Someone mentioned that nuce guys loose out to Bad boys and I've recently developed my own theory on this from a female perspective so I'm going to sum it up.
Everyone knows women like confidence - myself included and it has often annoyed me to not find myself attracted to the nice shy guy. I didn't understand how it could possibly be a good thing because it's so easy to mistake arrogance from real confidence.
Last weekend I met a 30 year old guy (friend of a friend) who was nice and quiet but the killer was that he was also so very insecure. Just too easily hurt and emotionally breakable. You feel like you are walking on egg shells all the time to avoid hurting anyone's feelings.
This guy was so insecure he seriously told me all about how when he was 3 years old his younger sister (who was 18 months old at the time) pushed him out of a peddlecar he got for his birthday. He seriously cited this incident (that most people surely could not even remember) as a reason to hate his sister's guts nearly 3 decades later! How can you win with someone so sensitive who holds onto crap like that?!?
That's why I say you don't want to be too romantic now because you are obviously a fantastic friend, she knows you like and respect her so now you'll be most likely to benefit from her feeling like you are not too emotionally breakable to enjoy the early stages of a relationship so she can explore how things work between you as a couple without fearing loosing you as a friend if things go wrong. It's not that you did the wrong thing just that if you continued to do it after doing it so well to begin with it might not help. You could easily do that again when things have progressed to a more stable level.
Am I making any sense? Just looking hot around her now is a good thing and as a fit young guy that probably doesn't require a lot of effort! good luck

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