How do you talk to Chicks at the Gym?

[DAVIDTUA]

The way you have described the women why would you even worry about their reaction. There not the type you would want a long term relationship with as they sound very shallow. That should put you at ease and therefore you would not give a toss if they turn you away.

10 pts from me to you buddy!

that was realness and well said

[DAVIDTUA]

You could stand in front of them and mouth words and point and be expression full and when they take their ear plugs out you keep going; mouthing nothing ,then smile and say 'I just wanted to meet you ,"hi Im Tua mon your free guide to to the city this afternoon".

ahah.. i thought this was a silly thread until i read this.. reminded me of this one time i was with my buddy and we were working out at the college weight room..

and this girl was working out, real cute, and she had a t-shirt on of my favorite band.. which isn't a largely popular band, so i was impressed.. and i finally got the balls to just mention "hey, nice shirt"..

and she just looks at me weird.. and i say it again.. then she finally TAKES HER HEADPHONES off, and is like "what did you say?"

yeah.. felt like a moron in front of everyone.. it was just supposed to be a smooth casual compliment heh..

10pts to u my friend!

i feel exactly like that as well what makes it worse is u add the fact that this is LA aka the most stuck up/materialistic/gold diggin/ evil bitchez in the world and its like to the 10th power LOL

[DAVIDTUA]

I don't know if someone else has already written this because I only had time to read half the responses. I agree with Hitmandonny's approach - Hi and Bye is good to begin with coz it's not overly sleazy I'm trying to get into your pants kinda thing.

Then as time goes on and you find there are a few who do not sticj their noses in the air and say hi back - they are the ones to approach. Chances are they're not all rich and stuck up.

Chances are there are a few girls like you who feel really out of place in such pretentious snobby surroundings and they're the ones you wanna go for. They'll be more fun and less expensive!

Like Andre says don't try to be someone you're not. Maybe girls who are really zoned out actually want to be left alone after a full days work etc and are not in an approachable place mentally. Get a feel for this with the hi and bye thing and just leave the stressed out ones be unless you can open with really humourous lines which make them feel like they can let their hair down around you.

10pts from me to you sharla!

i thank you for your kind words and support. i do agree i tend to approach the girls who appear to be "transplants" meaning they are only living out here to go to school or work, not the ones who are wannabe actresses/models.

[DAVIDTUA]

Ontario Mills. It's a good mall.

Victoria Gardens is better.

LOL i never even really been to either the only times i even really see them is if im going to and from palm springs or vegas LOL

i do hear that theres a shitload of hot chicks in the 951(temecula/murrieta/lake elsenore) all of sudden? ironic huh bud?

I grew up in Temecula. It's a conservative town. I went to high school there. They do have lots of hot chicks.

buddy you dont even know how many times i got a digit from the most smokin hottie chick in the club in LA or SD and it turned out to be a 951 number LOL

i tried to rep ya but it said i have to wait.

but yeah my buddy just bought a house due to all the forclosures in lake elsenore its right north of temecula and u best believe ill be there alot this summer trying to do my summertime damage on those 951 beauties lol

[DAVIDTUA]

i was thinking about complimenting their work out attire like if its nike or whatever but it kinda wouldnt make sense really unless it was a unisex brand like nike. if it was like just some female brand that doesnt make mens gear it would appear fake IMO dont u think?

That's true, they might think it's alittle fruity for a guy to have an opinion on female attire. Like Clubber mentioned earlier in the thread, the snub is the ultimate power move. If you start out by ignoring a girl, and by ignoring I mean being RIGHT next to them and not even looking in their direction, they'll immediately have more respect for you than those puppies who drool over them and immediately in their mind (especially if they're hot) start to wonder why this guy's not checking me out. Only after you have executed this snub move can you begin to talk to the girl the following time(days, or even weeks later). And it's easy. Just start out by pretending you're gonna use the same machine or bench she was just using and when you think she's just finished, say 'are you still working here?' If her response is friendly, start with small talk. If it's a quick, cold answer, abort mission, she's a stuck up skank.

11pts from me to you buddy!
its funny i often tell the girls in the club nice jeans, i wish they made mens jeans as nice as those and it actually worked LOL.

i tried the ignore the girl approach last thurs and i was hoping to ignore her in the club and then appear natural to walk out right before or after her, but she some how left without me catching up to her LOL

[DAVIDTUA]

As I said, I thought about this one at work today (yes I have a boring job), so get your pen ready.

The Gym is a PERFECT place for "social proof".
Women have been programed to subconsciously analyze situations for 100,000's of years... Women may look like they are zoned into their workout and ignoring everything (to avoid people interupting them), but if you went and asked any one of them, they could immediately point out every single attractive girl and high status guy in the whole place.. Even if she doesn't know how, her mind automatically knows these things...
If a high status guy came walking into a tribe 10,000 years ago, the women would automatically be able to tell just by how other people are reacting to them and the vibe the put out..

