Thread: I Think It's a Bad Idea, but Tell My Wife That

A couple days ago, my wife and I were coming home from work. She told me about a female co-worker who she is friendly with getting upset with her husband because she has been trying to lose weight and her husband said something about he was about to go work out. For some reason, I don't know what, this was upsetting. But my wife advised her to have him watch their daughter during a time she knew he wanted to go exercise. I think that's a wee bit petty, but regardless of whether or not it was good advice, I think it's bad policy for a woman to be advising another woman about what she should be doing in her marriage. To me it just has too much potential to blow up in your face, especially if you are friends with the person. I think the best thing to do is listen and nod in agreement to whatever they say. Maybe if you're good friends you can tell the person they have done something wrong if they have, but don't tell the person what they should or shouldn't be doing in their relationship. I know I would not respond positively if my wife, in mid-argument, said something like, "Sylvia said I should blah-blah-blah." First, I'd be pissed she was talking about our business with other people. Second, I'd be calling up Sylvia to give her a piece of my mind and advising her to butt the hell out my business. I think something like this could happen to my wife if she continues to feel the necessity of being an advisor in such an inappropriate fashion. What say you guys?

Originally Posted by Killface

A couple days ago, my wife and I were coming home from work. She told me about a female co-worker who she is friendly with getting upset with her husband because she has been trying to lose weight and her husband said something about he was about to go work out. For some reason, I don't know what, this was upsetting. But my wife advised her to have him watch their daughter during a time she knew he wanted to go exercise. I think that's a wee bit petty, but regardless of whether or not it was good advice, I think it's bad policy for a woman to be advising another woman about what she should be doing in her marriage. To me it just has too much potential to blow up in your face, especially if you are friends with the person. I think the best thing to do is listen and nod in agreement to whatever they say. Maybe if you're good friends you can tell the person they have done something wrong if they have, but don't tell the person what they should or shouldn't be doing in their relationship. I know I would not respond positively if my wife, in mid-argument, said something like, "Sylvia said I should blah-blah-blah." First, I'd be pissed she was talking about our business with other people. Second, I'd be calling up Sylvia to give her a piece of my mind and advising her to butt the hell out my business. I think something like this could happen to my wife if she continues to feel the necessity of being an advisor in such an inappropriate fashion. What say you guys?

Dont lose sleep over the situation bud.Talk is always cheap,action speaks louder than words!Just be reasonable.50/50 between men and women.

Originally Posted by Killface

A couple days ago, my wife and I were coming home from work. She told me about a female co-worker who she is friendly with getting upset with her husband because she has been trying to lose weight and her husband said something about he was about to go work out. For some reason, I don't know what, this was upsetting. But my wife advised her to have him watch their daughter during a time she knew he wanted to go exercise. I think that's a wee bit petty, but regardless of whether or not it was good advice, I think it's bad policy for a woman to be advising another woman about what she should be doing in her marriage. To me it just has too much potential to blow up in your face, especially if you are friends with the person. I think the best thing to do is listen and nod in agreement to whatever they say. Maybe if you're good friends you can tell the person they have done something wrong if they have, but don't tell the person what they should or shouldn't be doing in their relationship. I know I would not respond positively if my wife, in mid-argument, said something like, "Sylvia said I should blah-blah-blah." First, I'd be pissed she was talking about our business with other people. Second, I'd be calling up Sylvia to give her a piece of my mind and advising her to butt the hell out my business. I think something like this could happen to my wife if she continues to feel the necessity of being an advisor in such an inappropriate fashion. What say you guys?

Mate all I can say is women are funny things. Who knows how their minds work seriously.

She took offense becuase he said he wanted to work out? I guess in her mind that was him calling her a fat slob or something

Best thing to do is just roll your eyes, shrug and feign interest in this pointless banality but internally just be thinking about the football.

I really don't care about her co-worker being angry. I just think it's bad policy to advise women on what they should be doing within the confines of their own relationship. I'd shit a brick if a friend of my wife's did that.

