Julius has a wife who earns good money.
Julius said school is important for him right now.
Julius ages ago decided to quit school because he couldn't juggle school and work at the same time.
Now apparently he's back though.
This add up to anyone else - I doubt Julius has pure emotional attachments keeping him with his wife.
Oh but he still expects sympathy! Boo Fing Hoo Julius!
Yea she does earn lots of money, she kills me with that. Shes 28 im 21, I haven't even finish school she already has a masters.
School is important to me, i tell her that she say she understand but when we argue I can not have any time to be alone and study.
Yea Im back in school. so far its still hard.
Don't worry Julius I still like ya mate
It's easy to criticise someone without being in their situation.
You're only 21 mate, your wife is 27 I believe.
You arn't the first person to marry young and then feel like you're trapped in a relationship that you no longer want to be part of.
Some of the moralising on this thread has gone totally over the top imo, like everybody else leads perfect lives
It's easy to pontificate about doing the right thing when your not the one living in that situation.
I've been in relationships where I no longer wanted to be with my girl, or we had problems and it's fucking horrible, you feel completely alone and trapped.
I hope you work things out mate.
You would have all my support and sympathy if you didn't spend the time you would have to be alone screwing around unprotected and bragging about it.
Hell many of us - myself included - worked shitty jobs to get through uni - i didn't find time to screw around as much as you but I did get through it without scabbing off and cheating on the same person!
if i came of as bragging then im sorry, it was humor to me and not intentional that i was bragging. I usually note that what im doing is wrong. if you look at my living two lives thread you can see i say its not right to do but im doing it. I don't know sometimes, sometimes i hate my wife so much. i do not want to hurt her but maybe if i do anyway with out her knowing id feel better. its not right but it is what it is for some reason.
It is you. It is not what it is - you are what you decide to do and be.
No one is perfect. I'm glad you're not bragging about it anymore.
I think if you hate your wife you should split up with her and find another way to support yourself.
Even if it wasn't a permanent split and the two of you decided to get back together in a year or two when you're older and more mature it'd be better than becoming whatever you would call what you're heading towards.
I hate her but not hate hate, its just anger. I married her for a real reason, I do love her. Shes not supporting me financially but she does make more. I pay for my side but she has more furniture more things more belongings.
I did try to talk to her about taking some time of, and she just threw that idea at my face. She told me, we are not boyfriend girlfriend anymore! we are married, there is no time out in this! That idea made me look like a foolish teenager really. She usually comes down on me with my age. She thought the idea was immature but I was trying to explain to her that it may help in the long run. She says no though cause she does not want me away. She loves me I know she tells me a lot. Our parents just say its newly wed bumbs and it usually goes away after the first year or two.
Her mother tells her to lay of the age difference between us because age does not matter. Plus my mother in law believes that I am usually more mature than the usually 21 year old. Infact she tells me that it is her daughter that can be very immature and possessive. we all have our pro's and con's. I know what I did is wrong and no matter how crazy my wife drives me i should not have been doing them. I honestly just did it, and honestly enjoyed it. What I did will just add more problems to what we already had. i know this and now although I fear having to tell her i know I must.
Notice I deleted the rest because it's all wa wa wa - sook sook sook - cry cry cry. Man the F up!
Leave it at the last paragraph and people wouldn't be so disgusted by you Julius.
You want everyone to think you're a great guy again - start behaving like one - forget the excuses - and take some positive action.
That right there says you need out. Divorce her. There are no kids (at least not with her) to worry about. If anything it can really benefit you. i'm pretty sure there's no pre nup. So with her making more money and you still in school I'm pretty sure you can pull in some alimony. That's a crazy come up.
You should work in marriage guidance Sharla, such a lovely gentle manner
Seriously if you can get so angry about a situation that has nothing to do with you to the point that it makes you completely cold towards Julius don't you think it's just possible that him actually living 24/7 in a loveless marriage might just make him feel cold towards her and vice versa?
If you can't show any compassion to a young lad who obviously married too soon pouring his heart out in a forum then how do you think you'd have any more compassion and love for someone you were stuck with who in that moment you felt only anger towards?
Rains has feelings and emotions just like any of you, as does his wife. People make mistakes, people fall out of love, people even end up having affairs when a relationship goes sour.
It's part of life, nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes and we all do things that are wrong.
Jealousy,Jealousy.......selfishness.Early on It had cost me so many perfect women that I thought were the perfect One.You get so caught up in not losing "That one" that I sabotaged my self ultimately.Taking responsibility,growing and not repeating the same mistakes has led me to a pretty solid 3 year relationship.In hindsight, I believe that Jealousy was Insecurities ugly cousin.Just passing through Lol...... Moving on
Most of us react with shame and regret when we do things that are wrong.
We don't go onto public forums, brag about it, refer to the knocked up girl as a 'cunt', attempt to order an abortion etc etc etc.
Plus there are mistakes and there are mistakes.
I can be disgusted by Julius regardless of whether you agree with me or not because he bragged about it on a public forum.
If he wanted someone to suck him off, justify his behaviour and even worship him for it the way he expected he should have just PMed you!
He accidentally went out of his way to find time in his busy schedule to screw around on his wife. We've ascertained his wife would never do that and hasn't even ever shagged anyone else in her life. He had a series of one nighters scot free. Plenty of time to think - you know - maybe bad idea.
Not only that he chose to do it unprotected - we all have had the birds and the bees explained to us. We've all heard of STDs. He knew what he was playing with.
Whatever touchy feely feelings he may have I'm not going to listen to him make excuses for that and justify it.
He found himself in a difficult relationship he should have done what most people would have done and end it.
At the very least he should have worn a condom. he was just WAITING for something to happen whether it was a pregnancy or and STD he HAD to have known something would happen.
No sympathy for that. He's playing with life whether it's the creation of it or the destruction of it and that's serious.
Before I reached an age where I was able to reproduce I knew that was wrong.
I seem to remember a thread where Julius got all POd at Missy for a religious disagreement. Now he goes against his religion with his own actions and he doesn't expect people to go against it but actually has the nerve to brag!
What would people in your church have to say about this Julius?!?!
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