Here's the best things you can do.

1. Take a lady friend to work out with you... Better yet, take 2 or 3. Even if you have to pay for them to get in yourself, it'll do wonders for your social status just having a couple of girls talking to you a fair bit while your in the gym... Don't hang over the machine's while they are exercising.. Do your own thing, and try as much as you can to have them hanging over YOUR machine. Even if they aren't hugely attractive and other women in the gym feel like they are more attractive than your girls, it will still trigger their "social proof" gene, which tells them that "hey, that guy has girls around him that seem to like him.. Obviously he is safe and not some weird murderer".. They may also feel a little jelous, consiously or unconsiously that those girls are getting attention from you and they aren't.
A HUGE thing of women being attracted to men is knowing that they have other women in their life, and that other women accept you.

2. Make friends with as many guys in the gym as possible.. Say hi to them all the time, work in with them on different machines, ask for advice from them, give them advice.. Basically just be really friendly with as many guys as possible. Especially the ones that YOU perceive as high status.
When you walk into the gym and 50% of the guys in their say Hi to you as you walk through, girls are going to notice this and it says a TONNE of good things about you... 1) you are socially adapt 2) other men accept you 3) you have a big social circle, which women are wired to appreciate (back 10,000 years ago, a big social circle meant increased chances of survival 4) helping other guys out shows your a bit of a leader.. A leader of men is a HUGELY attractive quality, showing you in a "alpha male" light.

3. Make friends with ALL the staff at the gym. Apart from the huge roid heads, the gym staff and instructors are the next people on the social totem pole in the gym... If you walk in and are chatting and saying Hi to all the instructors, again it's showing a TONNE of good things.

4. Especially make friends with the female instructors. Ask them for help often and then while they are showing you, ask them how their night is going etc etc. Lean back in your machine and have them look like they are the ones eager to talk to you. This is conveying to all the other women in the gym that other high status women see value in you.

5. If eventually you do have other women talking to you, don't stand next to them while they work out like you are "gaming them", try to create the situation as often as possible where you are working out, and they look like they are gaming you.


It might take a couple of weeks to build up a good friendly relationship with most of the guys and staff at the gym, and convince a female friend or 2 to come with you to the gym,,,, but once you get all this happening, TRUST ME, women in the gym WILL have noticed you.. And will actually think about you on occassions during their workout, and will be PLEASED that you say hello to them.. Their brains will be like "hey, this high status guy is talking to me, I better say hi to him"...
As apposed to just being a quiet loner in the gym that doesn't talk to anyone, then suddenly you come up and say hi to a girl out of the blue, and she feels like "oh my god, what is this weird guy coming up and talking to me for.. Is everyone watching? This is embarrassing getting hit on like this"

Another thing is, girls are VERY in tuned to their surroundings... If she has already seen that everyone else around accepts you and is okay with you talking to them, she will automatically accept and be okay with you too.. She will feel comfortable also that everyone else is seeing you talk to her, and would feel dumb NOT being nice and social with you.. She'll feel dumb and alienated if she DOESN'T try to get along with you..

As apposed to you never talking to anyone, then when you talk to her, she will immediately feel like her value is getting lowered to below everyone else in the gym just by talking to you... She'll feel like she's being judged by everyone...
If you are a person everyone talks to, she will want to do the same..

Trust me, these points are HUGGGGGEEEEEE, and will absolutely be the difference between the girl having the immediate urge to either accept you, or reject you... It's that simple..!

Get ALL these going, and girls will WANT to meet you.. A LOT will often look at you (you'll notice, trust me), and you might even have a couple say hello to you..

Good luck buddy!

11pts to the MASTER!
thanks buddy!

i already started making new friends with the dudes and the staff and i already have them on my good side so it does work actually. i noticed when i was dropping my work advice on these two new guys i met the girls in the room were eaves dropping in and seeing wow this guy knows what hes talking about. i also notice one of my "targets" was taking notice to me schooling these two on what they were asking me about.

i made friends with the staff who told me the best hours and days to come in for the chicks!

all great ideas buddy!

[Salty]

Some great tips there buddy, I think the post where you listed the numbers from 1 to 7 about how hard it is the main problem for you, i've heard this a thousand times and it seems to work... "treat a princess like a whore, and a whore like a princess" This doesn't mean going and slapping them around, but making you look better than them. But that has all been covered by the master, I'll be trying my luck tonight haha

Good lucky brother, but with the advice so far you wont need it.