something, but beyond pushing her away and then locking myself in the bathroom or managing to get out the front door, I just won't do it. That kind of carry on is just mental.

No, I don't always paint Korea in a positive light. I often contrast the Koreans with the Japanese who on the surface have a clean country, drive small cars and have good manners. The Koreans on the other hand have a filthy country, constantly spit on the floor, drive ridiculous SUV's and are loud and emotional. It is a nation with a serious chip on it's shoulder. It is a harsh country and nepotism is rife. Koreans work the longest hours of any OECD country, but in truth are actually very lazy workers.

[Andre]

Been watching Banged up a/broad .

Hoping it was a was an American porn show to start with .

Anyway last night they had a teacher an American,who smuggled hashish from Phillipines into sth Korea with his girlfriend. He got banged up in jail she got away.
He got done in the post office in Seoul.

I Thought of you Miles,just as he was staring out the glass windows onto the city wondering whether to pick up the package from the counter or go home.