I dont think its a bad idea to seek or give advise even in a relationship,I do think that particular piece of advice was really petty and short sighted though. What purpose does sticking him with the kid every time he wants to work out serve.
Did your wifes friend get in any better shape?
Did the husband,not get denied doing something for his own self improvement?

Giving advice when its asked isnt a problem,everybody could use some at some point,this particular piece of advice wasnt particularly helpful

Spiteful, you are absolutely right. I guess I don't think advice per se is that big of a deal, but in matters of conflict I wouldn't do it. If a friend asked me what gift they should buy for a mate or where they should go for vacation. But you-should-do-this-because-he-did-that is stuff I wouldn't touch.

Originally Posted by Killface

A couple days ago, my wife and I were coming home from work. She told me about a female co-worker who she is friendly with getting upset with her husband because she has been trying to lose weight and her husband said something about he was about to go work out. For some reason, I don't know what, this was upsetting. But my wife advised her to have him watch their daughter during a time she knew he wanted to go exercise. I think that's a wee bit petty, but regardless of whether or not it was good advice, I think it's bad policy for a woman to be advising another woman about what she should be doing in her marriage. To me it just has too much potential to blow up in your face, especially if you are friends with the person. I think the best thing to do is listen and nod in agreement to whatever they say. Maybe if you're good friends you can tell the person they have done something wrong if they have, but don't tell the person what they should or shouldn't be doing in their relationship. I know I would not respond positively if my wife, in mid-argument, said something like, "Sylvia said I should blah-blah-blah." First, I'd be pissed she was talking about our business with other people. Second, I'd be calling up Sylvia to give her a piece of my mind and advising her to butt the hell out my business. I think something like this could happen to my wife if she continues to feel the necessity of being an advisor in such an inappropriate fashion. What say you guys?

you do get that you are doing the same thing you are complaining about your wife doing right:P?

Originally Posted by Preme

Originally Posted by Killface

A couple days ago, my wife and I were coming home from work. She told me about a female co-worker who she is friendly with getting upset with her husband because she has been trying to lose weight and her husband said something about he was about to go work out. For some reason, I don't know what, this was upsetting. But my wife advised her to have him watch their daughter during a time she knew he wanted to go exercise. I think that's a wee bit petty, but regardless of whether or not it was good advice, I think it's bad policy for a woman to be advising another woman about what she should be doing in her marriage. To me it just has too much potential to blow up in your face, especially if you are friends with the person. I think the best thing to do is listen and nod in agreement to whatever they say. Maybe if you're good friends you can tell the person they have done something wrong if they have, but don't tell the person what they should or shouldn't be doing in their relationship. I know I would not respond positively if my wife, in mid-argument, said something like, "Sylvia said I should blah-blah-blah." First, I'd be pissed she was talking about our business with other people. Second, I'd be calling up Sylvia to give her a piece of my mind and advising her to butt the hell out my business. I think something like this could happen to my wife if she continues to feel the necessity of being an advisor in such an inappropriate fashion. What say you guys?

you do get that you are doing the same thing you are complaining about your wife doing right:P?

No, I'm not. First, this wasn't an argument between us in the least. It had nothing to do with me. It's simply something she told me about. Second, I'm not seeking advice. I know how I feel about the situation SHE (not me) is involved in and that it is something I wouldn't do.

Women, can't live with them. Can't live without them.

Originally Posted by Killface

A couple days ago, my wife and I were coming home from work. She told me about a female co-worker who she is friendly with getting upset with her husband because she has been trying to lose weight and her husband said something about he was about to go work out. For some reason, I don't know what, this was upsetting. But my wife advised her to have him watch their daughter during a time she knew he wanted to go exercise. I think that's a wee bit petty, but regardless of whether or not it was good advice, I think it's bad policy for a woman to be advising another woman about what she should be doing in her marriage. To me it just has too much potential to blow up in your face, especially if you are friends with the person. I think the best thing to do is listen and nod in agreement to whatever they say. Maybe if you're good friends you can tell the person they have done something wrong if they have, but don't tell the person what they should or shouldn't be doing in their relationship. I know I would not respond positively if my wife, in mid-argument, said something like, "Sylvia said I should blah-blah-blah." First, I'd be pissed she was talking about our business with other people. Second, I'd be calling up Sylvia to give her a piece of my mind and advising her to butt the hell out my business. I think something like this could happen to my wife if she continues to feel the necessity of being an advisor in such an inappropriate fashion. What say you guys?

