Anxiety in the gym

[southpawwolves]

I too suffered with this at first but eventually realised everyone was in the same boat at one point and luckily for me everyone I've asked or has saw me struggling have been very helpful

[HerbM]

Everybody wrote 'good stuff' here but the key is that this is still going on after two years, and it is still significant enough to get BigSkinny87 to post asking for help.

Also, he had most of the 'right attitude' stuff expressed in his own initial post.

So here is a different idea: Go find an "NLP Therapist" -- someone who advertises as using Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Ask the therapist UP FRONT, "How long will this take?" If they answer isn't something like "20 minutes or you don't have to pay me" find a different therapist.


Ok, the answer might be "Two sessions, and if we haven't solved your problem I will help you find a different therapist."

Good NLP Therapists help people remove such issues all the time -- and they are confident enough to offer money back guarantees (or else they are not "good enough" in my estimation.)

Alternatively, you could take an NLP "practitioner" course -- during which you will get enough "accidentally therapy" (hey, everybody has to practice the techniques with a partner) AND you will ge the tools to help yourself with many problems.

Really.

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Herb

[the killer]

Herb, i have never heard of that(npl) will you tell us how to find such a person?

[the killer]

sorry NLP

[HerbM]

Yellow pages (commercial phone directory), Internet search (google) should work most anywhere in North America or Europe.

Many therapists have some NLP training -- some certainly just 'took a course' and never really internalized the techniques properly so get someone who is confident enough to offer a money back guarantee and will do it FAST.

A big part of NLP is doing things quick and easy that other therapy modalities treat as hard and slow.

For simple phobias (this may not be such) it takes a decent BEGINNER at NLP and about 20 minutes (15 minutes to make sure the change is Ok and 5 minutes to actually DO the work.)

Then anchoring in good useful resources in the situation should take another 20 minutes. Teaching you to build additional resources (making you able to fish and not just giving you dinner) a little bit longer so you don't NEED the therapist to fixup any lingering problems.

If this is not a simple phobia, MAYBE a 2nd session. With the good resource anchoring and you knowing how to build on that, it will not only be better right away, it will get better each time you visit the gym as long as you WORK the methods while you WORK out.

Stepping into the ring, would be another good place to build.

A good NLP people helper will need to be a little careful here to make sure and get the difference between removing any harmful anxieties and replacing these with useful resource states VERSUS trying to make someone overconfident or careless about competition. A little of the proper type of nervous energy can help you fight better and remind you to PROTECT yourself at all times.

Boxing has ritual and structure, so keying all this to the existing procedures and your own pre-workout or pre-fight habits is easy.

E.g., you wrap your hands each day before you workout, right? I would suggest keying the gym (ordinary workout) changes to this time etc.

You get ready and get into a competition ring a certain way, the coach says or does certain things, so does the ref -- use that predictable structure to remind your of your tasks and inner resources for completing those tasks.

Another example is people who need to get hit before they "start fighting" -- anchor in a PREVIOUS time when you ALREADY got hit, didn't you?, and take that into your NEXT fight, and the NEXT fight, now?

I could almost do this part over email, if I could just see and hear you guys and make sure to get the right responses so that you are still going to be careful and workmanlike in taking care of yourself in the ring or when sparring, right?

The phobia part is even easier, but it requires you imagining some odd things which have to be personalized just a little bit.

[HerbM]

The original poster doesn't show his location in his profile, but a Google search like this will get you started:

nlp ~therapist birmingham
I left it ambiguous as to Birmingham England or Alabama (US) so you put your own location in there -- perhaps the nearest big town or city if you don't find anything in your little village at first.

The ~ makes the search APPROXIMATE -- words like psychotherapist, counsellor should both match as well.

You could customize it like this:

nlp ~therapist | ~coach YOUR_LOCATION anxiety | phobia

Add or drop a few search terms to tune the results....

On Google the vertical bars '|' mean OR, either term will match.

[X]

Hey, BigSkinny87 ........ fair play to you for the post.

Tough place to be.

Why did you start doing boxing? If you think about that, you might find the answer.

Personally (and i dont know you or the gym or anything, so forgive me if I am miles off) ... I would focus on yourself. Look at the technique you are trying to learn, understand your body and its limitations, get every single punch technically right, 'feel' the bagwork, skip really smoothly. Just go deep inside yourself.

Look inside yourself and conquer your body first. Once you've done that, then worry about what everyone else thinks.

After all, boxing isnt really about competing with your opponent, its about understanding yourself and the physical and mental limitations that we all have. Conquer your body and your mind will follow.

If you have anxiety about what you look like externally, bury it and just deal with yourself. If you can do that, everything external will come along by itself