Give me some training for my mission..

[Dizaster]

Well it's only 2 weeks minus 1 day until my holidays officially start.

And along with my holidays starting, so does my mission to approach at least 10 girls or groups of girls a day and start a conversation with them. I have been intending to do this for the past year and a half but have constantly put it off or found reasons why now is not the time. But the 20th of October IS the time....

I now wish that I had maybe trained physically and got myself into some sort of shape that I could be proud of so that my confidence would be higher approaching these girls. But unfortunately 2 weeks is not enough time to get anyone in shape. So I just have to accept that short coming..

But with the date looming and growing extraordinarily closer with every single day that passes, I feel like I should be doing something to prepare... Like a fighter preparing himself for his biggest fight. He's done all the training and learnt all his technique, but he's going to use those last 2 weeks to make sure everything is 100% so that on the day, he is as sharp as a nail..

Right now I feel about as sharp as a glob of mustard... I can't shake the feeling that this shit isn't going to be pretty.. My metaphorical image the 20th of October conjures is something similar to a train heading down the tracks one way, and another train heading towards it from the other direction.. And i'm totally helpless tied to the tracks right in the middle of them...

Anyone have any preparation advice or thoughts that may inspire me to be in better shape come Oct 20th?? (the day i'll probably be handcuffed and escorted from a shopping mall for harassing lovely innocent female shoppers)

[Kev]

Well it may be too late to get into perfect physical shape in two weeks but its certainly not too late to start training.

I'd take up weights and running at least and start eating healthily.

It may not make a huge difference by October 20 (although you will feel better) but you'll certainly be two weeks closer to looking good a few weeks down the line, and you're planning on doing this for 5 weeks so at least you could look great by the end.

Plus you'll need to be in good shape to cope with the physical demands and stress of this exercise.

Good luck Dizaster, I'm sure you'll be fine. Just make your first approaches low key, like a friendly word and then walk on, or make a funny comment and then walk on.

I wouldn't worry too much about trying to start face to face conversation for the first week or so, it might be a bit too intimidating and end up being awkward for both parties.

Just build up gradually so that each individual day is in and of itself not too demanding.

You'll be ok, and of course you can share all your embarrassment here at least

[Chris Nagel]

You get into a talkative state by what else-- talking. Don't think too much about the first approach, be loose and just have fun with it. After that it should just come natural.

If there's any public gatherings, say a wedding, party, whatever, go for it. I've found it so much easier because everyone's talkative, and in a good mood. You can small talk your way at first and then just have a conversation.

Good luck.

[Gandalf]

What Bilbo said was good advice. Ive been exercising and eating a little more properly since leaving my job and Im feeling a lot better about myself. Only been a short time but it makes the world of difference.

As for the talking to women part. Well, thats beyond me. I havent spoken to women in a long time. Well, not in that way. The possible chatting up kind of way. The price I pay for marrying young, I guess.

Again Bilbo's advice seemed pretty sage. Just start with simple interaction and take it day by day. The prequel to doing anything is always the hardest part, because of the unknown factor and all those doubts echoing around your head.

A little faith is what you want.

[Steelie]

The key is to aim low.

Get stuck into as many big units and munters as you can.

They're glad of the attention and will do anything for a bite of your kebab.









That is all.

[CFH]

Confidence, real or feigned, is the key.

Also, putting a balled up pair of socks down your pants probably wouldn't hurt either.

[Salty]

You get into a talkative state by what else-- talking. Don't think too much about the first approach, be loose and just have fun with it. After that it should just come natural.

If there's any public gatherings, say a wedding, party, whatever, go for it. I've found it so much easier because everyone's talkative, and in a good mood. You can small talk your way at first and then just have a conversation.

Good luck.

I don't think there is better advice than this my friend, talk to everyone. The point where you start discriminating who you talk to is the day you place a higher value on the chick you are talking to. You would know this just puts you in her frame, which is not attractive. Catch the bus, talk to the old man/lady in the priority seat, talk to schitzo at the train station, just let your mouth run and your brain will eventually learn it's place.

Good luck, maybe listen to the blueprint again, check out this guy's blog it reminds me where my head should be sometimes. Real Social Dynamics - Alex Attitude Blog Archive Back to Basics: Hook Questions, the New Stuff.

Most of all mate, enjoy yourself, it's the start of a new life for yourself

[Dizaster]

Thanks all.. I'm taking everyone's advice... Healthy body, healthy mind - So i'm going to do a bit of exercise and try to eat better over the next few weeks. There has been times in the past where I have been regularly exercising and i've felt great all round.
I'm also going to listen to RSD blueprint again. I just started listening to it today, and remembered my blog I wrote a few months back about not being phased by a girls reality or looks etc. So I went back and read that and that gave me a bit of a boost. Because I have a really bad tendency to put girls on pedestals when most probably havn't earned half the credit and adoration I give them.
I've also decided to really take small steps. I've got all the pickup theory and structure in my head, but I think i'm just going to try to forget about all that. At least at the start and the first few days. My first day will just be about walking up to girls and opening my mouth. I'm not going to worry about trying to impress them or keep them in a conversation or anything. Just getting a girls attention a few times during that day will be a big step forward.
Once I get past a day, and have found that I can get a girls attention on me without her running off in terror, then i'll look at ways of keeping her interest for 10 more seconds etc...

I'm starting to get a little excited about it now.... There is this super super super hot red head girl at my work that I see every day, and she is extremely inspiring to me wanting to get out and have a chance at meeting girls like this..



reps all round after I have dinner..

[Shamrock]

Mate I know where you are coming from. I was sooooo bad at talking to girls when I was at school. Just made a total mess of it. Two things helped - I started boxing and that built up my self confidence and then when I started work at 17 I was put into an office with about 75 women... it was sink or swim and luckily I swam Just be relaxed and go for it - it's like everything else the more you do it the easier it gets.

Good Luck fella

[JT Rock]

Read the Book.. I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell By Tucker Max

TuckerMax.com The guy and his exploits will really help you navigate thru talking to woman and how to get what you want out of them..

They are a collection of stories that will make you laugh and vever look at woman the same

[Sharla]

I have to admit the whole concept of your mission doesn't complete gel with me but since it's not like you're hiding anything from your girlfriend and she obviously approves since she's driving you to it I have no reason to really be against it -

Ok I have a feeling I will get replies detailing some in depth how to pick up girls guide saying you already know what your strategy is but just in case you haven't thought about it:

Have an excuse - like needing directions, where to buy something, asking the time etc etc since we're all pretty much told not to trust unknown guys who approach us and without some 'safe' alterior reason for making an initial approach you'll put girls on guard immediately.

I'm not really sure how big you are in person but if you look physically capable of over-powering people or have tatoos or anything which signals not being incapable of handling yourself in a rumble this is especially true. Sure it can be a selling point but if you don't make it non- threatening to start with it'll work against you.

[Andre]

Mate, just make sure you have already had a root before you leave each day and your relaxed and set up for a great day whatever happens. Should I pm you my number in case you need bail?