When I first read that sentence I was like "Oh SNAP! I smell a three-way story!" Then I read through and saddened at the thought that it wasn't

Either way, I'm with you. Let the married couple deal with their own problems. Imagine if they got a divorce over advice someone gave them?!

Originally Posted by C-Lo

Originally Posted by Killface

A couple days ago, my wife and I were coming home from work. She told me about a female co-worker who she is friendly with getting upset with her husband because she has been trying to lose weight and her husband said something about he was about to go work out. For some reason, I don't know what, this was upsetting. But my wife advised her to have him watch their daughter during a time she knew he wanted to go exercise. I think that's a wee bit petty, but regardless of whether or not it was good advice, I think it's bad policy for a woman to be advising another woman about what she should be doing in her marriage. To me it just has too much potential to blow up in your face, especially if you are friends with the person. I think the best thing to do is listen and nod in agreement to whatever they say. Maybe if you're good friends you can tell the person they have done something wrong if they have, but don't tell the person what they should or shouldn't be doing in their relationship. I know I would not respond positively if my wife, in mid-argument, said something like, "Sylvia said I should blah-blah-blah." First, I'd be pissed she was talking about our business with other people. Second, I'd be calling up Sylvia to give her a piece of my mind and advising her to butt the hell out my business. I think something like this could happen to my wife if she continues to feel the necessity of being an advisor in such an inappropriate fashion. What say you guys?

When I first read that sentence I was like "Oh SNAP! I smell a three-way story!" Then I read through and saddened at the thought that it wasn't

Either way, I'm with you. Let the married couple deal with their own problems. Imagine if they got a divorce over advice someone gave them?!

i thought the same thing!! ahahah..

anyway, agree that that was a strange bit of advice to give someone..

anyway, i'd love for the girl i marry to be in great shape, and to more or less stay that way.. i know that isn't really the topic here, but if you're going to spend the rest of your life with someone, you shouldn't cease satisfying their wants/needs so long as it is within reason..

Originally Posted by Killface

A couple days ago, my wife and I were coming home from work. She told me about a female co-worker who she is friendly with getting upset with her husband because she has been trying to lose weight and her husband said something about he was about to go work out. For some reason, I don't know what, this was upsetting. But my wife advised her to have him watch their daughter during a time she knew he wanted to go exercise. I think that's a wee bit petty, but regardless of whether or not it was good advice, I think it's bad policy for a woman to be advising another woman about what she should be doing in her marriage. To me it just has too much potential to blow up in your face, especially if you are friends with the person. I think the best thing to do is listen and nod in agreement to whatever they say. Maybe if you're good friends you can tell the person they have done something wrong if they have, but don't tell the person what they should or shouldn't be doing in their relationship. I know I would not respond positively if my wife, in mid-argument, said something like, "Sylvia said I should blah-blah-blah." First, I'd be pissed she was talking about our business with other people. Second, I'd be calling up Sylvia to give her a piece of my mind and advising her to butt the hell out my business. I think something like this could happen to my wife if she continues to feel the necessity of being an advisor in such an inappropriate fashion. What say you guys?

I have to agree with you on your point but you have to remember women are not like us and they feel the need to tell other owmen their problems and seek their advice...

No harm in giving advice but she should pick and choose her words...especially in situations like the one you described...could end up coming back on her because we all know even though she only gave her opinion and it was not her trying to make trouble,,,,other people like to blame others for problems and it would be an out to take the blame off her self and just say "I should not have taken so and so's advivce she is a trouble maker"

Daxx, you are a very wise sage...

Originally Posted by CutMeMick

Women, can't live with them. Can't live without them.

And down south..
" cant live with em ,no open season on em."

If you could buy women for what they were worth and sell them for what they thought they were worth you would be a rich man.