Anxiety in the gym

[BigSkinny87]

I was wondering if any of the seasoned fighters or boxing enthusiasts have any advice for over-coming mental anxiety in the gym.

I by nature, am a pretty shy person. I also suffer from social anxiety, even despite my physical stature which is 6'3" 205lbs. I am 23 years-old and have been boxing for about 2 years now.

In the gym I tend to feel awkward when shadowboxing. I know I need to prep my mind for what I should be focused on, technique, footwork, combos, but I feel like every one is watching me even though I know they are not. Self-conscious, too damn self-conscious

Where I go is a relatively small gym. I also have a hard time with getting in the ring and sparring. As a boxing student, I get timid and feel like I don't want to hurt the other person. I tend to wait for punches to come and get hit a few times before I start firing back and going on the offensive.

How do I go about getting over these issues. It's a boxing gym. It's a sport. You hit people. You get hit. How do I take the personal feelings out of the equation?

Unfortunately this un-easiness is something I suffer from in any social event, or in groups of big people.

Thank you in advance!

[CFH]

As someone who's had anxiety issues in the past, I can tell you that, for me, the only way to overcome it was to force myself to do the things that were making me anxious. In your case, provided the anxiety isn't completely debilitating, I would suggest you just get in the gym and give yourself a couple of months to get used to it. If you're anything like me, you'll find that the anxiety gradually abates.

[the killer]

Man o Man... i feel like i am looking at my own feelings on paper when i read your post. i am a big guy too and i used to feel like that.

what i do now is deep breaths before i go in the ring and picture myself having fun and being relaxed. the first time i did this was the best time ive ever had in the ring also that is when i started to put to practice what i had been learning in the gym. this is also the first time my coach said that he saw a BIG imporvement in my skill and fluid movement.

as for shadow boxing... i too go to a small gym and just knowing that everyone else feels like a dick at first helped me to get a lot less stressed. start off by going through the motions slowly and speed up as you feel better about what you are doing.

all in all you will feel better with time, and know that all the guys in the gym that you train with want to get better and want you to get better too. hang in there, you can do it!!

[gramm]

I have the same problem but its not in the gym its when i fight. I do great in the gym sparring hard and everything else but during my first two fights i froze bad, I basically forgot everything I know. but like the other guys said the more fights I had the better my nerves and feelings became and now ive won my past last 3 fights in a row. amateur of course.

[donnydarkoIRL]

Everyone who trains in boxing feels a little nervous when exposing their skills at the gym.
You feel vulnerable as you expose your best abilities in front of the "strangers" who judge you.

To be honest what I found was once I immersed myself in the gym "community" I felt a lot more at ease. This meant I just made friends of the fighters and mentors of the trainers. Being comfortable in my gym I feel more at ease and have no reservations in exerting myself more.

Best of luck buddy

[ICB]

I was wondering if any of the seasoned fighters or boxing enthusiasts have any advice for over-coming mental anxiety in the gym.

I by nature, am a pretty shy person. I also suffer from social anxiety, even despite my physical stature which is 6'3" 205lbs. I am 23 years-old and have been boxing for about 2 years now.

In the gym I tend to feel awkward when shadowboxing. I know I need to prep my mind for what I should be focused on, technique, footwork, combos, but I feel like every one is watching me even though I know they are not. Self-conscious, too damn self-conscious

Where I go is a relatively small gym. I also have a hard time with getting in the ring and sparring. As a boxing student, I get timid and feel like I don't want to hurt the other person. I tend to wait for punches to come and get hit a few times before I start firing back and going on the offensive.

How do I go about getting over these issues. It's a boxing gym. It's a sport. You hit people. You get hit. How do I take the personal feelings out of the equation?

Unfortunately this un-easiness is something I suffer from in any social event, or in groups of big people.

Thank you in advance!

Its like that with any new place you go to and your meeting new people, once you get to know people your be fine. I was the same too when i started boxing, and also when i first started high school.

And i haven't got anxiety, but i was shitting bricks both times. Because you feel unsure and your not comfortable with people you don't know or new surrondings. Its just human nature.

Your be fine and in the end your be thinking to yourself, what the hell was i worrying about in the first place, good luck bro.

[Andre]

I always find if I think "This is fukkin great" and smile to myself slightly on the outer but mostly inside behind my eyes (if you can get that meaning); It disappears real fast,as the brain takes the que from the smile muscles and the intent, instead of the usual other way around where the smile comes last.
Great when in a fearful situation. Works well in big surf. Its also relaxing so you conserve breath and energy as well.

[southpawwolves]

I too suffered with this at first but eventually realised everyone was in the same boat at one point and luckily for me everyone I've asked or has saw me struggling have been very helpful

[southpawwolves]

I too suffered with this at first but eventually realised everyone was in the same boat at one point and luckily for me everyone I've asked or has saw me struggling have been very helpful

[HerbM]

Everybody wrote 'good stuff' here but the key is that this is still going on after two years, and it is still significant enough to get BigSkinny87 to post asking for help.

Also, he had most of the 'right attitude' stuff expressed in his own initial post.

So here is a different idea: Go find an "NLP Therapist" -- someone who advertises as using Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Ask the therapist UP FRONT, "How long will this take?" If they answer isn't something like "20 minutes or you don't have to pay me" find a different therapist.


Ok, the answer might be "Two sessions, and if we haven't solved your problem I will help you find a different therapist."

Good NLP Therapists help people remove such issues all the time -- and they are confident enough to offer money back guarantees (or else they are not "good enough" in my estimation.)

Alternatively, you could take an NLP "practitioner" course -- during which you will get enough "accidentally therapy" (hey, everybody has to practice the techniques with a partner) AND you will ge the tools to help yourself with many problems.

Really.

--
Herb

[the killer]

Herb, i have never heard of that(npl) will you tell us how to find such a person?